How many of you have criticized a parent for spanking in public?

Question

Don't you think you are doing more harm than good? Do you actually think you know better than the parent? Did you know that spanking is NOT illegal?

I am not talking about parents that physically beat their children to a pulp. I am talking about the parents that spank their children for misbehaving.

I am so sick of people saying that they call the cops when they see children being punished.

Answer 1

I never have.

What I HAVE done many times, is wonder why in the world a parent DOESN'T bust their kid's butt.... so often you see kids being absolute monsters and the parents not doing a thing.

Answer 2

I have never, and I dare anyone to criticize me for handling my child the way I see fit.

I did, however, once see a woman whipping a baby on a changing table in the ladies room with the strap of her purse and you better believe I called security as did another woman who saw it as well. But that is not spanking; that was abuse and the child couldn't have been more than 6 or 7 months old.

Answer 3

I don't criticize the actual spanking, but I don't necessarily agree with doing in front of complete strangers. That is humiliating for the child as well as the parent. Same goes for yelling and belittling the child in front of others. Humiliation is more abusive than a good old-fashioned spanking...

Answer 4

Never. I ahve been the wacked-out parent (and hormones were involved, unbeknownst to any of us) who has done her best to stop yellinga nd screaming- did I hit him in public- I must have, once or twice, but a slap at most.
Anyway,
I have been the parent with no other recourse...
but really, the worst damage you're doing is psychological.
The spanking is pretty bad.
But undermining a parent in front of the child can be WORSE.
The part of the child that is rightfully indignant and hurt can become overgrown and just HATE the parent, who may be right in the end.
And then again,
the child may want to PROTECT the parent from any and all judgment by others- I can talk about my own mother but YOU better not say a word.
So, you end up with not only an embarrassed child, but a child who is confused, and whose identity through parent-identification actually becomes attacked by outside criticism.
Better to let it be.
If there is that much abuse, then the effects will be seen and caught (hopefully) by the teacher, the aunt, etc.

Answer 5

NEVER! Kids need to know who is boss! When I was a kid is was enough for my dad to say if I didn't stop what I was doing we were going to the car. I knew that meant I was gonna get my butt spanked! You can't control when your kids are going to act up so you have to do something about it right then and there!

On the other hand I have wondered why parents don't control there kids!

Answer 6

My perosnl opinion is Im completely PRO spanking. NOT beating just spanking (bottom only) no slapping or anything like that. That is how I was raised, and I turned out very disciplined. I think that people that actually have enough odasity to get involved in other peoples parenting, obviousely are not very good parents themselves. So yes the people that are trying to parent our children makes me nuts.

Answer 7

I'm sick of everyone being in everyone else's business, to be honest. Let me raise my children and you raise yours. I don't criticize other parents because I know I'm not perfect!!

Answer 8

I'm sick of that too. If I see a parent spanking in public, I applaud them. That's what's wrong with kids these days, the parents are so scared to discipline them. If I spanked my son and somebody had the nerve to say something, I'd just laugh and walk away.

Answer 9

i'm with you. actually, there have been quite a few times when i wished parents would take control of their kids in stores. sometimes i hear a parent tap their little one on the butt and think, good for you.

Answer 10

No, I haven't. But all of these people who are against it need to let it be. This is not abuse nor will it cause lifelong trauma. I just mind my own business when I see it happen. Maybe alot of you should to.

Answer 11

I spanked my child at a JC Pennys one day because my son bit me in the face when I bent down to tell him to stop doing something. I was getting all these nasty looks and one woman told me I was a trashy mother. Screw them, they didn't know what was going on, and besides if their child bit them and they didn't do anything about it, they are idiots! But, that was the only time I have ever spanked my child in public. I don't spank much at home either. Only when I really want to get the point across to him as a last resort. I prefer time outs most of the time.