Why did the church kick us out?

Question

my family started going to a different church because the one we were going to had something wrong with the pastor (won't go into details, the dude was just messed up), and we got a letter in the mail saying "Please don't come back" (from the new church). why's that? there's nothing wrong with our family. is it because there are 16 of us kids? or because half of my sibs are adopted? or because we keep the kids in the service (instead of them going back to kids church) during praise and worship, and they like to dance in the isles and at the front of the church? do some people not like dancing? they didn't give us a reason, they just said "don't come back". what's wrong with them? what denomination of church wouldn't care about how big our family is or how we worship?

they weren't running up and down the isles during the sermon, they just danced during the praise songs. and during the worship songs, they went back to kids church. nobody was being disrespectful or anything. our parents raised us better than that.

hey, to the guy you quoted scripture, the Bible also says to praise him with dancing and music.

Answer 1

I am sorry that the church was rude to your family. But I have to wonder about the kids being in the isle and up front when praise and worship is going on. It is okay to have your kids inside church with you. I have two boys and they stay in church with me. But I make sure that they are not running all over the place. It is not play time at church. It is very rude when people wont take their kids out when they are crying or making loud noises. But during praise and worship, it is a time to spend with God. It is distracting when kids are running all over the place. It is not to say that yall should not belong to the new church, it is that the 16 children should not be all over the place. The church should have suggest that you guys take some of the to children to childrens church or maybe sit towards the nack so they wont be everywhere. The church should have been more tactful about the situation. Please dont think that all churches are like that! Be encouraged and ask God top lead your family where to a great church!

Answer 2

How many kids there are is certainly not the issue. But dancing in the isles and up to the front of the church would offend those who are not "charismatic" Christians, or "holy rollers," as we used to call them.

Most Christian churches would take such a display as in the worst of bad taste, and personally, unless other people were doing it too, it would strike me that way, too. I mean, this was a new church, where you didn't know what they expected, and decorum would have been the order of the day. Next time find out what the church is like first. Or, since you have such a large family, why not have worship services at home? You could invite the neighbors and start your own religion if you wanted to. But there's no sense assuming your dancing would be acceptable in a more conservative church.

Answer 3

Yes, it is said in the HOLY BIBLE that dancing with praises when we worship. Since you would not reveal all the detail, its okay. It is wrong for them to kick you out of the church. Number of kids is not the factor. Some people worship differently than others. The Church that am going to they don't do those thing that your sibling do. Why not just bring them to Sunday school they do worship in their own way. They do sing and dance during Sunday School. Not as loud as they main praise and worship they do have in Sunday school. So, my friend next time your family go to the Sunday service send them to Sunday school. Or the best thing your family can do is go to Church that has those dancing during the service.

Answer 4

I strongly believe that little children should be welcomed into the service proper right from the git-go — no child apartheid! I have no patience with people who either don’t give children credit for understanding what’s being said and done in the service (even the tiny ones “get” it a lot faster than a lot of “issue”-burdened adults), or else want the kiddos elsewhere in the building so as not to disturb them, the adults, with kid behavior. This attitude irks me no end. My parish has Sunday School before the service, so that all children, no matter what age, can be a part of the service; we get kids involved in worship as soon as they express an interest in doing so — even if it means a tiny acolyte needing an older helper to light our candles and otherwise do his or her job; we also open up our Eucharist to children who wish to receive it.

Answer 5

I agree with the church. During a service dancing is a distraction.I go to church to find peace and worship. Not to see bored kids showing off...

Answer 6

Different churches order their services differently.
They may take their cues from denominational tradition, or whichever they believe is appropriate. Dancing in the aisles? Distracting, highly so. I wouldn't want to have that going on when I want my attention and focus to be on the Lord.
If they operate a children's church, it should be used. This sort of thing has the not often mentioned purpose of teaching children how to behave in church services, and really, what every thing is about.
I would suspect you got the letter because of your behavior from the children...it isn't you...it's the difference I think between what the church and you all think is proper behavior.

Answer 7

You need to find a kid friendly church. Honestly I don't know if you will find one that allows kids to run wild with no discipline. Keeping kids in church for worship is wonderful and of course they will not act perfect, but allowing them to to run and dance in the aisles is disrespectful. Kids should not be raised to think that this is appropriate behavior in a church, restaurant, or anywhere, really.

Answer 8

You don't want to be a part of a church like that. I'm sorry that you had to have them make the decision for you, instead of making it yourself, but be glad that you are now free to find a more accepting church. Consider talking with the pastor of the new church before beginning to attend services.

Answer 9

No matter their reason, they did you a favor by letting you know up front that they are not worthy of your attendance. There is no excuse for what they did. It'd be one thing if you had made a major faux pas like oh peeing in the collection plate. But nothing you posted indicates any such thing was done. So they did you a favor IMO. Dancing in the aisles is not sufficient reason to tell a family to not come back. If it is disruptive, they should have talked to your family and asked you to stop or sit in the back row where less would be bothered.

Answer 10

Oneness Pentecostal