What would you do?

Question

What would you do if you lost everything that you had? Job, home, money, family, respect, etc.? Would you press on or would you give up? Would you try to get help or solve your problems alone?

Just thought I'd ask.

Answer 1

I know what I would do, because I am living through this.
In '93 I was hit by a truck at work. Over several years the results of that continued worsening, by '98 I was in so much pain I made errors at work, and I was fired for it. After that, no one would even try me out for a week, for work. I had no children, so I did not qualify for government help. With everything gone, I had to rely on my retired mother for existence. Four years later I reached minimum retirement age, so I took my retirement. That turned out to be $469.00 a month, with no medical benefits. So, now, truly destitute, reliant upon government health services, and not qualified for any other kinds of help, I find I must now remain in my mother's house.
I had a wonderful man in my life while this was going on. My mother has always rented out rooms in our house to bring in extra money, and he and I met because he was renting one of them. So she at least had that much money coming in.
Last year he died in February, so, along with all the other aspects of that, his financial contribution ended. Then the other roommate left, leaving my mother unable to pay the house payment. She tried to refinance her house, but the unscrupulous loan salesman saw my mother coming, and tricked her into an even more expensive loan than before. I didn't know this had happened. A few weeks later she broke her pelvis, and my sister, a tax accountant, came to visit. My sister got a look at my mom's finances, and immediately convinced her to sell the house and move 2,000 miles away -near my sister's house.
That left me with two choices. Move to a place I did not want to be AT ALL, or be homeless where I grew up. So I moved with my mom.
So what am I doing? Turning my hobby of art into what I hope will become a career, meeting new people, trying to do more work than I have been advised to do by my physicians so I am acting responsibly and appreciatively to my mother. I don't know what the results of my efforts will be, but I will always know I've done my best.
And I'm keeping an open mind as to what the future may bring.

Answer 2

Just thought I'd answer...

I've lost one or the other in different stages of my life, but I've never been in a situation where I lost everything simultaneously. I can try to be very deep about this, but I'm finding I prefer to be very honest instead...

I probably would end up blaming myself for everything, hating the very day I existed, and wishing for the earth to crack open and to swallow me up. I think, like a diver, I'd need to go as deep into the darkness as I could until I touch the sea bed. Because that's the only way I can assure myself that there's no other way to go but up.

The hardest thing I've been through happened to me not more than 2 months ago. My Mother died last Valentine's Day just a couple of weeks after my Father passed away. I was still reeling with the shock over the loss of my father and my losing my Mum was like the blow that fell me over. It was one fell swoop and my world was suddenly so dark.

Thing is, I allowed myself to be swallowed by the sadness. I did not pretend I was alright or that I'm sure I'll be okay. I just groped around and tried to live life by the day. Today, I am not 100% okay, perhaps I'll never be, but I can still find hope. And I find that I still can dream.

What got me through was my belief that I can be a fiber stronger than I originally thought I was and the friends who gave me their unrelenting support.

I hope it never happens to you, sir. But if it does, just keep on swimming. :)

Answer 3

Many people have been through this ordeal, look at all the Vietnamese who came to the USA with nothing but the clothes they had.

If they could do it, you already have a head start, you speak English, you have had success in the past and armed with that past history, know that you were capable of acquiring everything that you lost. That puts you far out in front of them and the many similar people who have had to start with far less than you already have.

Yes, get help if it's available but know that you are still in control of your destiny. If you can still walk, talk, think and care enough, you must remember what NOT to do the next time around.

Answer 4

I would look at it as a test of myself, learning experiences, One of the traits of a human is the indomitable spirit to succeed, and persevere. The British are a good example of that during and after WWll. The hardest thing to get back is respect. Pray to God through Jesus. Many people find inner strength from that.

Answer 5

hey!! um well if i lost everything i think i would be sad about it for a few days than realize i need to get my life starting again.. if i lost family and respect i guess there is nothing else for me to do but try working from the bottom ups.. starting off fresh.. earning everything back.. yeah its not going to come back to me fast.. but everything takes time..





















by the way i tried emailing you back but it wont send, sorry

Answer 6

i would try to thrive on what i have. apply for jobs constantly. if in desperate need i would ask my parents or friends or family for some extra money. and i would pray everyday.