he also wants to date new girl while still sharing OUR flat!! and thinks im being selfish by asking him not to while he stay's here his reply was im not putting my life on hold for you!!! but im still mad about him and toataly still in love i just have to kook at him and feel the same as when we met please someone have the answer to help the hurt im feeling ALL THE TIME
2007-04-10 00:48:59 · 29 answers · asked by maggie r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes already been seeing someone else,see him for the scumbag he is and kick him out
2007-04-10 00:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It hurts a lot. You feel like dying. Life sucks. No one else understands. You don't think it will EVER get better. People keep giving you these simple little aswers that don't help, and actually make you feel worse.
Did I get it right? Well, been there done that. It takes time... sometimes a LONG time. It took years for me to get over a badly broken heart. However, I am now in a great relationship, and very rarely even think about all that pain I went through. It doesn't help to have someone say, "hang in there, it gets better." But it does, you will just have a long stretch of depression and pain before you get to a place that will be good once again.
2007-04-10 00:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really empathise with you. It is obvious you still love him. You don't say why you broke up though.
Anyway, the first thing that i think should be done is; he MUST move out asap. There is no way that you two can remain in the same flat for much longer. If he wants to start dating already. Fine but not in the flat you two share!
There after, you should give yourself time to get over him properly. Cry if you must, shop, do what makes you happy. Surround yourself with friends and go out. It will take time but you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you too, we all do at the end of the day. Oh and don't avoid thinking of him cause it will only catch up with you later when you least expect it to. Think but do not act on it. Don't let him have the satisfaction of having you continuously chase after him.
And i don't think you are being selfish, tell him to be reasonable. You can not be expected to live with someone you still love and have him date someone else.
2007-04-10 01:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by Questionis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him stay but what you can do is protect yourself from further harm. If he won't leave the flat then you leave, even if it means staying with a friend until you can find your own place. Limit communications with him and especially ask him not to talk about the girls he's dating. It's him who is being selfish, trying to keep you on the back burner while he goes out and fools around. If he thinks you're being selfish then simply explain that you aren't ready to switch to being buddies with him after all this time together, and you're not sure if or when you'll be ready to enter into a friendship with him.
2007-04-10 00:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no quick fixes for a broken heart, it takes time.
Try to keep busy go out with friends and start to do new things join a gym or go to dance classes what ever you can that keeps you away from him and allows you to meet new people. Ask him to move out and at least have the respect not to date other people untill he has gone he has no need to rub your face in it.
You are not being selfish he is being inconsiderate. Good luck it takes time but you will get there.
2007-04-10 00:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry for your loss. First you have to stand up for yourself and tell him that you will not allow him to bring anyone back to yours, if he wants he"ll have to go back to hers, be strong and tell him (dont ask him) in no uncertain terms he needs to make arrangments to move out, you dont say if you own the place together? To mend a broken heart takes time, and there is nothing you can do really to stop the hurt, it fades in time. you have to turn to your friends at this time, talk to anyone you can to get things off your chest, you cant forget him by dating someone else for the moment. Wish you all the best.
2007-04-10 01:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why after 10 years.....? what have you done that he doesnt like or what is this other girl giving him that you arent......
He should be allowed to bring her round but ..... only when you are not there.... I hope it is a two bed flat....
You should work on what has gone wrong.... to guys it is probably not enough sex..... and therefore he has looked else where.....
After 10 years .... maybe he wants kids and a family.... and you just dont want the same life goals as he does.....
You have to think what possible reason could he have to change from you....?
Good Luck...Hx hope you win him back
2007-04-10 00:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww, first you are NOT being selfish!! I wouldn't let my boyfriend of 6 years date out of our place!! Move on....cry, rant, rave....do what you have to do. Get some good drunks with your girlfriends. He is the selfish one. What happened to him after 10 years?! I'm so sorry for your heartbreak. Don't wait around. He'll do it again in a few years after he's gotten this one out of his system. I won't have the answer you are looking for I don't think but you do need to try really hard to move on. It will get easier in time. Good luck and you will finally find a good man but after 10 years take a break for you.
2007-04-10 00:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me be the first to say what? are you really serious if he wants to spend his time at the strip club than trust me on this one. He has questionable morals and probably low self esteem. I tended bar at a club just like that and the guys I saw every weekend were total idiots wasting time and money on girls that weren't even that cute just willing to get naked for a dollar not all dancers I say because one of my best friends is a dancer and I think she's beautiful but the majority are not.
2016-05-21 05:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My god!!! He doesn't have any feelings or respect for u then does he??
Get rid and tell him he shud respect the position u r in and tell him to get out of the flat if he wants a new relationship!!!
I understand u must be hurt, but u must stand ur ground and toughen up.
U r not bein selfish at all.
Tell him to f**k off and leave u to move on with ur life!!!
2007-04-10 01:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he will put his life on hold while still living with you, after all ...you put your life on hold for 10 years for him. He is being selfish by not taking your feelings into consideration! Is your name on the lease for the flat? Or his name? Or both? One of you needs to move out if you hope to move past the pain.
2007-04-10 00:53:45 · answer #11 · answered by fade4pink 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋