Please can someone explain why?

Question

both my sisters are Christians and one is married to a vicar yet neither can be bothered with the family ie their parents. To a point where they wont even let them see the grandhildren.
My younger sister says she prays for them and that is enough and my elder sister just wont speak to them at all. The problem is no one not even my parents knows why?
Dosent it say to honour thy mother and father?

I am trying to get them to talk about whatever it is they are blaming my parents for but they have now decided not to talk to me either. I am Muslim and I am just trying to understand how they can say they are Christian but have no love for family.

Until 2 years ago my sisters lived with my parents rent free. My elder sister used them as in hoise babysitters without ever asking and parents loved seeing the children every day and never complained.
My mum then had a breakdown and my both my sisters say that she is or was NEVER ill and was just attention seeking.
I never said that I was perfect and being Muslim dosent change anything, I wanted the view of Christians because I just dont get them preaching to me about family values when they dont have any.

Like I am trying to sy this is not about 2 religions.
my mum and dad have been bought up Christians but dont go to church. They have tried to teach us the best morals etc in life and to always be honest and kind. I married a Muslim but my sisters are the ones that go to church every week and preach to us about what is right and wrong. How can they preach to us and yet not live by what they are saying!. How can my brother in law stand up in front of his congregation and preach about loving thy mother and father knowing that his wife is hurting hers on a daily basis. They have a child that they have not even told the name to my parents let alone sent a picture.

I just want to understand.

Answer 1

That is wrong. they should let them see their grandchildren. i don't see the love either. In my religion, it is totally the opposite, there is always love, families can be eternal and lots of the doctrine revolves around the family. I think you need to stand up to them and get some answers...or they will be sorry, i know i would be.

Answer 2

I don't think there is enough to your story to make an opinion. You left out a lot of detail. Like, what religion did you all grow up in? How was their relationship with your parents growing up? Was this a sudden change or did it happen over time? Have your parents ever tried contacting them? What are they blaming on your parents?

Without these details, all your story does is look like two selfish brats (who happen to be Christian) while you're the good child. For all we know, there was a lot of fighting in your family and now that your sisters are grown and married, they decided to leave that kind of environment.

Answer 3

Based on the limited information you have given us, their actions are not justified as Christians. Surely there is some other reason for the way they are acting. Are the Grandparents Christian? If the grandparents are not Christian and are of some cult form of religion, this might explain their actions. But I would think even under those circumstances I would allow the grandchildren to see their grandparents under close supervision.

Answer 4

Obviously, the married couple does not practise what they're preaching. This is not a christian way at all. Since they don't want to talk with any of you, I'd try to write a very to the point letter, asking, as to why ??

Answer 5

Something may have happened between your parents and sister, that they feel is unforgivable. Sometimes even the strictest of Christians can't be perfect.

Answer 6

Love is not something you get from someone else nor can you ever. Love is something you give away to others it is one of those things that you can not have unless you are willing to give it away in fact. By your own righteous examples you will do much more in changing the hearts of thy fellow beings then you will ever do with a contest of words or a tumult of opinions..There is only one God and there should only be one group of believers even Children of that God..Man has distorted everything jus about God has told them.However we are now in the dispensation of fulness of times prior to great desolations being unleashed upon the earth..Heavenly Father has commenced to gather all things in one for their is only one sheperd and there is to be only one flock of sheep.Everyone who supposeth that they are saved ought to duly consider that they are..For Heavenly Father has said..
" Ye would be more miserable to dwell with me with a conscience of your guilt that ye have always abused my ways then ye would be to dwell with the damned souls in hell." Therefore we shall all perish unless we honestly and truly repent of all our wongdoings and shortcomings for none but the truly penitent are saved and this according to the Words of the only true and living God. Many shall say to the Lord at the last day"Lord Lord did we not do many great and marvelous things in they name?" then shall the Lord look upon them and say" I never knew you..Depart from ye you who work iniquity."

Answer 7

They have been indoctrinated, brainwashed and fooled. It happens all the time with converts. Religions are supposed to preach and practise love for all, but especially christianity, they teach you to hate non-christians...And this is always the work of human beings, not the guy upstairs.

Answer 8

my friend,do not even think that this is christianity..it is not.no christian would set themselves up as God..it sounds like they need to pass judgement on themsleves first.after all,does not God care about the sinners more than the righteous?your younger sister is correct to only pray for them.the rest is in God's hands.

Answer 9

The explanation seems simple to me... It sounds like you are a family divided over belief issues - how sad that is since none of you is likely to have a clue about being honest within yourself.

The truth is that you are all walking around with your heads in the clouds over "God" and and the promise of an after-life when all of that just isn't true.

Set aside your silly beliefs and settle for reality, all of you, and then you may find that becoming a functional family is possible again. Forgivness is much easier to find as a non-believer than as a believer... judgements aren't tossed around as absolutes... love is unconditionally recieved and given without "gods" standing in the way.

Atheism is the logical choice. You and your family ought to think about that.

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Answer 10

Key phrase; "they SAY they are Christian". But they're not. Relax, and realize you're the best one for still being there for your family. Also, they're stupid for not letting your parents see their Grandchildren.