my friend has just split with her long term boyfriend after finding out that he tried to get off with her best friend, (her friend told her) should i tell her that he also tried it on with me a few months back but i never said anything to her , my boyfriend is very good friends with her now ex and i was worried that he wouldnt believe me that i hadnt done anything wrong
2007-04-09 23:43:08 · 20 answers · asked by choccybunnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i was also worried that she wouldnt belive me either, or blame me for them splitting them up
2007-04-09 23:45:01 · update #1
f@ck you tweety
2007-04-10 00:01:32 · update #2
I don't think you should tell her. There really is no point. All it will do is cause her more hurt and upset. They have already split up so what will it achieve? My friend split up with her long term boyfriend a few months ago after finding out he'd cheated on her. Over the weeks following their break up all kinds of things emerged about him trying it on with her friends etc. Her reaction his this was anger. She felt she didn't need to know any of this. She already knew what a looser her ex was and she'd finished with him. She was trying to move on with her life and felt she couldn't when everyone kept telling her stories about him. Her ex tried it on with me on at least two occasions but I never and will never tell her because there is no need.
2007-04-10 00:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you seem to be caught in the middle. I was in some what of a simular position. I never told my freind since I didn't want her to be hurt but put her boyfriend in his place. When they split, then I told her, being as she had known me for so long and well, she belived me. They ended up getting back together but there were no hard feelings. Then they split again since he was a total loser. So I would say tell her. If they don't belive you then you don't need them in your life anyways. She needs to know!
2007-04-09 23:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sidney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ur call. Think of your friendship and your relationship.
Your friend will think y u didnt tell her earlier (u didnt do a best friend's job by telling her when it happened and showed her what kind of a b friend she had. U let her discover herself and would have kept quiet and let her fall into trouble if she didnt find out). Next, u didnt tell ur b friend when it happened. if he is good to u, he must b trusting u to the end. U by keeping it from him, let him down too. If u tel now, it shows that there is a part of u to b blamed too. So, good luck.
2007-04-09 23:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by tweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see any need to if they have broken up. She has heard once that he tried it on with someone else and thats enough for her to know what type he is.
Just be there for her to comfort her as Im sure shes upset - but let the story of her ex slide for now - if she gets notions to try and get him back or something - then maybe Id tell her - but for now I dont see the point.
xx
2007-04-09 23:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya, No don't tell her, even though you were not at fault if you were going to tell her you should have told her at the time. And if for any reason her ex mentions to your boyfriend that he tried it on with you, just say something like i don't remember that. He sounds like a right one and she is better off without him. Good Luck
2007-04-10 00:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This issue is very delicate...I understand that you don´t know what to do...I have always believe that is better than no one gets in the middle of a couple...because they understand each other, everyone has a mind of his own, and sometimes you don´t understand why, but some couples steel together although infidelity, dishonesty...you name it!... My advice is that you keep it that way, don´t say nothing to her... they are no longer together, and that´s it...life did it´s part.... just think that if you say something right now to her...what good can possible bring to your friend? to you? and to your boyfriend? leave it that way...
2007-04-09 23:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by staytrue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time to tell has passed. You should have told when it happened. Now they're broken up and she's broken-hearted (whether she says it or not) and you should just keep it to yourself. There are better ways to be supportive to your friend. Dishing up old stuff and throwing doubt-filled attention on yourself isn't one of those ways.
2007-04-10 00:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have you to gain if you tell her, she already knows what a low life he turned out to be. Why go ahead and jeopardise your relationship, you haven't done anything wrong so just leave sleeping dogs lie just be there for her when she wants to have a chat :O)
2007-04-10 00:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. dont get involved now,its over between n no need to bring old stuff up because it could cause a lot of trouble
2007-04-10 02:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by kc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if she has split with him then there is really no need to rock the boat anymore.
2007-04-09 23:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋