Met a guy around 3 years ago, we were like best friends as well as lovers. He 28, me 23. He wasn’t too sure about having any commitments at that stage in his life. He messed me about in the process with broken promises due to his inability to commit. So I gave him 1 last chance to decide what he wanted & he decided that it would be best to be friends 4 now as he wasn’t in the frame of mind for a relationship with any1 right now, that I deserve the best & he was unable to give me that. I told him there was no going back & he said we never know what could happen in the future, but that he wasnt going to lead me on anymore as it wasnt fair. He still tried to be friends by callin me every week or so to see how I was. But I told him that I would prefer if we jus went our separate ways, he still called & I made it very clear that we should go our seperate ways as it is over & finalised, so he stopped calling & let me go. Now 3 years later we hav started talkin again he 32, me 26 both doin
2007-04-10 00:52:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
both doin well.he is wanting something serious. I understand that he didn’t want a relationship then? But I also feel that it is his loss for letting me go? He also caused me a lot of heartache by accepting things back then and moving forward. Should I tell him its too late as he hurt me??
He also said to me 3 years ago that he feels he has the confidence to win me back and will do when he is ready to commitment as I would be what he wants when he settles down. Should I just tell him that we can be friends and nothing more?
2007-04-10 00:53:55 · update #1
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2007-04-10 00:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh this sounds like a tough one! Be thankful that he was honest with you in the beginning. That is a quality lacking in todays men so that should be a bonus on his part. I find that we only feel heartache when we have certain expectations of another, especially being lovers. You have both gone your seperate ways and grown as people, but a renewed relationship will never work unless you can ask and answer a question to yourself honestly....Can you forgive him for breaking your heart? If the answer is no, then best to leave it alone because certain situations will bring you back to 3 years ago and fast, you will be unhappy and feel the heartache all over again. If you can realize that the heartache you felt was because of your expectations of him, and realize that he WAS honest with you, then reconnect slowly and see what happens. Let go of your expectations and just be. Who knows...he might be the love of your life....
2007-04-10 06:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by groundpounders'R'us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation! He did hurt you and it has been three years since u both have last spoke. If your single then i would attempt a date with him ONLY IF YOU ARE COMFORTABLE. if you cant get over the past and how he hurt you then then it will not be a wise decision to let this go forward. If that's the case let him know that he hurt you back then even though you understand his reasoning for doing so but it doesn't mean you are hanging around for him to walk into your life when he is good and ready. just remember things happen for a reason and if at this point in both ur life's you are single and your wiling to forget what happened then it really wouldn't hurt to get together with him and try a date... see if the spark is there if not then hey at least you tried! GOOD LUCK
2007-04-10 00:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you currently into a relationship? if not, are you goin to turn him down simply bcuz you want to get back at him for having called it quits 3 years ago?
look inside you. if the feelings is mutual, regardless of who broke the chain, truly loving someone is always worth a try. he was afterall being honest from the start about how he feels and gave you a leeway to find happiness elsewhere. it was rather selfish of him to have kept the relationship and half meant it, at least by letting go- he gave you the freedom to be happy and a chance to date other people with the hope that you may find a man better than him. while it didn't happen (i assume and likewise to him)he now gets back to you and may be made up his mind that all along it was you whom he needed, loved & wanted most. The break up also gave him an opportunity to really see himself without you and apparently 3 years passed and he thinks of you, still.
above all, are you in love enough to forgive, make up and be with the man who broke your heart once? you decide.
2007-04-10 01:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on how you feel!! Do you still care for him enough to have a commited relationship with him? People grow up when it comes to relastionships, ask him what changed that he wants a relationship now after 3 years, his answer should give you your answer. Look into your heart, what do you see there?
2007-04-10 00:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by fade4pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me all this time maybe someone else broke his heart and now he wants you back to sort of ease his pain. He will probably move on after he feels better and you will all over be left with a broken heart...again!
2007-04-10 00:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, your relationship with him was just stabilized again. Do you really want to ruin that by trying to make it something that, from the sounds, of it will never be. You need to move on form him, that's the best thing. Plus from this information he should have lost his chance with you.
2007-04-10 00:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
his not worth all the pain over agin you are better of with out him in your life......why have you started talking again ......... by doing that his going to think he has a chance with you ......
2007-04-10 00:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋