what punishment would you say was appropriate???

Question

if your 6yrold child was in a play park and started calling anouther child names, kicking them and then spat in there face what would you do?

sorry there not my kid but it was this 6yrold girl i saw when iwas sat in the play park theother day her mother said to her now that was naughtey and smacked her hand it didnt look hard then she started sobbing as they do if they get a smack and she picked her up and was saying odarling its ok im sorry i smacked your hand she didnt haveto appolagise or anything it was her mum saying to her o baby im sorry i was shocked if it was my kid i would have smacked her naked backside red and made her appolagise marche her home and sent her to her room

Answer 1

Spank him or her! Then make them appologize and tell them that it is wrong to do such. And for this Rebecca, GO HOME!! That is the problem with society today. Parents can't be the parents they want to be or need to be because of people like you. It seems now the government and idiots control parents now these days. If I were a teacher in a public school, I would fear for my life. Kids are bringing guns and knives to school. Why? Lack of discipline. If the teacher was still able to wave that old paddle around again their would be no knives or guns. It is a parents right to discipline. That is how we grow. How come you people don't go and yell at the military. I'm not saying that they beat their cadets but what they do is harsh enough to be considered abuse to someone under 18. Just my opinion. I say '' IF YOUR A PARENT, THEN DISCIPLINE HOW YOU SEE FIT TO GET CONTROLL OF A SITUATION''!

Answer 2

Nu-uhhhh.... oh heck no. After picking up my child and removing her immediately, I imagine my first comment to her would be Have You Lost Your Mind?!?!

She's 7...thankfully has never behaved that badly, but has hit a friend/cousin in frustration when younger.

A quick explanation of what was wrong (we don't call people names, and we NEVER KICK and who in the heck taught you to spit on somebody? That's a big huge no-no.... whatever needs to be said) would have to come first, immediately followed by apologies from my kid to the other kid, and also from me to his/her mother. She'd be done playing, period. Benched for the rest of the time at the park. And if we do know the child (not a child she just met that day at the park), I'd make her write a written apology to them as well.

And when she got home, and after I'd calmed down, some serious punishment would ensue. (Not a SPANKING, an actual thought out punishment.)

I can't imagine what would cause a parent to see their child do that and not step in.

Answer 3

While still in the park, get the child to say sorry to the other child, better if the other parent is around.

Once home you need to find the what has start this behavior. A child's attitude can be cause by many thing, the reaction in the park could be only the result of deeper things.

Was the child in the park smaller, weaker, female or male,white or black. The list is endless and your opening question dose not give much to make a good recommendation.

Answer 4

I'm amazed at all the people that say to spank the child right there and humiliate them. That's exactly what the child was imitating with the other child. Obviously profuse apologies to the parents and the child and very stern consequences for the child. But to spank them and humiliate them will only reinforce the very behavior you're punishing.

Diana H. has an awesome answer to this question. How refreshing to hear a complete solution to this! Check out her answer two answers below this one...

Answer 5

at 6 they know right from wrong or they should do. in this case the mother is in for one hell of a ride as the child gets older. rather them than me.
i would explain why it was wrong and maybe use family in an example.
make them go over to appologise
then take them home and explain why they had to leave the park and why they cant play out till tomorrow

my child isnt an angel but i would be disgusted to know my child could do that

Answer 6

When my six-year-old did this, I removed her from the situation quickly, took her to a quiet area of the park and we waited with each other while she calmed down to include splashing a little cool water on her face from the drinking fountain.

Once calm, I asked her what prompted her to act that way. She told me the other child threw sand at a younger child and wouldn't stop even after the younger child started to cry and she'd told the older child to stop.

I told her it was indeed bad for the child to have thrown sand at another child and that I would speak to the child's mother. Then I asked my daughter about other ways she could have dealt with the older child. She had many ideas, including throwing sand at him, biting him and kicking him. We discussed some of the reasons these ideas wouldn't work to include the kind of trouble she would get into trying out her ideas.

Finally she said she could come and tell me. I asked her why she didn't in the first place and she said it was because she didn't think I would do anything about it. I reassured her I would always do something about it. She told me about situations from then on.

I spoke to the mother of the older child about why my daughter had behaved the way she did and had my daughter apologize to the boy. She was not receptive and insisted I spank my child instead. Curiously, she didn't smack her own child and didn't have him apologize to younger child even after she'd been shown the younger child's sandy face and clothes.

The mother of the younger child was pleased to have been alerted to her child being hurt (none of us saw sand thrown at the younger child because it happened behind a pillar of playground equipment). I offered my assurance to both mothers that my child was not going to be acting that way again and would come get me if she had any more problems.

The mother of the younger child was fine with this. The mother of the older child was not fine. She took her child and left the park. My daughter continued to play and let me know of two other times when another child was being hurt and when she was being called names. I spoke to two other mothers that day who were receptive.

While punishment, and specifically spanking, may seem like a workable solution, the first and foremost thing it teaches is that hitting is okay. Any secondary lessons (i.e.: come tell me instead of handling it yourself) are lost in the process.

Had I smacked my child instead of finding out what happened and addressing that issue, she would've learned that not only is hitting a viable option (just don't let mom see), she would've also learned that she is deserving of being hit - something mothers of 20-somethings scratch their heads over when their daughters date abusive men.

My daughter is in her 20's now. She doesn't hit people and she doesn't allow herself to be hit.

Mission accomplished.

Answer 7

I would make him stay in the house for at least a week.Let him know that if he can't get alone with kids then he loses his privledge of playing with them.He should be grateful that kids play with him.If he keeps this up he'll be without friends. There are alot of children that have no one to play with.I know I work with kids.Plus if u do this don't make it easy for him.Like his game boy ,tv,and so on.I would limit those things as long as u can stand it.Good luck

Answer 8

I AM DISGUSTED AT YOU PEOPLE.
oh my god....who the hell do you all think you are to take it in your hands to hit your kids????i have three kids and two foster kids and i have never ever had to smack any of them.and yes they are all well behaved.if you teach your kids right from wrong from day one and instill decency into them you would never have to raise a hand.children do as children see.if they see aggression at home this is what they display.to all the parents who replied saying if it was their child they would have spanked their little butts red raw.i would quite like to meet you and spank your butts red raw and see how you would like it if someone did it to you.treat your kids properly and be a decent parent from day one and your kids would grow up to be decent human beings instead of mini-me bullies.you dispicible lot

Answer 9

Take him home immediately. Restrict his access to something he likes (tv show, toy) for one day and inform him that he won't be going to the park or to friends house's for several days. Make sure he understands that this is because of his behaviors. List them and tell him that it is unacceptable for him to behave this way and wrong and that when he does this his will receive punishment. When you do go back to the park. Before going to play remind him what you expect of his behavior and the consequences of acting badly. Have him apologize to anyone he has been mean to when he sees them again. Any minor sign of bad behavior remove him again and repeat process.

Answer 10

Im sorry to say but i would take my son to the bathroom and spank him for being utterly disrespectful to the other child then i would explain why i spanked him and ask him how it would make him feel if another child done the very same to him, i choose this punishment because at 6 years old a child should know what respect is and how to use it. I would say it is a very appropriate punishment.