Can a marriage survive when the trust has been broken and a spouse cheats?

Answer 1

fool me once, shame on you
fool me twice, shame on me

it's better to have your dignity and be alone (or get a cute kitty or doggie), than to be with a heel that makes you question whether you're worthy of fidelity

don't date a man who doesn't pay for everything from the first date on and who doesn't open your door or pull out your chair...WHY? it's not sexist, it's because it shows you he'll respect you and take care of you (or more likely will)
as you read this, there are women being taken to resorts on Kauai by their loving doting husbands who are fetching them Maitais and...well, you get the picture, shoot for the moon not the dumpster

Answer 2

The marriage can only survive if the spouse that cheated will promise not to ever cheat again and the other spouse will forgive and forget. Forget is the most important because you can go on living your life wondering if he is with another woman every time he goes to the store, works late, or takes the car in for service. Then and only then will a marriage survive. If you can't do this, call and make an appointment with a divorce lawyer. And don't let him talk you into using the same lawyer either. You need your own to look out for YOUR rights, not his.

Answer 3

Once a cheater always a cheater? That's crap. If he cheated inside your marriage and this is the first time then its likely he cant deal with the troubles in your marriage. He needs help and you by virtue of being married need help as well. If your marriage is going to survive one time infidelity you need marriage councling not Yahoo Answers. If either one of you isnt willing to see a councellor and learn how to be married, ie effectively communicate, then scrap the marriage because it takes both parties to make the marriage work. If one doesnt want to put forth the effort the effort of the other is wasted. If infidelity has occured more than once. He has no respect for you and will probally never have any respect for you again. Cut your loses and find someone worth your trust. Hope everything works out for the best.

Answer 4

Yes, a marriage can survive. A marriage can survive through anything if both parties are willing to work at it. Why is it that everyone thinks marriage is all peaches and cream. Marriage is hard work. A marriage should be worked on before, during and if done right there won't be an after. People need to stop being lazy and putting the blame on the spouse. The cheater is not the only one that needs to work at it. Both parties do. And both parties need to continue to work at it even when everything seems all right. And most of all There needs to be prayer. God ordained marriage and He is not going to let something He ordained and blessed go out like that.

Answer 5

First off, you are not required to forgive someone right away. The process of forgiveness isn't just about forgiving and forgetting. It's about recovering after having been harmed. You have every right to your feelings and your time to recover from any of your past hurts. There is nothing wrong with taking your time to do that. Trust once lost is very difficult to get back. The other thing is: How do you know the other individual really is done commiting adultery? You don't and so you don't blindly trust someone without their first giving you some evidence that they are done with it. The other thing is whether the other person is even willing to repent. Are they having any remorse for what they've done? Have they done anything to show you that they are not going to repeat that behavior in the future? What have they done to show that the situation has been corrected? They have to show it to you. Not to God. God isn't the one they're in the relationship with. It's you. Forgiveness is a two-way street. Sometimes a marriage is better left undone because of the individual that has commited the sin. If you knew for a fact that the other person was not about to change, would you even want to be stuck in a relationship with them?

Answer 6

No doubt about it at all. I know for a fact that the marriage can survive. Your spouse is your friend or should be. If both of you want it to work it will. Trust can be regained through time and the realization that all of us are imperfect in many ways. I know many couples who have went through just this situtation and yet their relationships have matured over the years into stable marriages of 25 or 30 years and more. In youth many of us are reckless but as we mature we understand the value of the relationship we have and the true depth of our freindship and love we have for our spouse. We also see that good relationships are difficult to find and even harder to grow and keep.

Answer 7

If both people are willing to do whatever it takes the get the trust back then yes, but that is rare. The cheater has to be willing to give up all privacy and the one who was cheated on has to be willing to really forgive. Not many couples are capable of that though. Although, a lot of couples stay married even though they don't trust each other and just make each other miserable until one of them finally gets fed up and leaves.

Answer 8

YES, A MARRIAGE CAN SURVIVE EVEN AFTER THE SPOUSE CHEATS,
MY HUSBAND CHEATED ON ME BUT HE REALIZED THAT BEING WITH ME AND OUR CHILDREN IS WHERE HE RATHER BE,
HE HASNT CHEATED AGAIN.
MEN CHEAT WHEN THEY ARE UNSECURE ABOUT THERE RELATIONSHIP THERE IN WITH YOU,
ARE IF THERE LIVING WITH JEALOUSNESS,
IF THEY THINK YOU CHEATING ON THEM THEN THEY
CHEAT.
I BEEN THROUGH IT ALL,
MY MARRIAGE HAS IMPROVED WE HAVE PUT ALOT OF WORK INTO IT. TRUST IS SLOWLY COMING BACK BUT IT WILL STILL TAKE A LONG TIME FOR IT TO BE LIKE IT USE TO.
SO YOU CAN WORK AT SAVING YOUR MARRIAGE IF YOUR SPOUSE IS WILLING TO WORK WITH YOU ON IT,
IF NOT MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE.

Answer 9

Tricky, tricky. Every relationship is different. But from experience, once my ex husband cheated, I was disgusted with him. I was hurt but I still loved him. so after a while I took him back (big mistake). Because since I could no longer trust him I made his life a living hell. Everytime he left the house or his phone rang I questioned him. I automatically assumed he was cheating again. Then eventually this tore us apart for good. Once you've been cheated on you can't ever get it out of your head and you'll never forget even if you forgive. Take that into consideration, because once someone cheats, it's easy for them to do it again.

Answer 10

it is hard but if you have been together for a long time , then time will heal. i mean lots of time!!! you need to have that spouse go to counceling and make sure he stays away from that person. if you have been together for a lil while then it might not work out. your spouse is already cheating at this early in the relationship. i mean think about it if he/ she couldnt even control themselves not at this point whats going ot happen in five more years? will they do it again or will they continue the relationship. it is really hard to say. it all depends on the person andthe relationship. good luck.

Answer 11

I have had the cheating problem in my marriage,
I believe that the reason marriage last through these troubled times, is because there is true love here and you can rebuild trust.
It take aLong time but it can be fixed.