I'm currently living with my bf, he has been separated from his (wife) for about 9mo. How can i get him to understand that he doesnt need a joint account or cell bills with her! They have separate households obviously. and he's always broke for that same reason. I've almost given up hope on him ever getting divorced and for it not to affect our relationship.
2007-04-09 16:29:58 · 25 answers · asked by Chayis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Truth is hes married . You have no writes what so ever with this guy . I think your his temporary play toy
2007-04-09 16:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by dad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A separation is just that. It's suppose to be a time for each person to figure out exactly what they need to do to try and possibly work our their differences. If no one can come to some sort of agreement, then(unfortunately) divorcee is the next step. By living with your bf, your interfering with this process, just as you are now by ? his bills, and ? a divorce that may not happen. It's obvious that you have no moral standards set for yourself, and the comments seem a bit selfish. Flip the coin, to see how it feels to be on the other side.
2007-04-10 00:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Pixie48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what did you expect. You are already living with a guy who has been separated from his wife for only nine months and are not even divorced yet. He clearly has many financial obligations that have not been resolved. He may not have a choice on that end until the divorce is final. Unfortunately, you may have awhile until the ex is completely out of the picture.. and if he has kids with her.. she will never be.
2007-04-09 23:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by RedSoxFan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First mistake: getting involved with a married man
Second mistake: being with someone that is "supposedly" SEPARATED from their wife for only 9 months...do u think that is enough time to get over something so serious?
Third Mistake: being naive. If he wont get diff bills and all that, then he is OBVIOUSLY trying to hold on to something. DUAH
Forth mistake: Being just DUMB! Why would u want to be with someone that is not trying to get a divorce? You are messing with a MARRIED man, no matter how you look at it.
2007-04-09 23:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient. tell him you expect this from him to get rid of her and move on. how would he feel if you were doing those things for an ex.
i think these things combined are an excuse for each other to keep talking. they will never give up on each other if they don't settle it for once and all.
if they dont have kids together then something is going on.
if he doesnt have time to close these joint accounts
you can ask him if you can help him if he gives you all his personal info.
you can call individual co's and sound like a man as best as u can. what can they do they dont know how he talks.
trust me i have done similiar situations fo my man, just not involving an ex. if he trusts you he would give you his personal info.
2007-04-09 23:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously isn't ready to move on. I would say it is time for you to do so. This may spark him to cut his ties with her if he realizes it's you he wants to be with, or he will finally give it one more go round with her to see if it is over. Being a second wife, I know men don't always see the ties they keep as bad. And the fact that neither one of them has filed for a divorce says someone is still holdiong the reins...and if it is her, you'll never be happy with him!
2007-04-09 23:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by bonnieja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have told him but what have you actually done about it? You are giving him a clear message here: As much as I try to convince you I will still be here whatever you do... set the rules at once and if he doesn't get a divorce leave him unless you are willing to waste time with someone who is not worth...
2007-04-09 23:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dating a man who is still legally married! Of course he is going to have things that hold them two together. He may never divorce her. Never give it away honey, he knows he can get it from both of you anytime. Being separated is nothing but not living together. In the eyes of God, he is married and you are sinning.
2007-04-09 23:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
oooh girl, you better ruuunnn! for one, having a married man as a b/f is a big no-no! (youll see!) but dont let it be the hard way! you need to make alterations in this relationship asap! or he will walk all over you! for one, does he have kids w/ this woman? and 2, you really need to realize that hes only probably using you to get to her or for other reasons! all im saying is if he dont want to change things now then he most likely wont do it later! good luck! and GOD bless!
2007-04-09 23:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by brn.eyed.grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a bad idea to date a married man. You should have waited till they were divorced. Sounds like he does not want to be divorced. You might want to move on. You are probably supporting him since you say he is always broke.
2007-04-09 23:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by Gidget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be as patient and understanding as possible until it becomes his EX-wife. You two shouldn't even be living together. You are giving him all he needs while he still legally married to her and that may lead him to put off divorcing his wife.
2007-04-09 23:39:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋