I have 3 boys and am expecting again, I thought I would help out my sister-in-law and watch her kids while she worked since I am a stay at home mom, so I told her 20.00 a day since she has 2 kids there ages are 8 months and 2 1/2, mine are 5,2,1 so my hands and everything else are full when I watch them, she acts like she shouldn't pay me because we are family, shouldn't I get paid. what do u think?
2007-04-09 11:32:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YES YOU SHOULD BE PAID!!! You already have your hands full...you're doing her a huge favor! Paying you only $20.00 a day?!?! Most caregivers charge almost $20.00 an HOUR!!! That, by itself is so insulting - and she thinks you should do it for free?!?! It's not like she called you up and asked you to watch the kids so she could go to an appointment or go out for an evening. Her children are her responsibility, not yours. If she wants to work than she has to have a reliable caregiver (you) and that is a HUGE commitment! Either your sister-in-law is really ignorant or else she knows darn well she's taking way advantage of you. Explain to her that watching her 2 kids, in addition to your own, is hard and important WORK that can sometimes be really physically and mentally exhausting (especially because you're pregnant) and that you should be compensated for it! Tell her that you insist on being paid because you are doing a job and that she should be grateful and thank her lucky stars that she's got you to do it for only a MERE $20.00 a day! If she doesn't like it, she can go pay someone else to do it for MUCH MUCH more! Good luck...hold your ground, girl!
2007-04-09 11:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darn right you should get paid. And what you are charging is MORE than fair by the way. Right now I am watching 1 child for $20 a day. It does not matter that she is family. When you are watching someone else's child or children you are taking on a lot of extra responsibility. You should be compensated just as you would be at any job. In my humble opinion this sister-in-law is taking advantage of you. Now the tricky part. How to confront her without turning it into a family feud. You need to make it clear to her that your time is just as valuable as hers. You also need to let her know that if you are to continue watching her children you need to be compensated for you time and effort. Is there anyone that can back you up on this? Post again and let us know how it turns out. Much good luck to you my friend.
2007-04-09 18:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by seashell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she doing some equal trading here? - Like maybe you're borrowing her car or something?
She gets paid on her job. Your job is harder, you just do it at home, and you deserve to be paid for your efforts and the obligation of doing it on a continual basis. What you are charging is more than reasonable. I suggest you call around to a few daycares to find what the going rate is for two children 8mo. and 2yrs. She can be informed and given the choice to continue with you, at your rate, or go elsewhere and pay their fees. Remember this is YOUR house and YOUR family and YOUR choice as to how many children you care for. If she is going to work, she's going to have to make some choices.
2007-04-09 18:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister you may not want money from. Your sister in law, you may need to up that fees cos you know what she is going to say at the end of the day you are doing nothing just spending her brothers money.
If she is acting this way she is ungrateful I think 20 bucks is something you shouldn't ask she should just give it to you.
2007-04-09 18:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by Slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma'am that was a very kind thing you did for your sister-in-law and you should not second guess it at all. Daycare prices are outrageous now and the fact that her children would be with their loving aunt and cousins should be a great comfort. I would have loved to know that my son was with family members when I had to be at work....building stronger family bonds and being loved the way he should be.
2007-04-09 18:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of coarse you should get paid. We all have our own obligations to attend to. You are no exception. We need to be there for our loved ones, but that can't be a door opening to be mistreated. You have your own troubles to take care of. You are using your resources to attend to these children with all the burdens that follow. You need to set down ground rules and explain your needs and if she doesn't accept this then she could simply find another alternative.
2007-04-09 18:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by dominique f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yea you should get paid. $20 a day for 2 kids is next to nothing. If she does not like it she can pay for daycare for them. There is no reason she should not pay.
2007-04-09 18:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should. because technically you are not blood related. you are looking after 5 kids and $20 is pretty cheap. here's a really good excuse i need the money to support my family because my husbands paycheck isn't enough. and $20 is way cheaper then sending them to a daycare.
2007-04-09 18:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH YEA she should pay you........ you are helping her out she should be thankful you do it for 20.00 a day for 2 kids..... DONT LET EVEN FAMILY USE YOU.... Thats hard work lady
2007-04-09 18:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she should at least take you to lunch but it is different when you are family. so i dont really know what to say. it may be kinda tacky if you said something but maybe you shouldnt offer to watch her kids if its too much
2007-04-09 18:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kim C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋