His ex wife refuses to follow through on what the divorce papers say and?

Question

I have a big problem with this.
They got divorced in 05, we got married in Feb 07,when we financed a car together I found out that his ex never refinanced the car that she got in the divorce so my husbands name is still on the car loan. They also closed a credit card but she later reopened it and charged over $2000.00 on it, and his name is on that credit card.
He says that I am over reacting and I shouldn’t be upset, he don't see what the problem is and feels that it is no big deal!
I don’t want to get a bank account together or finance anything with my new hubby until she take care of this. The divorce papers say she needed to pay off the credit cards with the sale of the house and refinance the car into her name.
Now her mail is coming to out apartment!
Am I over reacting and what should I do?!
We live in Washington State

Answer 1

He will think over reacting when they come to him to pay it because she hasn't. You should be very concerned about this. He needs to correct this as fast as possible, or you two will be paying off her debts.

Answer 2

There is a thin line between love and hate. She nonetheless loves you but she hates that she can't have you and have her method as well. That's the only thing i will feel of. Yes it's her fault for divorcing you behind her back however possibly she figured you moved on too speedily and was once troubled via this? It can be hard to assert. She's taking part in some games that's for sure. She still loves you though she just wants to have her means and have you ever too and definitely she could not have each so she's going to make your existence hell for it for some silly purpose.

Answer 3

You are definately not over-reacting just worried
as you should be because your husband should
have taken care of business with his x long time
ago. Stand your ground and do not do anything
that in the end will cause you to suffer, so keep
the bank accnt's seperate. Your husband should
stand up to the plate and resolve this issue with
his wife and if she was given a court order then
your husband should take her back to court if she
does not comply. Talk to your husband and let him
know how you feel about the situation because
you want to be happily married to him without any
problems from his x, and let him know he needs
to take care of the problem right away. You are
now his wife and you have every right to let him
know to quit stalling with his x and that it has made
you un-happy because of the situation and that
you deserve better. Good luck,

Answer 4

husband needs to contact the lender about the car... let them know he is divorced.

husband needs to contact the credit card company, and let them know he is divorced... i don't know what will happen, but i imagine the ex has committed fraud by re-opening a joint, credit account, when they are no longer married? call the credit card company and ask about their policy in this sort of situation?

stick to your guns, and don't finance anything with him until he takes care of the OLD stuff first... perhaps he's lax... i guess if so, you've just found out! least you can keep your own finances separate for now.

you can't do anything to change this.. HE has to

take care.

Answer 5

First of all you can not reopen a closed credit card account. So obvioulsy the credit card account was never closed. Secondly in order for her to refinanace her car HE has to sign off on it. If he didn't that is HIS fault not HER's. Obviously he hasn't cut ties with his ex...that isn't HER fault that is HIS fault...You're placing the blame on the wrong person.

Answer 6

Why did you marry a man that still didn't have all the loose ends of his divorce wrapped up? YOU chose to marry a guy with an ex wife and baggage, so don't complain like all of this is some sort of a shock! You get what you pay for lady!

Answer 7

in order to reopen an account she either forged his signature, had a power of attorney, or he agreed to it and signed for it himself. you cant open any kind of account in someone elses name without one of these things except your child. if she was court ordered to refinance the car then she is in contempt. we had a similar problem with my husbands exwife, it was sort of an oversight on his part. he closed all his credit acconts and stuff with her.....however they had a running credit at a furniture store that he forgot about (he hadnt bought anything there for like 4 years and it had been paid off for almost 2)....about 6 months after we got married ( almost 2 years after their divorce) this store called us about $8000 worth of furniture that HE bought on credit and never made payments on. all he had to do was go to them and show them the divorce records saying that he was not responsible for any debt past that date and when they pulled the record and saw her signature his name got removed from the debt.

Answer 8

Your husband should definately listen to what youre saying and if he finally agrees then he needs to take her to court. Until then dont get nothing which is combining both your names because if they come after it you`ll lose what youve invested. He has to do something about it if he wants to build a life with you. Maybe he needs an ultimatum. There is no reason for her to do that unless he already knew she was doign it and thats why he wasnt upset.

Answer 9

No, not at all. I'd continue to keep your finances separate until it's cleared up. In fact, this might be a marriage in which your finances need to be kept separate, forever. You are seeing how he deals with his responsibilities. Don't let your credit get messed up in the process.

Answer 10

this is a problem a big one.
she has no right o re-open the account without his permission, ae you positive he didnt secretly aggree to this?
you have every tight to be mad, not upset but mad and pissed, you two are married now and it affects the both of you. if you dont feel comfortable opening an account with him, DON'T. you dont have to.
and if he doesnt listen tell him to take care of it or your gonna take it to court. you dont need all this crap. he divorced her they should have nothing between each other unless there are children involved.
like i said you have every right to be mad.