2007-04-10 02:53:13 · 27 answers · asked by atl_red_angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because hes tellin me he wants to be with me and that he want me to move in with him but like 3 of my friends say he is
2007-04-11 02:21:05 · update #1
Please console yourself with the following:
A person who trusts another may be deceived.
But a person who does not trust will be tormented.
And remember, this is not your problem. A cheater, a liar, a deceiver has personal problems of their own. You are just the unfortunate soul who got tangled up in those problems.
Like a person caught in a tornado or hurricane. You cannot control the weather, any more than you can control the issues that bring forth lies and deception from another person.
Like a storm, the only thing you can do is find a safe place for yourself, and your heart. So you will not be tempted to become jaded as an inevitable result if you should stay.
It's best you are becoming aware of the truth before children or property are involved between the two of you. You are still free and can move on, and you should.
Good luck to you in hiding your heart very well. Good luck to all of us who venture to trust, and find one tornado after another to hide from.
2007-04-13 13:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by Marci Tabacchi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is acting more shady than usual, making excuses about being out that don't make sense and if he avoids the question if you ask him. Of course, if he is just acting differently that doesn't necessarily mean he is... Around three months into the relationship the guy gets more comfortable and feeling like he doesn't need to impress you as much, so he may call less and be around less, or he might be getting a little more cautious about being in a serious relationship.
2007-04-10 09:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way before the actual cheating takes place you see many signs of disrespect. Every day life type things where he won't clean up after himself, won't help you with housework, watches tv ignoring you etc. After that he says things like "I need my space", "I'm working late", "I'm going out with the guys" etc. These phrases are part of the set up.
So by the time he does actually cheat you needed to have decided if you wanted to be with someone who disrespected you in the every day ways. Once you have the gut feeling that he is cheating it's time to walk. Bad news travels fast. I'll expect you'll find out all in due time, without a whole lot of investigation.
2007-04-10 10:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by Credit Expert 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...the fact that you've even asked this particular cheating question tells me he is darling. Your guts usually don't lie to you darling. I'd just flat out ask him hun...and see what the end result of his responce is gonna be otherwise. Nothing is really gonna be a fact until it's confirmed here sweety! Watch and pay special attention to his eyes while he's responding here to ya too! The eyes never lie hun. If he can't focus directly back atchya hun?...he's probably NOT telling you the truth unfortunately. Cheaters and liars roam together hun...and you don't wanna be a part of one of these vicious circles of disappointment. Be calm and relaxed as all get out while you're asking him these questions too babe. You're entitled to some satisfaction darling. You won't have anything with him until your faith has been restored with him. It's 50% his job to help install some good feelings in this relationship too honey...so get him busy on his mission. You won't have anything built on trust until you do! Good luck darling!
2007-04-10 10:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by scott s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stalk his ***. Seriously, if you think he's cheating, stalk him. I know my ex was cheating on me. I got his phone from him and looked to see what numbers were coming in and out. I caught him in lies all the time. Finally I caught him at some other guys house and that was it for me.
I don't really condone that type of action, but if you are in a committed relationship, and the other person isn't respecting that... then all the rules go out the window. So I broke up with his cheating *** lol.
2007-04-17 23:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out ask him. See how he reacts. Is he defensive? That is a great sign. Also, does he say that you are losing your mind or you are crazy? Does it take him longer to get from point A to point B? Are his dressing patterns different? Does he all of a sudden have something to do all of the time? Has your sex life changed? Does he need to shower all of the time? Does he have number in his phone that you have never seen? Does he disappear with no explanation? Those are all great signs.
2007-04-10 10:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Quinn S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I move with this guy after a year we was together, everything was fine and perfect nothing can go wrong. I told him that moving together was a big commitment and he said he will never hurt me. But after we move he change, he don't want to be near me, and he was always with bad attitude for no reason. I look in his cell phone and I see he was talking to another women. Please take u time, don't do something that u may regret later.
2007-04-18 09:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obvious signs...
* All of a sudden he is working late or not home as often as he used to be
* When he says " its just gonna be me and my hommies/ friends"
* You are NOT allowed to touch or get a glimpse of his cellphone
*He is moody and seems irritated by you all of a sudden..
* He takes extra pride and time to look good and smell good when he is going out..
* He is constantly asking for you to trust him..
* His friends and family are strangers to you..
* He slacks in bed..
* Playing with your mind by making you fell insecure with yourself..eg: telling you that you picked up weight...
These are all defo signs that guys might cheat..anyone who tells you otherwise are just trying to hide the truth..
2007-04-18 05:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mercia L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually it is difficult to tell. But remember we women have this instinct, we just sensed it. If you feel something, try to observe him. You will be able to find clues, although it might take time, but you will. (by the way, you can check on his credit card bill, cell phone bill, parking tickets, restaurant receipts, take note of the time, I hope you know what i mean.)
2007-04-10 10:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he acts funny and never has time to talk to you and starts dumb arguments and say that you are cheating on him. You know accusing you of things that he does, basically pushing you away and if he kisses you different than when he first kissed you which means he has kissed someone else and brought the new tricks back to you.
2007-04-10 09:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Lady T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋