parents dont let me use my money?

Question

i'm 18 highschool dude, and i used to work at grocery store for months and made some big chunk of money
my father tells me to save the whole thing for college
and i kinda agree w/ em since i need a laptop anyways

today i was gonna get my paycheck and cashed out, cuz i needed a haircut. but then my parent called me and said 'dont u get yer paycheck cashed out! take money from my drawer and save the paycheck!'

well, i got a haircut anyways but whenever i needed to spend money, i need to use his money, not mine
and he has to know wat im spendin money on. he thinks im gonna do drugs or somethin if he doesnt care. lol wat the hell?

how should i persuade him to let me use my own money?

trust me, i tried almost everything. but my father is stubborn as hell

help me!

Answer 1

maybe he would comprise and let you spend 20% of your paycheck since you are the one that earned the money.

Answer 2

Not to make you lose hope, but i dont think there's anything you can do. he's just one of the possibly over protective parents who will always want to know exactly whats going on in their kids life. There is also no way to ask him for money without telling him what its for, so boy aren't you in a fix. If you haven't already, just try and stress your point that you feel he's too much on you and that you would really appreciate it if he could just tone down abit. The problem with this is that he can say that he cannot give you his money without knowing what its for, and why shouldnt you tell him if you have nothing to hide? If you cant talk to him, the only other option you have is to make some other money somewhere and use that. Its not my place to say, but please keep it legal and i do hope you're not doing drugs or alcohol. I understand that its abit annoying to have to spell it out for him, but then again if he says why not tell him if you have nothing to hide, he's got a point. I had the same sort of problem, i just had to look for other means of getting cash unless it was a legitimate, acceptable and not embarassing thing!

Answer 3

your parent is doing the best for you, at least he won't spend the money of your long working hours on any thing stupid...
at the same time he pays for every thing you need, and if you are not happy about it, then you can talk to him, and ask him if you can take a part of the money as it will make feel better in term of spending from your own money on yourself

Answer 4

Your parents are trying to show you how to save. They want you to learn that by saving money now you can have what you want in the future. You should be happy you have such wonderful parents. IF it really bothers you that much tell them you need to learn how to budget and can be so dependant upon them. so you want to take out X amount of your paycheck weekly and see how you budget

Answer 5

Your father cares about you, consider yourself lucky, many do not even have a father who would care if at all.

My Son, as soon as he got a Job would not listen to me or my warnings about managing his money, he went out and bought a cell phone, I tried to warn him about watching how he uses it, but he didn't listen, he talked on it constantly, and ran up a 1600.00 cell phone bill in 1 month, amazing!
He still does not listen, spends his money on things he convinces himeself that he needs, when he really does not need it, in other words he gets his wants and needs mixed up.

I don't think your father thinks you are on drugs, he just wants you to carefully plan for your money and not just squander it on material things that you can get by without., but unlike many youths, they convince themselves that they cannot get by without it, so they spend (Waste) money on stuff they don't need and regret it later, but because of pride, will never admit it to anyone, is this you? I hope not.
Listen, if you want to suceed in life, you will listen to people who know, Your father did not live as long as he did and know nothing, he probably did not have as easy a life as you have, and found things out the hard way, listen to him, he is only trying to help you.

Answer 6

Use there money and save yours that's a good deal there,but you are 18 and can do what you want now.

Answer 7

What is your complaint? You work and are earning money for school and your parents are giving you money for your needs....Somehow I don't see a real problem with this unless it's just a "mine" thing. Wait til you get to college....you'll be grateful for every dime.

Answer 8

I think you should deal with it utill you move out. Your parents only whats best of you.

Answer 9

i think you r a big fool ,,,,,,,,,u r not trusting u r ,, parents....what ever they do they always think best for their child,,,go and hug them once,,,i know the situation of my freind who lost his parents in accident,,, listen to them what ever they will tell follow itman

Answer 10

Spend their money, they said you could.