my best mate is going out with my cousin, who is like a sister really.
they started dating 2 weeks ago, but I found out only yesterday.
i told them i don't know what to say and that it was weird.
what am i supposed to say\
ISNT IT A RULE THAT YOU CANNOT DATE YOUR BEST MATES RELATIVES
what should i do
2007-04-10 00:24:03 · 26 answers · asked by lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it;s only a rule not to date your own relatives. Be happy for them and hope it works out as if it doesn't, THEN it will be awkward!
2007-04-10 00:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh oh- Sounds like you're afraid of being left out in the cold a bit-perhaps you are afraid they will go off and leave you on your own a lot (which probably will happen). I think you should widen your circle of friends- then you can arrange to do things together and still see your friend and your cousin. Try and see their relationship as something positive because its making the two people you love most happy. If you let your jealousy get in the way you may just lose them both.
Libs
2007-04-10 07:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a little strange at first, but as long as they're happy together, maybe you should be happy for them instead of upset. About you just finding out even though they've been dating for two weeks... perhaps they were worried that you'd react unfavorably. It seems as though they both know you pretty well. Instead of being judgemental, why not ask them to join you for dinner somewhere, your treat. You can apologize for your stunned reaction, and observe the two of them at the same time. Reserve your judgement for a little while. It's probably not a bad thing, even if it is a little awkward for you.
2007-04-10 07:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by confusedus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not a rule! wouldnt you prefer to see your cousin go out with a guy that must be a pretty good guy seeing that hes your best mate!!! Get over it - wish them both well and let it at that! If they break up - they break up - these things happen
Dont do anything stupid - just get yourself a girlfriend so ye can double date!
xx
2007-04-10 07:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you were proberbly in shock and couldnt think of anything to day.
Aslo that they kept this from you would have upset you.
Well its guna b wierd for you, because its like ur best mate dating ur sister. You will see them gettin close, and you might feel replaced or not good enough for your cousin.
2007-04-10 07:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by barbedwireribbons 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a life!!!
Surely you'd want your cousin and best mate to be happy etc so give them space and time.
2007-04-10 07:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quote ISNT IT A RULE THAT YOU CANNOT DATE YOUR BEST MATES RELATIVES EndQuote
No such rule.
If it is weird for you, than that is something you need to deal with, it is your problem.
2007-04-10 07:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by khorat k 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u got 2 choices: 1. accept it and every1 gets along fine. 2. dont accept it and you could end up pushing them both away... i understand where you are coming from but it would be a good idea to let them run their course and stay out of their relationship
2007-04-10 07:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no the rule is you can not date your best friends ex.. but cousin is fair game as long as your friend is cool with it... talk it over with your friend and see how they feel and go from there
2007-04-10 07:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by jackson o 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well thats no rule at all i don't understand wts bothering you may eb u feel bad coz he didn't tell u abt their dating plus i think he must be a nice guy as he is ur best mate...be happy that they both found nice partners...all the best
2007-04-10 07:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by glister 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋