My husband & I now live separate...4 hours away from each other. He lives w/a friend & I live w/my parents. I live in Texas & I can't file for divorce until I've lived in this county for at least 90 days. I also can't file for separation or child support b/c Texas doesn't have separation. I can only file for the child support after I file for divorce. I have given my parents money for rent, utilities, etc... but they don't use it. They said that whatever I give them they are saving for me for if I ever need it. I don't want to live here for free,though. He doesn't know what I give my parents or that I even give them money at all. I work full time & I do have other bills to pay....credit cards, etc.(from stuff that I bought us when we were together..furniture, etc..in my name) I don't want to seem like I am after his money b/c we aren't together anymore but I don't want to let him get off not helping either. If I do ask for money I don't know how much to ask for.
2007-04-09 14:51:54 · 11 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have children and bills you made together. The burden shouldn't be on your shoulders alone! Talk to him about it.
2007-04-09 15:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like your asking money from a stranger. You have a son together, so he should help even before the divorce is filed. Why do women think it is begging to ask a man who is their husband to help is beyond me. Some of the bills your paying is from when you two lived together. He is living with a friend, so it's not like he has extra expenses. Take your credit card bills for which was used for you two and what expenses it is to feed and cloth your child and divide it to be fair and ask for that much. Your not after his money for goodness sake this is part of his debt also, even if it is only in your name.
2007-04-09 15:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have stayed where you were and filed for everything there. You have only made matters more difficult for yourself by packing up and moving, leaving the family home was a major mistake because the wife is entitled to remain in the family home if she has children. You should have remained and filed for divorce/child support there. All you have accomplished is giving him grounds on which to countersue you. The grounds are abandoment, and you can bet that his lawyer is going to advise he go that route, which can affect your getting anything out of the marital assets.
2007-04-09 19:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are shouldering bills from the marriage, it is only fair for him to take responsibility for a portion of the bills himself. This is not considered taking his money. He has a responsibility here also. You have proven yourself to be responsible with your money & in your parents eyes. Try talking to to husband. See what happens. Keep in touch & let me know how it works out.
2007-04-09 14:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by irishjen1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id ask for the full amount of the credit-cards, pay them off,you were married hes responsible for some to you, hell be getting off cheap by paying credit cards off, that would give you a clean slate, plus-if he left and wants divorce, then tell him to pay for it, you can continue to work and help your parents, ask-him for the money,your separated who cares what hell think?half those bills are his anyways,let him pay for them, go ask for it now and get your divorce underway, so you can get on with your life, and forget him.good luck, you go girl!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-09 15:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you file for the divorce the court will tell him how much he will be ordered to pay.
2007-04-09 14:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask for what you need but keep receipts cause when you go to divorce court you will need them. Good luck
2007-04-09 14:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have children together..Then yes, you should ask for money to help support your children..
2007-04-09 15:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by Havin' a good day.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i defiantly think u should because it's money 2 help with the kids
2007-04-09 14:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by xX-l-Armand-l-Xx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting citizenship from your ex.
Stop giving your parents money if you need it, that is just stupid. Sorry but you are a divorcing American woman now, stop sending the money overseas......or wherever it is going....
2007-04-09 14:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋