What characteristics of the GLBT social community (traits common within our circles) are your least favorite?

Question

Anything you wish you could change about the GLBT community that you are most familiar with?

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Answer 1

i hate how the glbt community is generally based on a club scene.....clubs aren't my thing...

also, the (at least perceived) widespread promiscuity bothers me, and it doesn't look good for anyone really...

Answer 2

I get really upset over the fact that there are heaps of people out there that want to judge and condemn you for the type of relationship you are in. Yet the GLBT community seem to do the same thing to each other. It saddens me that those of us who have been alienated from families friends etc can still be alienated here as well. I have brought my kids up that they should never judge someone by who they are with or where they are from is such a pity others can not do the same sorry if I am rambling

Answer 3

I'm not sure how many of these are shared by straight people or the general community (I think most of them), but I dislike these:

1) Obsession with appearance. Lookism is huge, particularly in gay male communities, but everywhere, really.

2) Not using protection. I will *never* understand why barebacking is so common and accepted, and why people continuously risk their lives when a little condom or dental dam can help.

3) Self-righteousness. GLBT people are no better than non-GLBT people, but it's always assumed that we're perfect beings. We aren't- but we have a lot of positive traits, and can learn even more from non-GLBT people- why not shared our combined knowledge?

4) Hypocrisy. Gay and lesbian people who are biphobic, transphobic, who yell the name "Breeder!" at straights, who basically treat others the way I know they wouldn't want to be treated . . . thank goodness these people are few and far between. But it's hard sometimes to not shut others out in our striving for a group identity.

5) Drug usage. This is more in certain scenes- ravers and club-going GLBT people, but I find it pretty reprehensive. I worry about the usage of such drugs, particularly ones that are very gay-affiliated but physically damaging and dangerous, like poppers.

Those are the big ones, to me. Thanks for asking such wonderful, intelligent, thought-provoking questions!

Answer 4

We really need to provide a more unified front. Of course, I am rather insular within social circles but from what I've seen even with Y!A GLBT is that we've got to band more together and stop with the internal squabbling. There's enough other groups out to get us without gnawing away at our own ankles.
(also the language level of some of our teens could be brought up a notch but that's petty) *grin*. Love to you all.

Answer 5

The old 40, 50+ year old types (the males) that cruise for 18, 19, 20 year olds, that is so sick and disgusting. Also the promiscuous lifestyle of many gay men, even the ones at 40, 50 years old who never want to grow up. Peter Pan syndrome? Most of the effeminate gay guys can be annoying too.

I don't have a problem with GLBT people or the community, but those traits do irritate me.

Answer 6

Honestly, it is the fact that often times I feel more ostracized by the gay community than I do by straight people. Seriously, there are so many cliques and so much finger pointing and "poo pooing" going on that it is mind boggling. I'm not cool cause I don't have the most expensive shoes(I wear what is comfortable), I'm not smart (though I attended college) cause I don't hang out in the trendy coffee shop and ponder life all day, and the lesbians who like to look down their noses at me because I conceived my son the "natural" way. Like I'm some sort of disgusting pig because I had sex with a man at ONE point in my life. How can we expect to gain respect from society when we can't even respect one another. It saddens me :(

Answer 7

The clique's have got to give way for a more unified community. We don't have to dress the same nor do we have to hang out with each other. But there come's a time when we should stand together.

Alcohol being a common denominator for most community-sponsored events. This doesn't help with overall image.

Buying into stereotypes about ourselves. Don't call me "girl" because I'm not.

Answer 8

The "in crowd" sensibility is highly offensive to me. It seems like a lot of people were hurt by being excluded, and instead of learning from this how to treat their brothers and sisters, they simply move into circles where they are considered the "cool kids" instead of the dorks. It's amazing to hear the crestfallen stories of young people who move to San Francisco and find themselves getting the cold shoulder from the community because they aren't wealthy, white, hung, whatever. It's a disgrace that we treat our brothers and sisters with the worst that was given to us instead of the love that should have been there for us.

Answer 9

I actually think of myself as part of the community,however I don't allow myself to be absorbed or consumed by it....I really don't see anything that I would change due to the fact that when I'm out (say in the clubs for instance) I accept everything around me....kind of It is what it is attitude.....People are the same everywhere and its not going anywhere so by accepting it I flow through life easier....
Don't know if it made any sense....

Answer 10

Perhaps I'm the first to answer in this manner:
Nothing.
I would change nothing about the people ourselves. The complaints I read above also infect society at large, and are not lgbt specific. There are plenty of places to meet a potential partner that are non-bar oriented
(though I admit these are fewer in number when it comes to smaller cities)- but you see gay friendly churches (I don't care for church, but I'm glad to see they are they for those of the community who do), bookstores/cafes, resorts, and of course you can always check with universities for any lgbt groups. In any large city, you will find a gay hub, even the conservative cities like Houston and Dallas have them. Montrose and Westheimer- not just about bars......Oak Lawn, same thing.....

Answer 11

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