My brother is 19 and was arrested yesterday and is in jail becuase my paents won't pay bond to get him released. It's not that much - $600 - but they say they are trying to teach him a lesson but this is his first time in trouble.
I'm 21 and been there twice - once for 30 days and once for 6 months - and know what it's like and I don't think it's right that they want to leave him there. I'm trying to get the cash together for him.
2007-04-10 04:14:48 · 14 answers · asked by Jamie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah, DUI and they want to do him for resisting arrest too but not sure on that.
I did 30 days for the same thing so he knows the score but I had previous and he doesn't.
2007-04-10 04:39:58 · update #1
Sometimes people have to learn the hard way. Your parents are doing what they feel is best. Plus your brother is an adult and they are NOT required to help him.
My husband is in prison due to prior drug use because he was unable to get help. However, his family and I are there for him, but we also understand he needs to go through this for himself because no one else can do it for him.
We sometimes have to hit rock bottom before we are able to start climbing out of the hole we created. Once we realize we need help, hopefully our family and friends will be there to help us. Until then, he needs to figure out what he needs to do for himself and accept his punishment.
2007-04-10 05:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are doing the right thing by not bonding him out - I'm going to guess it's for something like a DUI.
He's 19 and not their responsibility any longer. He has to grow up and that means respecting and obeying the law whether you agree with it or not.
You will not be helping him by bonding him out. But, if you insist, call a bail bondsman and pay them $60 to post the $600 if you feel that strongly about it. Don't expect to get the money back as it is their fee.
2007-04-10 04:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think its good that they are leaving him for a while to learn his lesson. I'm not being critical but it sounds as if you didn't learn yours the first time. Just look at it this way: You know what's it's like in jail. If you parents had made you stay for awhile, would you have been as likely to go back. Do you want the "jailed" life for you brother. Let them teach him his lesson. I'm sure they aren't going to leave him there. They are just letting him think they are.
2007-04-10 04:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by just being helpful 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, it would depend on the personality of the kid. If he is defiant and into trouble too much - I'd let him stay. He needs to understand the consequences of his choices in order to straighten up. However, if it was a one time thing and he is not that bad of a kid, the arrest might be enough to scare him and I would probably bail him out. In that case, though, he would have to know that if it happened again - he is definitely on his own.
2007-04-10 04:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dear Would you post bond for a son in jail?:
I think that your parents love your brother to life...not to death. i truly believe that your parents decision although a hard and painful one is a good one in the long run. Even if it is his first time, let it be the first time he learns too, that when mistakes are made you got to pay the price. I admire your parents fro such decision. he'll think about it twice the next time. Your parents are doing something good by not enabling him.
Be proud of them!
god bless you....me
Brenda C. in Patillas, PR
2007-04-10 04:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by Brenda C 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please add to your question and explain WHY your brother is in jail. You don't have to give all the personal details, but before I decide whether or not he deserves bail, it would be helpful to know the severity of the charge against him. Also, it would help me to know what type of person he is. For example: would he be grateful to be bailed out and make an effort to change his ways? Or is he a jerk who'd take your bail for granted and go right back to whatever bad stuff he's been doing?
At any rate, good luck. It sounds like your brother is lucky to have a sibling like you. :)
2007-04-10 04:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by scary shari 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I definitely think its good that you're trying to get money together for him to get him out... I'm only 18, but I DON'T think its right for your parents to leave him in there... When you were in jail, did your parents bost bail for you? $600 isn't that much, but its not really that little either... I think if your rents were trying to teach him a lesson, then they should have left him there for ONE night, and then bailed him out. I would think that leaving him there until its time for his trial, or whatever, would only make him angrier once he got out. Also, if you know what its like, and you don't want him to have to deal with it, I think its great that you are trying to get him out... I don't think its a very good way to teach a lesson, I think what its really doing is saying, "We're mad at you and think what you did is wrong and we don't want to help you out because you screwed up." That's what I think it says... Really, he IS 19, so they should bail him out, let him know they will always be there for him and love him even when he screws up, but he IS 19 now and needs to be careful of the decisions he makes. Hope this helps...
2007-04-10 04:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by Hayden F. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you went to jail the first time did your parents bond you out? I am a parent and I feel like I would bond them out the first time. If they went back the second time I would let them learn the hard way. Though it would probably be as tuff on me as on them, I'm sure I would cry myself to sleep worrying about them. I commend you for trying to get him out on your own, just use caution that you do not make yourself his enabler.
2007-04-10 06:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i guess i would answer that depending on the crime he commited. teaching him a lesson is fine for a few days it wont hurt but if its not a serious problem then yes i would bail my child or best friend out. its no pool party in there. im sure he will have enough to pay for when he gets out. tell them to bail him out. and with all the over crowding the jail is doing right now, he needs to be released for our true criminals to pay their dues.
2007-04-10 04:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by shelly l 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he got himself in there, then he needs to get himself out. It is his problem and he will never learn or grow from it if he doesn't do this on his own, and maybe then he will think twice before doing whatever it is again that got himself in there or start paying tickets before they pile up.
2007-04-10 04:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by scareforce 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋