are glad to have left much of it behind..or at least grown out of it. One stereotype that really bothers me is when young people think that all people my age want from them is sex. Nothing could be further from the truth.I'm in my 50's. I don't find youth that appealing. I prefer men my own age. Am I alone in this?
2007-04-09 17:45:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Rose...I'll always want you :)
2007-04-09 18:03:05 · update #1
No, definitely not. Just remember that everyone will age eventually. Life changes, and just because we're gay doesn't mean that we won't age.
You're talking about he Gay scene, not necessarliy the majority of people that make up the gay community. And with any community there are people with different beliefs and values. I'm 42 this year and past my youth, but I think that my 40's are going to be the best part of my life. I know more than I did when I was 20, I am more secure within myself, I realise that there is more to life than sex, although a bit doesn't go astray (with my husband, that is!), I have more money than I did when I was I ws 20, and I have great friends to share my life with.
I wouldn't want to give that up for the world. How many 20 year old's can say the same?
The assumptions that these young people make, you won't be able to change that, and I'm sorry you've had that experience, but they'll have to face it someday themselves, that they are not a young as they used to be.
And yeah! It's their loss because youve had years more experience at love making than they have. They don't know what they're missing out on.
Keep smiling!
2007-04-09 19:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Wayne B Australia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I usually dodge smart questions as my psychological deficiencies coach via yet i'll make an exception this one time. i'll bypass out on a limb and say that i've got confidence opposite ageism (or juvenile ageism) is a procedures extra worry-unfastened in the LGBT community than classic ageism. what proportion cases have you ever chanced on your self thinking 'and what might you understand kiddo', or not taking a youthful person's opinion heavily because of the fact they are 20 and not 40. I even have been responsible of it (i'm 34) and that i guess particularly some 'boomers' have been indignant via my outspoken behaviour at cases. opposite ageism will finally end up dividing the LGBT community previous restore if we proceed the way we are going. I shall now retire returned to my corner and attempt to regenerate some new strategies cells to alter those I broken with that dribble
2016-10-28 07:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by bucci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and the only thing I could see getting in the way of my having a relationship with an older (read: 15 years or more) woman is my own personal form of ageism: I am intimidated by age, as I was raised to believe that with it comes superiority. I think I could get over that though. In the local lesbian community I KNOW that the young ones have no problem dating the older ones, though I'm not sure whether the older ones have interest in us younguns. I haven't noticed a great problem on the female side, but a bit of one on the male side (I used to manage the only gay bar in town (ie, lesbians, gay men, and everything in between all at once), which is where my perspective comes from. And no, it wasn't a youth bar: my bosses (it's run by a community board) were all at least 35...the president's in his 50's.
2007-04-09 19:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kainai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm almost 21 and genderqueer and I'm somewhat past that whole just wanting sex thing. I'm looking for an actual relationship with someone. I can't just have casual sex with a random person. I need intimacy. Probably *part* of the reason I haven't had many relationships in forever with people my own age. As far as ageism goes, I've seen all kinds of people. I never assume anything.
2007-04-09 18:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I prefer men my own age . (22)
You are happy to be 50 and past your youth. Cool. I'm happy to be in my youth and I have no regrets or complexes about it.
There are all types of gay men. It's fairly easy to determine who's cruising and who's not. Age has nothing to do with it.
If an older gay dude initiates a conversation with a 20 year-old and the comments are sexually-orientated it's fair to say that someone is trying to "hit" on someone. It works both ways.
.
2007-04-09 20:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, I am 32, and I find I have the most in common with guys my own age. I still like LOOKING at younger guys, but that's about it. I know that the majority of the gay "bois" at the clubs think of someone my age as ancient and decrepit- but I don't care, they will be here eventually, and I am amused by them. I am not generalizing ALL the younger guys when I say this, because I have met a lot of old souls in the gay community as well as infantile. I always think of it this way- gay years are about double the straight ones... LOL
2007-04-09 19:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Donny S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I prefer guys who are older than me. And for sure, ageism is terrible in this community. I'm going to be absolutely devastated if I'm still single when I turn 30 in three and a half years. I've got this idea in my head that if you're a single gay man when you turn 30, you're over the hill and should just give up ever finding someone.
☼
2007-04-09 17:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that folks who get stuck in their sexual adolesence and continue preferring teens have a big problem, as they themselves get older and older.
That's why there are gay bars specifically designed to exploit this teenage fixation in old men, with skinny, crack-addicted anemic boys dancing on chrome poles for rich old men. It's not a pretty picture, in my view, but to each their own . . .
Ageism pervades our culture, as a result of the bombardment of youthful images in commercials and advertisements. Gays don't have a monoply here, and reflect the larger society.
2007-04-09 21:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kedar 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I hang-out at this gay cowboy bar, and I am usually the youngest by about 25-30 years. As long as they aren't hitting on me incessantly, and we actually have something to talk about ... works for me.
I have a hard time giving people 6 years younger than me the time of day.
2007-04-09 17:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as did the now famous photographer discover so have I maintained that youth is beauty-however for me it is only those consentual,and mature of mind of course I have not been involved with anyone in 27 yrs however I have found none outside the legal bounds of consentuallity that I would even consider much less find attractive rather it has been those 18 though usually 22 to 29 that still to this day effect
me,and for those near my age none beyond mere association would I consider.
2007-04-09 18:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by boutgivup 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋