Please I need help I am a devastated teen and my mom wants to divorce my dad! X(?

Question

Please any advice...

Answer 1

You have no control over this situation at all!!!

Stay out of it

Answer 2

I know how you feel, but remember that they are the adults. Kids are the one who usually get hurt the most in divorce. You have to let them do whatever they need to do to be happier themselves. You still will have both parent's, and they both do still love you. If they divorce, make time for both parent's, never take sides after a divorce. Just because they get divorced does not make you have to divorce one parent or the other. Be sure to let the judge know which parent you would rather live with most of the time, so that parent can get custody and the other one you can go visit or have parent's file for joint custody, this way, you can spend equal amount of time through the year with each parent. I know you can do this, and it is really not bad at all, once you get use to it. Been there myself.

Answer 3

Your parents marriage is between them...

They each love you in thier way and that will continue even if they divorce.. When parents divorce it is never the child(childrens) fault..

Sometimes relationships just don't work out...

Sometimes no matter how hard people try they grow apart and can be better people apart...

You probably do not know or understand all the reasons, but it is apparent there is unhappiness, your mother deserves the chance to seek her happiness...

Try your best to remain out of the middle.. Talk to a trusted adult friend, school teacher, school counselor... That adult can help you talk to both of your parents and explain your need to remain neutral...

The divorce will be much easier on you if you get a set of rules and guidelines in place for you and your parents...

Guidelines such as..

1. I the child will not be confidant to either parent

2. U the parents will not place me in the middle by sharing accusations about the other parent with me..

3. U the parents will understand I need to communicate with both of you on a regular basis, neither of you will try to stop be from communicating with the other..

4. I the child need reassurance that I am love by both of you.. That love is not a contest and should not be treated as such.

5. I am not a pawn to be used to hurt each other..

If you can talk to your parents and get them to agree to a set of guidelines regarding you.. This divorce will go much more sommthly for you..

Just keep in mind not all marriages work out and sometimes the best choice is to make the breakup as painless as possible...

Answer 4

Hang in there. I am assuming you are devastated because your mother wants to divorce your father.
Please remember that you are separate person from them, and that you are their child.
It is hard to accept the break up of parents, because it takes a long time for children to see their parents as humans with the same weaknesses as other people.
Try to find strength by talking to friends or others you can trust, so that you can feel safer.
What you are experiencing is dread and anxiety, because you feel that you do not know what the future holds.
But remember that you are safe. Keep calm and see what your parents work out.
Focus on getting a good education and moving forward. It is the only way to establish a sense of direction and control over your own future.

Answer 5

First, you need to understand that your parents' relationship has NOTHING to do with you. Marriage is an agreement and all a divorce means is that they no longer agree to the terms of their agreement; not that they don't love each other.

Second, try not to think that there is anything you can do to prevent it. Sometimes divorces happen for good reasons (ie. abuse, adultery, or addiction) so this could be a blessing in disguise.

I know that it is hard on you because their relationship is changing but that doesn't mean that your relationship with either parent needs to suffer. Just be supportive of their decision, know that they are adults and know what's best for them, and that you will be fine.

Best of luck to you and your family through this hard time. In the end, it all works out so don't worry.

Answer 6

Mom may have a good reason. Even if you may not think so, chances are you may not know the whole story and quite honestly aren't entitled to the whole truth. I'm sure this is a difficult time for them too. Make sure you communicate your love for both parents and don't take sides.

Answer 7

How do you know mom wants to divorce dad? Did she come out and say it to you or to you just over hear them argue. Often, parents argue and say that with out meaning it. tell mom and dad you forbid that talk until they go to counceling.

Answer 8

i know its hard but try to talk 2 them . my parents were abusing eachother and i didnt know about it till i came home early one day and i say them in the act of doing so . then the police came and we (me and mom) went to some "safty house" now were back together but we still have some holes in the family but were still a family. just try your best to stay cool and help in any way you can ,trust me little things help the most
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Answer 9

Remember this is their life not yours. If your mom wants to divorce your dad then that is her right to do so. She will still be your mom and he will still be your dad. Their relationship has nothing to do with you.

Answer 10

You may not be able to do anything about it. But you will have face the results of it if it happens. What do you want to do? Live with parents who do not get along, suffer without one parent. Live with both parents in harmony. tell them what you like, what they do is up to them