I have read the answers to this question but my situation is a little different. A friend I have known for about 20 yrs dated this girl for about a month. She decided they just weren't on the same page and stopped dating him and became just friends. Now she and I like each other but neither of us want to lose him as a friend or cause a bunch of drama. I would like to add that my friend and I are 43 and she is 36. My friend has kids, she has no kids and niether do I. I always wanted kids but time just passed by too quickly, she said the same. At our age it is difficult to find a partner that wants kids cuz people my age have already been thru it. She and I have done nothing except talk, we decided to talk with him about it, we are not seeking hs permission, we are seeking his continued freindship. She and I agreed that if it bothers him then it bothers us and she and I will not get together. Is this whole thing just a bad idea?
2007-04-10 00:05:32 · 13 answers · asked by helpless3020 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask the guy, if he has a problem with his two best friends finding happiness then he isn't much of a friend.
EDIT - plus if you just talk to the guy about it chances are he'll appreciate you being upfront and honest about it, rather than him finding out later and thinking you've been going behind his back. The two of you should sit him down together and just be honest.
2007-04-10 00:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't date them because it will most likely begin to stir something between them and they'll get in a fight. Plus, if the relationship goes somewhere and you end up getting married (try to imagine) then every time your ex-girlfriend came to see her friend she'd see you too, which would be very odd. It would also be very awkward for the child. No offence, BUT USE YOUR BRAIN! >:O
2016-05-21 05:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a while, perhaps a couple of months, and see how it goes between this girl and your friend, and the girl and you.
If they are close friends, don't do it. If they aren't really bothered by each other, go ahead.
Be careful though, I speak from experience.
I dated my best friends ex, and it caused nothing but trouble for about a month.
And not just between me and my friend, other friends and even family got involved. I still don't talk to my friend, but I am still with their ex!
You have to decide if she's worth it.
Hope that helps x
2007-04-10 00:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by crackingthecandy446 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a bad idea at all. the other guy have his kids if his own.... i assume that he will absolutely understand the way things are going to be... so I just hove that you two have kids of your own...time aint stopping and people are not getting any younger after each day passes by :)
2007-04-10 00:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by kcv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have agreed to her idea, well, talk about it with your friend on a fine day. At 46, should be mature enough in dealing with this kind of relationship. He should be happy if his friend has good ending.
Wish you all the Best!!!!
2007-04-10 03:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Passo L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend only dated her for a month and then they broke up because it wouldnt work......if you both like each other that much then go for it... you souldnt have to wait for your friends permision to date her because she is his ex........ dont stop from being happy and makeing a family with a girl that you think might be the one...just because your friend may not approve of you dateing his ex dont mean you souldnt date her .....it your life and her life you both made the decision in to what would make you both happy and to see how you both work out together
2007-04-10 01:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it first because then you know where you stand and you can make a decision before it ruins the friendship. It didn't sound like their relationship was very serious so I don't think he'd be bothered.
2007-04-10 00:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by playbunnysoup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They dated only amonth and if it was not serious and the breakup was mutual then I don't see a problem. At least you are willing to talk to him about how you two would like to date. See what his reaction is and go from there.
2007-04-10 00:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is my opinion that your friend has no attachments to this woman, after all they only dated for one month. That's only a short blip on the radar. Certainly if you explain to him that you are sincerely interested in each other for long-term committment and potentially even children, he will give you his blessing.
2007-04-10 00:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date her, its none of your friends business or concern who you date. It didn't work out with them and it's over and it may work with you two....this may be the one, not your friend.(you dont want to date your friend)
If he's your true friend he won't have problem one with it. you just sorta mention it to him in a couple of weeks or a month or so if you are still seeing her...again, if he doesn't like it; oh well...and if he stops speaking to you..oh well, it's your life and future..
good luck with your new girl..and oh,don't talk about the friend with her
2007-04-10 00:13:34 · answer #10 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋