well im gay and involved with a girl and shes mean to my kids well she curses at them i told her to stop it plus she babysits but everytime i ll\et someone stay over for a few weeks (brother and sister) she trips weve been together for 7 months now and i love her but shes real rude. my brother is kinda slow and she talked real smart to him and he got smart back and they started arguing like crazy shes 40 and hes 23. what shall i do .........hes a fire bug and every where my mother move to he burns them out and thats why he is homeless and now she has decided to not come back while he there because he had a knife in the widoe seal where he slept like i said he slow and dont really know any better and it was just crazy and she's been living with me for the whole 7 months what shall i do. please help. shall i convince her to stay or just let her leave.
2007-04-09 19:08:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let her leave.
2007-04-09 19:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel that you need to let her go. if you love her stay friends. she seems to be the time that wants everything her way or the highway. so let her see the highway. your kids comes first if you don't curse at your kids she shouldn't. what kind of example parents are you two setting for you child. i know you want not want your kids curse at your grandchildren. she does respect your kids or your family. if she has a problem with your brother that is something that she should first bring to you as long as he isn't disrespecting her. you can find someone a lot nicer. also if you have only been dating for 7 months at isn't long enough time knowing someone to have around your kinds what happens if you didn't love your in 2 years that can add up to allot of women.
2007-04-10 02:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by just want to know 2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried talking to her about the way she deals with your kids and family? if you have and she doesnt even want to change then you don't really have a lot of time invested in your relationship to get out while the gettings good. What if she were to start getting physical with the kids or you brother. If you love her theres got to be a reason i'm sure but if she doesn't respect you over things like this then how will it be in the future.
2007-04-10 02:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by evilstepmonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say its okay to love someone and to care for someone but if you are not in love with her leave. Its only making you look for every little reason because you want to say good bye without hurting her because shes not really what you want dont feel guilty. If you stay or ask her to stay and shes not your love you will only hurt her. You didnt say you was bisexual so obviously she not what you want. Its okay to love her as a person she will love you for your honesty and friendship.
2007-04-10 03:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok your gay but with a women? You have children who are being "verbally abused" by some girl and you allow her to stay? She puts down a "mentally slow person", what answer are you looking for? She sounds crazy, I think you know what to do...
2007-04-10 02:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by imissrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have so much to deal with right now and you need some loving counseling. You need to call or stop by a Christian church and ask them to pray for you...God loves you and your brother very much...God is love and He wants to help us but we don't ask...we don't seek Him with all of our hearts... Jesus Christ is knocking right now, God puts before us blessings or cursings and we must choose...choose blessings...
Father, I pray by your power and your Holy Spirit you convict hearts in Jesus' precious name, and I pray Father that any unclean spirits be rebuked and cast out never to return in Jesus' precious name... Now just repeat these words and mean them in your heart: Father, I am a sinner in need of a savior, Jesus I believe you died on the cross for my sins and the Father rose you again three days later, come into my life, be the Lord of my life and my best friend and by your power and your Holy Spirit guide me all the days of my life in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit; Amen...
Start taking your children to Sunday school, God will bless you ... He loves you so much ... He can heal these problems and more...He healed even my childhood hurts...He is loving, and kind and gentle and humble and faithful...TRUST JESUS;CALL ON HIM! No child should be verbally, mentally, or physically abused... pray for your friend but do not let anyone hurt your children in any way...real love doesn't hurt it heals
You are loved more than you know...and you have a spiritual family in Christ.
Sista C
2007-04-10 02:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by sista c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever thought about asking your kids? first of all she treats your kids badly,second, she doesnt respect family members. wow how can you handle her? have you ever thought about your kids opinion. to my opinion i think it's best to leave her. trust me you honestly do not want your kids to look up to her. shes a bad role model. i understand you love her to but have you ever thought that you can do much better than her ? because it's time for you to let go off of her. and think about your kids, do they like her ? good luck
2007-04-10 02:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by MHD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is not doing you or your kids or brother any good. but that love thing man. thats hard to let go. see if you can talk to her. may by she can see things you don't see. talk to her NOW
2007-04-10 02:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her. you are the one that is responsible for your own happiness, not her. if its only been 7months and its this bad, it is not gonna get any better.
2007-04-10 02:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tolerate anyone who is mean to your kids.
2007-04-10 02:11:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your kids are what matters get rid of her
2007-04-10 02:14:26 · answer #11 · answered by Troy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋