Help! Pregnant and hubby won't help with house chores.?

Question

I am having trouble getting my husband to help me with the house chores. I work 2- 16 hour shifts on the weekends, pregnant w/#4, and just graduated from college. Eventhough I have been a busy lil bee, he doesn't lift a hand. I had thought it would be easier and less stressful to make a chore list, that he agreed upon. Didn't even last one day. I have tried everything from great sex to yelling at him. Nothing is getting through his skull and I am too worn out. I have only 4 more weeks to go; playing with the kids is so much work this days. I just don't want a screaming baby plus 3 wild indians, and a hubby come home and ask whats for supper.

Answer 1

And men wonder why their wives are indifferent towards them, or why their wives leave them. Nowadays many wives work outside the home just as many hours as their husbands, then come home, make supper, look after kids, and keep the house clean and running in order ... men come home throw their feet up and relax, some don't come home at all but pursue their own recreational interests, then they act as if they are doing their wife a favor if they push the vacuum across the carpet or clean the dinner table. Women just follow behind them picking up after them as if they were children, the major difference being that at least your kids will listen to you most times. Is it worth it? At least with the husband gone it's one less kid to have to clean up after, one less set of expectations to satisfy, and after you've worked all day, and slaved around the house all night cooking, cleaning and looking after kids, he winks at you and expects you to be all hot and steamy to fulfill his fantasies.
Give me a break ... let this guy know where he stands, or let your lawyer deal with him.

Answer 2

Sounds like you didn't train him right. If you have 3 kids and he doesn't do anything but go to work and come home wanting supper and doesnt lift a hand. I imagine that part of the problem is he works all week and you work on the weekend when he is home with the kids. He works all day and doesn't think you do anything around the house but watch TV. Therefore, he doesn't need to do anything to help. You only have 4 weeks until the baby is born. How about just doing the necessary housework? Laundry, dishes, etc. Forget about vacuuming and dusting...that kind of thing. Tell him tomorrow when he gets home that you know he is tired from work. Say nothing more. He probably is tired.

Answer 3

I know you are extremly tired you have your work cut out for you not all men but SOME men behave and respond like the kids and I know it can be frustrating but you start his chores with him or you start and ask can he help and get a little dramatic and hobble through the house more because he see you all over the place busy as a bee and in there precious lil minds see it as you can handle it you probably do everything else he figures you will get around to it (his chores) whatever you choose to do when you approach the situation remember men are simple thinker they are not complex and you may have to remind him again.....and again but if all else fails get a system for yourself and remember you cannot do it all you dont want to stress if the clothes are clean when you get around to it put them away dont stress

Answer 4

Girl it sounds like you are stretched to your limit. If you have tried everything to get your husband to help and nothing has worked why not consider having someone come in to clean once a week. Even if you're on a strict budget you can check around or advertise to find someone in your price range. Listen, I'm no Oprah myself.We are a middle class family.I have this wonderful cleaning lady over once a week and she leaves my house all clean and fresh. I say life is too short to argue about this issue with hubby. It could be a gift for both of you. Best of luck!

Answer 5

We're in the same boat. I am 36 weeks, being induced on April 20 and all my hubby does is throw away the trash. I am working full-time until April 19th. When I get home, I am picking up, cooking, washing, cleaning after the dog, etc.................. with one small kid asking for everything under the sun. One thing is for sure, things are going to drastically change once I have the baby cause this is simply not right. I think he's just lazy and we're not.

Answer 6

The two of you work try hiring someone or getting a relative to lend a hand. Keep loving the husband and the kids though. You need help and hubbie needs to help or get help for the two of you cause this situation seems it would be hard on both of you. teach hubbie how to cook and prepare meals or bring home lunch.

Answer 7

considering the fact which you were not the only that needed the dogs, i'm guessing you probably did no longer do examine on getting a domestic dog. as quickly as I have been given mine, I spent months gaining knowledge of or maybe then, i exchange into crushed with each and every of the paintings in touch. enable me only say that a domestic dog is a toddler so it is going to poo and pee like loopy, desire to play ever 2d, and it is going to additionally cry at nighttime because of the fact she's lacking her mom and p.c.. acquaintances. i'm guessing you're crate training her? it is a painful technique in the beginning - each and every of the crying makes you loopy. even nevertheless it does help with the potty training. Your dogs isn't undesirable, she's only being a standard domestic dog. once you're busy with chores - or only want a ruin, depart her in the crate (close the door if the noise is only too plenty). only confirm you no longer depart her there for too long. yet another factor you're able to do for the potty is get dogs diapers. particular, a great number of dogs proprietors discover it stupid, yet once you're pregnant and drained then fairly what are you able to do, it is greater helpful than having the domestic dog pee and champagne everywhere... and it is prepare, good? Get an empty spray bottle and fill it with water. each and every time your dogs does some thing incorrect like do her enterprise interior or consume her poo, spray her and firmly say no. additionally take her out each and every 2-3 hours. you do no longer could stay out long, only till she does her enterprise. in case you think of you are able to no longer improve her then have a communique jointly with your husband and tell him that. he's no longer the only looking after her so he can no longer fairly argue. everybody in the kinfolk could want a dogs earlier you get one - or it only does not paintings. dogs are gorgeous animals! To me, my domestic dog is my toddler! i exchange into pissed off with him in the beginning, yet over the years you alter into so linked on your dogs. stable success, and that i'm particular you will finally end up loving your domestic dog and congrats on the toddler.

Answer 8

Sound's like he needs a wake up call. No magic answer here, I'm betting he's been like this all along...

All you can do is explain to him that you need help or your job will have to go. With men, money talks! I'd also take a long weekend away, alone, to let him live in your shoes for a few days. That always seems to help me. When I get back, my husband is SUPER helpful and appreciative. Sometimes it takes that for them to realize how hard it is to do it all.

Answer 9

Maybe time to hire a maid.

Or realize you should have stopped squirting out the kids when you knew you would have no support with the chores.

Sorry but I have little sympathy for this type of situation that goes unaddressed for so long and then the wife expects the husband to change overnight.....

Answer 10

That's so wrong. Maybe if you get enough people on here to agree with you and give him a hard time you should sit him down and make him read all these answers!

I'll start.....
Dude, knock it off you should do as much as you can for your wife right now. You are a loser and a lazy S.O.B!
If you don't change your ways your lady might just have that baby and leave you for another man like me!