2007-04-10 01:04:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Do not take it personally. I was the maid of honor at my sister's also...and she did everything!...yes..I wanted to help but it was her wedding and she wanted to make sure things were how she want them....
So I asked her to give me smaller task, things that I could get out of the way for her...It is her big day after all...so...smile and be her little helper! Congrats!!!
2007-04-10 01:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by peach_tree67 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Many women have been planning their weddings since they were a little girl. Your sister may have been planning this wedding since she met her fiance. I'm not sure what kind of thing you think you should be doing, but it probably will not be in the planning mode. Leave this to her. If she wants your advice, she will ask. Just be proud that she asked you to stand by her side on such an important day for her. When the wedding date becomes closer, she may have things for you to help her with, such as helping to gather addresses for invitations or assembling favors or out-of-town gift boxes. Just let her know that you are happy for her and that if she needs assistance with anything, you are only a phone call away.
As maid of honor, it is usually your responsibility to head up planning any showers or parties in her honor, including a bachelorette party. There are many books and online guides about what kind of duties a maid of honor might have. However, your sister may not want all of these things from you. Perhaps she likes to be involved in every little detail. It's normal. Just be there for her as she will get more stressed as the time draws closer. On the day of the wedding, you will likely be needed to make sure she has everything she needs - like rings, breath mints, lip gloss, extra pantyhose, etc. - as well as holding her bouquet during the ceremony, making sure she looks presentable, signing the marriage certificate and possibly helping to greet guests or collect cards or presents at the end of the reception. Be cordial and pleasant during the wedding festivities. Remember to talk with her about things that are not wedding related. Don't let her forget about your life or the other things in hers.
Just offer your services and if she doesn't want a lot of help then be happy - you got off easy!
2007-04-10 01:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by daisiedoll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her. Don't be offended. Is your sister typically a do-it-yourself kind of woman? Is she just really busy and can only get things done at certain times that conflict with your schedule? Some people also just don't make as huge of a deal of the maid of honor as others. I know I didn't as much of mine. She was and still is my nearest and dearest friend and I would take a bullet for her. When I chose a maid of honor, I just thought about who meant the most to me and about who had been the best friend to me and who I would want to make a speech at the wedding (which is who I would be most happy to make a speech for). I'm also the kind of person who hates asking for too much help. I didn't want to be one of those "bridezilla" types that orders everyone around. Maybe your sister is the same way. Anyway, just talk to her. She won't be offended. The only way I would be kind of hurt if I were you would be if you volunteered to help with things before being asked and she repeatedly refused.
2007-04-10 04:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself lucky. Some brides expect the maid of honor to do everything. Tell your sister you are ready and willing if she wants any help, and leave it at that.
Some brides think not just her world, but the world of everyone in her life, revolves around her wedding. And that she deserves nothing less. Your sister does not sound like one of these, and that is a good thing.
2007-04-10 02:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Courtney,
First, go to the library and check out a good book on wedding planning. Read the parts about what the duties of a Maid of Honor are.
Second, go to your sister and your Mom and ask them if they would like you to take care of these duties...AFTER you have made it clear that you want their input about how these duties are to be handled and then, DO NOT deviate from what they want.
Contrary to what you may be thinking, they would probably appreciate your help. Things tend to get really busy the closer the wedding gets and an extra pair of hands would be very welcome so that nothing important is forgotten.
2007-04-10 02:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you do no longer ought to do all of those issues... your MOH duties end a ways until eventually now all those issues. in case you're desirous to pass above and previous out of 'kindness' set 'dates' with the bride and help her with those judgements, yet do no longer do it on your individual. you need to offer her a catalogue of florists or places or perhaps if, you need to take a seat down along with her over takeout one night and pass by using some bride magazines and tear out ideas that she likes, so which you have some thing to artwork with. in case you want to take this all on, then contain her in the technique, and get an concept of what she likes (flora, tarts, places etc). yet once you do no longer want to do it, enable her understand as quickly as achievable, so she has sufficient observe to do it herself. As for an indoor region that isn't in a chapel - indexed right here are some techniques: - lodge ballroom - a historic development (ie. library, homestead) - civic midsection
2016-10-02 11:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by linnon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her lead. Ask her if she wants any help, and if not, you're off the hook. Some people view the bridal party as largely symbolic-she may not need any help right now. You do have a shower and bachelorette party to plan, though.
2007-04-10 03:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't want your "help". Maybe she feels a need to "do it herself".
You should ask her what she would like you do do for her to assist her in preparing for her wedding. The best thing we can to to help people we care about is find out what they would like us to do and try to do what THEY feel they need.
You should also give her a bridal shower.
2007-04-10 01:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do exactly what she wants you to do. Offer your help, but if she declines back off immediately. Your job is to not piss her off in any way and be supportive, she may not need any help at this time, so the best way to help her is to do exactly what she says and cool it for a while.
As long as you make it clear that if she needs you that all she has to do is ask you will be fine.
2007-04-10 01:16:03 · answer #9 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would just let her know that if she needs any help that you are there to help her.
Some brides don't want their wedding party to do anything but show up and stand up with them in their wedding.
I would count yourself lucky.
2007-04-10 04:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋