my friend and i were great. hes been through some losses (a dad who was shot dead and a mom who left him all at the age of 7) and we were always there for each other. any guy who broke my heart, my friend was there to break him. he soon started acting weird, saying i was "annoying" and he knew a lot of things about me he didnt like. I backed down , gave him his time and soon it was ALMOST normal. then this really hotguy that i like got interested in me and started saying perverted and rude things. when my friend found out, he blew up and started yelling at that guy. heres my mistake: i told him to stop. i told him to chill and i would handle it and that was the end of our friendship. he said "u liked it it made u feel special" and almost ignored me completely. then one day, i find out he has a girlfriend!! he didnt even tell me!!!!! now its almost normal, but i know itll never be the same again. what should i do?
2007-04-09 17:27:31 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To those who have known pain, inflicting more of the same is probably one of the worst things you can do.
You see, while you were busy living your little life and meeting guys and having fun, you had a friend, who had your back. When, Hon, were you a friend? He helped you the way he is accustomed to (you led him to believe this was okay, I might add), he feels important in your life and for HOT Guy who is a 5 second incident on your horizon, you let your firned down.
This time, you be the dependable one. Not the one with the flaky (no offense) emotions, that get this poor kid in and out of trouble on a regular basis. Confront his females? I think not. But yours can be the shoulder he mourns on. Be there with lots fo hot chocolate and ice cream. Males, like to be babied, even when they are protesting, they purr like kittens.
And if you want him to watch your back do so. If you aren't sure this will work every time, then, Your back becomes your problem, but at least you have your friend.
Have a star and feel better soon, okay? Give a virtual hug and a star to your friend, and tell him he's amazing.
PS One of those answers hit it on the head. I think your friend was beginning to fall for you, or he'd already done so, but wouln't reveal it in order to not mess up the frienship, in case it got wierd.
Either way, he has a new girlfriend, your relationship is on the mend, and I think you two will be fine, as long as one isn't constantly taking (or receiving) all of the benefits, and the other does all of the giving. Appreciation or not.
Hope I helped!
2007-04-09 17:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think there's some misunderstanding here.you better talk to him in a calm manner once and clear out all the things so that it will all be fine between the two of you. though i am not sure i think your friend liked you a little beyod friendship and so he must have blown up that hot guy you mentioned.
there's nothing greater than friendship in this world.don't lose him for some stupid reasons.go and talk to him in the nicest way possible and listen to him carefully.you might get some clue out of what he tells you.
good friends like him are really hard to find in this world .so don't lose him.
good luck.
2007-04-09 18:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by asp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes our "friends" expect too much from us. They want us to be the way they think that we should be. Just don't let it get to you. If he is a real friend, he will get back in touch.
Did you ever think that he may have strong feelings for you that he has not revealed? Hearing about all of your trials and tribulations, may have frustrated him because he could not do anything to stop it. When he finally made the move, you asked him to stop. He may just be very hurt. This new girlfriend may be his way of getting over you. Think about it.
2007-04-09 17:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really is your best friend, he'll forgive you...
Plus why did he got mad at you for just stopping him. And have you ever thought that he might have a crush on you and became jealous because you always go out with other guys and not notice him?! Whooooaa! Too much drama! He'll forgive you, you'll see, someday.
Wish you luck! Always have confidence and trust in you... :-)
2007-04-09 17:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by saviour 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for what it's worth...don't be this guys' friend...he sounds like he was trying to help you..but perhaps control you somewhat...you have to do what you have to do..for you,alone.
SOme friends you have for a long time..and then poof! you have to let them go...maybe if they care about you..they "might" come back..but, it all depends..ya know?
I dropped a friend of mine...about two to three years back...it was a good thing...she was doing things to me that were NOT healthy for our friendship....and I was in extreme denial..but, I also "knew" technically that I didn't appreciate the way that she would treat me, as well. I used to tell my mom,and family and some of my family knew..and they would tell me "Dump this so called friend" (if she had really honestly cared enough about me..she wouldn't have tried to "pick up" all of my ex-boyfriends and other guys that I liked as well she also had NO morals..and or scruples..and that REALLY angered me, alot!) She also hurt others in the process, and that is NOT how I want to be...nor do I want to be with friends such as this...I don't have that much respect for them...it just ends up goin' down the drain with me!
If your friend cared about you,,,he wouldn't have said what he said and just up and left you...this is NOT showing that you care....and the fact that he also said some rude comments to you...well, (even though I wasn't there) I think that the both of you would do wayyy better to NOT associate with one another anymore...you can do better!
Good luck..and look for friends that love and respect you, for YOUR true feelings,and care honestly about you!
But, it DOES sound like your friend was just trying to protect you somewhat...but, I guess that you don't happen to agree with that...you both need to chill somewhat....like I said...don't bother him anymore..move on!
2007-04-09 17:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anne99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever stop to think that maybe your friend is "in love with You?" I know what that can be like. My best friend treated me like that as well. Only thing is that I knew he was in love with me. Maybe I'm wrong, but maybe he does feel love for you and doesn't know how to go about it.
2007-04-09 17:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lovely Day Dreams... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That guy had/has a crush on you. You're playing stupid and no one here is going to buy it. Talk to him about it; that is the only way you are going to fix this or at least get some closure.
2007-04-09 17:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by THUB 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are able to desire to speak on your pal. tell her what you think of approximately her, and enable her understand how you experience whilst she says those unfavorable issues approximately herself. get a 2nd opinion too. if she sees what proportion human beings love her and is confident there are a number of good stuff approximately her, she would loosen up. if she ignores this and keeps to be unfavorable, she would desire to be depressed. get her some help because of the fact melancholy is severe and it doesnt harm only her. it might desire to harm you as nicely.
2016-10-28 07:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by bucci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's his loss. Even though he's been through alot he shouldnt be doing that to you.
2007-04-09 17:31:25 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It'll never be the same again,
Keep moving forward . . .
On to your new life .
(maybe someday you'll be platonic friends for real)
2007-04-09 17:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋