Sign Of Low Self Esteem?

Question

Alright, I don't really seem to have a problem talking with attractive girls if they are around or whatever. But I start talking to some frequently at school and whatnot, and after a bit of talking, I want to ask for their phone number or something, but in the back of my mind, I start thinking I shouldn't because I am probably not their type, or it would be really awkward, or they would think I am weird for making a move or something. Anyway, I am wondering if these doubts are a sign of low self esteem on my part. I think I have had this problem for awhile. I am told quite a bit that I am attractive and whatnot, but I still get these doubts in my mind, and usually don't end up asking for a number or anything. Is there any advise to help overcome this? It is really very annoying.

Answer 1

this is probably a sign of low self esteem, but that is not the entire story.
you are a polite and orderly chap, I can tell. You treat your fellow human with respect. However, this respect is detrimental to your 'esteem' as is disallows you to morally be able to do something like as a girl for her number or whatnot. This cannot be helped with a simple tip, but with you trying to block out your subconscious as it tries to tell you what is 'morally acceptable'. The way I do this is I say that there are no moral morals (Think about it- morals are self founded, so any moral in society is someone's view, not necessarily yours or hers), so being morally acceptable is not a problem for me.

The only thing you can do is to ignore your voice and give it a try. If you get her number, your conscious is wrong, if not, then she wasn't right. either way, your conscience is wrong, and your brain and wants are correct.

Answer 2

Hey a little fear and a little low self-esteem are all a part of every persons make up. We all have some fears that we should be dealing with, but what we don't want is to let them overtake us. That old saying about bitting the bullet is exactly what you're going to have to do. Once you get this accomplished the first couple oftimes after that you'll be just fine. Just don't give up. Be a soldier about it.

Answer 3

This is because your ego doesn't want you to feel belittled. Try looking at things differently. If you ask 5 girls for their phone, at least one will give it to you. If you ask 0 girls for their number, you won't ever have a date.

If a girl turns you down, say something like--- Oh, I had a friend I thought that you might like to meet. or Okay, I just thought you might like to know when ____ band was in town. or Okay, a friend of mine told me that you might need some help with you Physics class. (Just say something to deflect from the rejection and walk away like it really didn't matter.)

You look good, and there is no feeling of being uncomfortable or rejected.

Answer 4

You are a scared to death wimp. Try a different approach like: Do you ever go skating? I'm going to be at he ABC skating rink friday, why don't you stop by? or coffee shop or mall or whatever you t5thin she might be interested in.

Answer 5

feel the fear and do it anyway...It also helps if you know what you want, if thats what you want then go for it...Im kinda like you in some ways...I know what I want, but my morals and standards gets in the way.