Ok. So about 3 months ago I was messing around with my boyfriend and I ended up getting preg. Well, I had a miscarriage in the middle of my second month. Well, I was messing around with my boyfriend a little while ago at a party, and it went a little farther than what I had planned. I think I may be preg. again. I need help finding out how I might tell my parents because they didn't know about the first time or any of this at all. I would greatly appreciate any advice on this. I am only 13 I will be 14 in December and my boyfriend is 17... Thank you all.
2007-04-09 16:41:37 · 16 answers · asked by picture_perfect 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Firstly, mucking around is not an excuse for getting pregnant considering this is your 2nd time mistake.
Anyway, just be upfront with them. Not sure if you want to mention the first one since it was a miscarrige anyway.
Depends on you parents. I suggest you go ans speak to them yourself without your boyfriend. Maybe take a friend that wil be able to smooth things a little if it gets heated.
I think you will be fine. Your parents may be a little disappointed that you are pregnant at such an early age, but they will know that there is really nothing they can do but support you.
Good luck telling them and all the best for your pregnancy.
2007-04-09 16:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
How you "might" tell your parents? Please, DO tell and don't wait! They need to know, even if you aren't pregnant again, so they can take you to an ob/gyn to address the previous miscarriage.
Step one: Take a pregnancy test. You can get one for free by calling 1-800-395-HELP.
Step two: Make sure your parents are in a good mood and that you have their full attention.
Step three: Say, "Mom, Dad, I made a poor decision about 3 months ago, and I became pregnant. Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage. I hid it from you because I was embarrassed, but now I realize that you need to know." This will help show them that you are ready to take responsibility for your sexuality.
Step four: "You also need to know that I'm pregnant again." (If you are.)
Step five: Go over your options with them. The same phone number from before will outline your choices and rights. Include your parents in the conversation, but know that they cannot force you to get an abortion.
Email me any time: tipsterkhaz@yahoo.com
2007-04-09 16:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by Kelsey H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents straight up that you think you're pregnant and need their help/support. You need to walk away from the boyfriend - this relationship with him is obviously more than you can handle if you keep getting pregnant. If you are adult enough to be messing around, it is your responsibility to use contraceptives and practice safe sex. Just a word of advice if you aren't already pregnant.
2007-04-09 16:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to be having sex and to be thinking about having sex. And what a creep your boyfriend is!!
You need to be honest to your parents. Make your boyfriend be the "adult" in this relationship and have him with you when you talk to your parents. Better yet, his parents need to be with your parents when you talk to them. The two of you need some common sense. He's too old for you, you're way too young for him. Do you realize that he's almost ready to graduate from high school?? As soon as he turns 18, your relationship with him will turn in to statutory rape. You'll be jailbait if you stay with him. If you two cared about each other at all, you'll stop messing around with each other. You need to grow up, mentally and physically, before you need to be thinking about having sex. Don't play if you can't pay.
2007-04-09 16:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by DH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow i deffinitly dont feel sympathtic for you because im almost 18 years old and im 18 weeks pregnant and i know its going to be hard for me never mind being 13 years old!! If you were my sister or and family member you wouldnt be having sex at all!! Your WAY TOO YOUNG TO HAVE SEX!!! And most likely TOO immature!! Kids are getting their period WAY too young..You should pay EXTRA attention in health class when you go to school because you obviously need to learn to keep your legs closed!! and you think a 17 year old boy is going to care about you when your only 13 and hes only 17..if you ask an adult (male) what they were thinking about when it came to girls when they were 17, their answer is probably going to be SEX! At that age all boys think about is SEX!! trust me i know im 17 and i know A LOT of boys my age. you should go see a councelor or something.
2007-04-09 17:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by CvMamii 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. Beating around the bush will only make things worse. See a Family Planning Clinic for advice and help. Please start using protection, you are too young to take on such a responsibility as a child and sex is not a game.
2007-04-09 16:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by Confused 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all, no 17 year old needs to be having sex with a 13 year old. second of all, why are you so fast? you are way too young to be having sex. sex is a VERY grown up thing to do, and it has alot of consequences. you need to slow down, and you need to use protection. they are more things out there to get besides pregnant. there are stds
are you trying to get pregnant of purpose? believe me honey, be a teenager and dont worry about babies right now. im 25 and i just have my first baby and i feel i like i should have waited till i was 40 or something! you need to slow down before you get yourself in alot of trouble. but you need to tell your parents and go get some birth control.
2007-04-09 16:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1st of all close your darn pants and forget about sex and get your nose in your books girl ...... goodness. babies are VERY hard to take care of. you need and education and a plan foryour life not hey can i borrow money from the state to buy my kids diapers?....2nd someone needs to string the 17 year old up by his balls and teach him a lesson!
wait a week go get a test and tell your mom your screwing around instead of doing your math.....get your head on strait or your life will end up like sh**
2007-04-09 17:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all how come your having sex at such a young age? second of all go get a pregnancy test before you go get all worried if you are pregnant or not. You need to get on a form of birth control such as depo provera or something if your not on it already. Please practice safer sex if you are continuing to have sex . Your to young to have a baby at this age but if you think your old enough to have sex then you need to take better responsibility for your actions.
good luck
2007-04-09 16:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by snookumz24 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You dindn't learn to use protection the first time you got pregnant>??? My Gosh, Babies having Babies!!
As far as your parents you really need to just sit them down and be honest with them. Hopefully they are understanding and will be calm about the whole situation.
I really wish you the best of luck. Good Luck to you.
2007-04-09 16:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋