Ok this is going to be hard to admit, I am 27 and still a virgin. Recently I have been having online sex with a girl via a webcam. We finally decided to get together and meet for the real thing, but when I got to her place I told her I couldn't do it, what was I thinking!
Like when I finally got the opportunity, it released all this pain I had about being a virgin, then all of sudden I didn't want sex?
The thing of it too is I met another girl who I developed strong feelings for the day before I was to meet the other girl, we seemed to click. She is very religous and doesn't believe in sex before marriage and for some reason I fell for her. All of a sudden now I don't want to have sex until I get married. We both agreed after the first date we want to be steady together.
I don't know what to tell the other girl she is wondering what is going on. I still feel stupid for not taking her up on her offer.
2007-04-10 01:20:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Congrats. It sounds like you are a real man of character and that is a true gift in this world today. Take pride in yourself. You are willing to commit to a relationship and do it in the correct way.
I know you don't want to hurt the other girl's feelings. That too is very noble. I would say it just like you did here. I would tell her that you really care for her as a friend and don't want to hurt her. Make sure she knows that you have good intentions and that it just wasn't meant to be.
2007-04-10 11:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel stupid at all. You did the right thing. If you were to have sex with the other girl, and stayed with the one you met the day before, when it came time for you two to have sex if y'all made it too marriage it wouldn't feel as great. so now, since you and webcam girl did't have sex, and if you and the other girl do make it to marriage or you and any other girl that you truely like it's going to be 10 times as great....b/c they'll be your first. It will mean a lot more and have more passion and emotion than horniness. i regret having sex with who i did. he sayed he loved me but i knew deep down he didn't. but now i hate him and don't speak to him, but find out in a week if he's going to be the father of a child or not.....hope this helped. you're not stupid though. i give kudos to a guy who can say no.
2007-04-10 08:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Heather B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be glad you did not take her up on the offer.
The new girl will be worth waiting for. Whether its the religious one or another women that comes along and is finally your wife.
Don't be so hard on yourself I was 32 before I had sex the first time. With my wife on my wedding night. You're not strange nor are you alone.
2007-04-10 08:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel stupid. You found someone that you clicked with in real life not via the internet. So tell her the truth that you found a wonderful woman and do not feel right going further and can not continue the cyber.
2007-04-10 08:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait, NOW you don't want to have sex until you're married? Look, unless you are a virgin b/c you haven't married yet, stop what you are trying to do now. This religious girl isn't "who you were meant to be with". She's just another excuse you are using to avoid having sex. Now, whatever reasoning you have for avoiding it, insecure about your lack of experience, scared of the act in general, waiting to marry someone you just met is not going to magically solve those problems. Now, until you face up to the fact that you have these issues concerning sex, everytime you get close to a situation of that nature, you're going to crack under the pressure.
BTW, it's hilarious that all the women think it's meant to be with someone you just met!
2007-04-10 08:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mikey H 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you did the right thing by stopping.... it wasnt meant to be with the online girl....... you and this other girl is meant to be that why u stoped you relised you didnt want her you wanted to see if you and the rligous girl had somthing there...... just tell the online girl that you arent ready to have sex that u want to wait for the right one and not just do it with anyone...... dont feel stupid you did a good thing by stoping and knowing if you wanted it with this online girl orf the religous girl......i hope things work out for both
2007-04-10 08:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about the other girl and continue to date the religious one. That is what I would do anyway.
2007-04-10 08:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's just natural after such a long time, and expectation. Aske her again, for a date, and then pounce.
2007-04-10 08:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her the truth...you really want to wait til your married...you have feelings for someone that has the same values as you...so no your not an idiot...
2007-04-10 08:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is over now, move on
2007-04-10 08:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by skcs11 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋