My step daughter is 16 and likes to go to friends houses and then turn it into a sleepover after midnight. We don't mind a sleepover if we talk to the parents first and it is planned earlier in the day.
2007-04-09 17:55:50 · 8 answers · asked by JFH 4 in Games & Recreation ➔ Other - Games & Recreation
I also have a 16 year old daughter and I have to say I do not let her go anywhere until midnight to begin with. Maybe if it was a dance or something special like that but never over to the friends house just to hang out. Seems like it would be bothersome to the friends parents. Do her and her friends hang out at your house until midnight? I'd be leery. However if this is something you as a family and those friends parents are comfortable with you just need to set some boundaries with her and stick to them. If you tell her you need advanced warning about sleepovers then the next time she tries to stay over go pick her up. Might be she is not even at this friends house and its just an excuse to stay out doing other things... Go with your gut about those things. Sure it will be inconvenient for you to go out at midnight but I bet she gets embarrassed in front of her friends (or it totally messes up her big plans) and doesnt try it again. I know how you feel - sleepovers are not the end of the world... do we really need to make a federal case? Sleepover is not the point. Not taking advantage, not manipulating and doing what is expected of you is the lesson here for her. This is just my humble opinion. Make of it what you will but I hope it helps some.
2007-04-09 18:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by KineGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it depends. If you honestly trust your daughter and know that she is genuinely staying at the friends house and not up to anything, I think it's fine. I'm a teenager and I know some people though that will call and ask to stay over somewhere if they don't want to go home because they are intoxicated or at a party. But on the other hand, she could also just leave the house with every intention of returning home and then just losing track of time. I obviously don't know your daughter, so the best advice I can give you is to use your judgement, you're the parent.
Do not check up on her without her knowing or act like you trust her if you don't really. If she EVER finds out, she will be upset and angry that you weren't honest. Trust is something to be valued, especially between a parent and child.
2007-04-09 18:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by emjaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly fine. My younger sister goes to her friends house and when she suppose to leave, she turns into a sleepover. My parents call her friends parents when she's over there to ask if it's ok for a sleepover. So just call her friends parents and talk it out.
2007-04-09 18:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by CCezi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if it gets kind of late after all the fun they had, it looks like it would be safer for her to sleepover than to have anyone out late at night with all the "Nightcrawlers" lurking out there. What happens is that the girls talk and laugh all night until they fall asleep! =<)
2007-04-09 18:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Grandmaster Adler von Chase 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, i'd let my daughter have sleep overs with a gay male yet i'm in problem-free words a teenager so i do not might want to be bothered about that...haha. yet i'm 16 besides and that i have an exceedingly close gay pal and my mom enables him to sleep over, interior the same mattress with the door closed...that's no longer a large deal, hes gay, and my mom is conscious he's not any longer after sex from me...or the different woman! i'm also aloud to spend the nighttime with him, my moms and his mom are cool with it. Your father and mother might want to sit back, if he's gay you ought to have the capacity to have the door closed and sleep interior the same mattress... in the journey that they received't let/believe you with a gay guy then you might want to be allowed to have immediately men and lesbian females sleep over too, haha...after all they already imagine your gay pal is immediately, so what's the damage in having an truthfully immediately guy spend the nighttime?
2016-10-18 00:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you! She's your daughter!, If you don't like it, then tell her know!, Just remind you that 16 is the beginning of the time where you have to watch your kids so they don't sneak off to concerts, lie about where they are and sleep with boys, I'd check up one her without her knoing! But act like you trust her, so she will tell you everything.
2007-04-09 18:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Travel Agent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its fine as long as you talk to their parents about it.and you shouldnt be so strict the stricter you are the more out of controll she will be beacuse she will hate you.
2007-04-09 17:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by LAINA LOU 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think its perfectly fine. they're not doing nothing bad at all so why not???
2007-04-09 18:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋