I was dating this girl before I joined the Air Force for a year. We were mad in love. She was 17 and I was 20. After I left for the Air Force we grew apart and I got married. During my marriage all I could do is think about the girl before the Air Force. It lead to my divorce 3 years later. The girl found me on myspace a few months after my divorce. We both had been thinking of each other the whole time we were apart. I am back home now. We have been seeing each other for about 4 months. Things for the most part are great. I asked her to commit to me, to be my girlfriend, or fianc'e. She says she does want to marry me... eventually, but right now the time isnt right. She says she loves me but needs to work out personal stuff first. I dont know what those issues are and she doesnt explain them to me. What could those possible issues be and why would the time not be right?
2007-04-10 03:26:59 · 9 answers · asked by spire8901 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's something only she can answer for you. Perhaps the bond you both shared before you left for the Air Force will always be there...and when she found out you were divorced and hooked up again with you...she is wondering why the rush to put a label on your relationship. 4months of getting to know someone again after a 3 yr period takes time to readjust. Like you said..you don't know what her troubles are and she isnt wanting to share that with you....right now. Also , perhaps you divorcing with your wife..she may feel...perhaps this is a rebound thing for you. People change over the years..you've grown up alot obviously...being in the force and then marrying....she doesn't want to make any mistakes with her life and perhaps is rethinking where your relationship together is going. She perhaps may not want to commit as you've broken her heart before when you left for the force and then married someone else. You can't expect too much at the moment with this girl......you may have thought you loved her and did at that time of your life...but as i've said...ppl change. GIve it time..and if you don't want to wait to see where this leads to...then you need to decide that and move on or wait until she's ready to tell you that she wants what you want or that she wants to move on without you. Communication Trust and Honesty are the keys to a long healthy relationship~
2007-04-10 03:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because of the fact that you are in the Airforce, and she doesn't agree with Long distance relationships.. or she's afraid that something will happen to you (dramatically) because of your career(airforce). Or maybe she's taken and can't decide whether she should commit to you or work things out with her current bf(if she has one) or ex. There are lots of possibilities. Just give it some time, and don't pressure her. You don't have to force yourself into marriage - It leads to quick divorces. She'll come around. If she happens not to be interested in you anymore, then just keep exploring, you'll find the right one someday! Good luck!
2007-04-10 03:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 12:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be making sure that you aren't going to leave her again. She was probably heart broken the first time and just wants some reassurance that you will always be there!
2007-04-10 04:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her issues could be anything, and "the time isn't right" means ask again in a couple months.
2007-04-10 03:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by lucianna_0317 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs time to be really sure it is her that you want.
She might be afraid you'll drift away again and she'll be hurt.
If you really love her, give her time, be yourself, show here how you really feel and what it means to you to be with her.
2007-04-10 03:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the issue is you from when you joined the service
2007-04-10 03:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait give her time she just needs to think it out if you do love her you can wait:)
2007-04-10 03:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by ~Bama sweetie~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her some time....
2007-04-10 03:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by <3 ...sEz... <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋