I am getting a divorce and should be able to file next month due to just becoming a resident of another state. My soon to be ex will be getting a disability settelment in a couple of weeks. I was with him from the time he filed for almost a year after 18 years of marriage. I am divorcing him because he gave up on life after an injury and there was the whole sleeping with my cousin and his co-worker thing also. My question is should I take the easy way out and just divorce and get it over with (my idea), or file for a part of the settelment since I was with him for 18 years (Moms idea) and end up in a fight? There are no kids or property involved so it would be a simple quick thing once filed. Thanks for all the help.
2007-04-09 19:20:12 · 10 answers · asked by JUSTME 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If there is absolute proof of his having an affair, it won't even be much of a fight. It should be pretty quick.
Doesn't he owe you for eighteen years of your life? You take care of him and sacrifice your life for his and then he jumps into other women's beds? You have every right to make him PAY!
If a man has an affair, it's almost certain (90%) that he has been having them for a LONG time. I have known a few men that have had affairs, and every one of them have been having them since before the marriage. Most men who have them are ones that marry because it's easier to have a woman take care of their house.
2007-04-09 19:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by sexymaylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you need to ask yourself is were you affected by the disability as well? Is there a portion of the settlement that goes to your pain and suffering as a result of his changes? If so, sounds like you are due a part of the settlement. The law in your state might be clear about whether or not you get a portion at the time of divorce. If the law is clear - it probably won't be a fight because his lawyer will tell him he will lose no matter what!
Good for you for trying to do the "right thing!"
Good luck.
2007-04-10 06:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by CV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the money doesn't mean anything to you and you're financially stable the best thing would be to leave it be. Are you entitled I guess so but if you don't want a headache and simply want to move on w/ your life then fighting for the money will just drag this on. "the principle" of getting your share comes w/ other burdens. Personally, I didn't fight my husband ( no kids either) . It was quick and easier(not easy)to do that. In the end you have to do what's best for you and not listen to other people.
2007-04-10 02:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say go with what you want. if you just want to end it and get it over with then do it. the money wouldn't change the hurt you have felt. especially if you are able to work and make a living on your own. my aunt's husband came home one day after work and looked at her and said i just can't live with you anymore. (after 32+ years of marriage) he owns several companies and constantly had her moving around sometimes only after 6 months of living there. she moved to canada after they got married away from all of her family and friends. she followed him everywhere dragging their two kids around from place to place as he bought new companies and sold others. so she defintely went for alimony and i don't blame her in the least. he essentially ruined her life. and after that long you would think he'd have known way before that. i dont' think it's any coincidence he did this as their youngest of the two started college.
2007-04-10 02:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on what the settlement is supposed to cover - you're probably entitled to a an amount based on how much time you had to deal with and/or support him for his injury, as a percentage of the number of years the settlement will cover, then divided by 2.
2007-04-10 02:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by i♥sf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I detest women who seek money from a breakup; but since your ex only got rich off the taxpayers I say go for everything he's got.
2007-04-10 02:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by kirbyguy44 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some disabilities can not be garnished for anything except if you owe money to the government
2007-04-10 02:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by skcs11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must decide what is right here. Do you deserve money he is getting because he is disabled?
2007-04-10 02:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww.... well ask you lawyer!
2007-04-10 02:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by Fletcher G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ARE YOU RETARDED? ASK FOR THE CASH
2007-04-10 03:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mensa Head 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋