Would you let your wife or girlfriend go topless at a public beach?

Question

Assume for the sake of discussion that doing so is permitted by law at the beach you happen to hypothetically be visiting.

Also, the term "let" as used in this post, is intended to infer that her doing so against your will is a knowing decision on her part to terminate the relationship.

For the record: I have never been in this situation. There is no "her" as it pertains to my reasoning for asking the question. This is an academic pursuit being conducted for the purpose of satisfaction of curiosity. I wan't to know how YOU feel about it.

Answer 1

no because its for your eyes only and going topless is basically her way of saying i want someone else to notice me

Answer 2

What does it matter? You cant control her. Its not like she is asking to cheat on you. If she feels comfortable with her body and wants to go topless at a beach, then she should! I think you don't feel comfortable with yourself and feel insecure that she will be getting attention...that is perfectly normal for you but at the same time she is her own person. I'm sure there are things that you do that she doesn't like, you cant just terminate a relationship every time you disagree. Hey, and any attention she gets is just a plus for you, shes with you.. not them.

Answer 3

She goes topless around other men all the time so what's the different

Answer 4

if it really bothers you and she insists on doing it anyway, I'd wonder about the nature of your relationship. Your feelings are valid and she should be considerate if nothing else. I'm not saying you have the right to control her and maybe you hae "issues" or whatever but seriously when you care about someone you are supposed to care about their feelings even when those feelings are inconveniant to you.

Answer 5

I just want to know why you would go to a beach like that if you weren't intending on taking your top off. Isn't that the purpose of the beach? I don't do that stuff myself, but if she wants out of the relationship, then she should just tell you straight out so she can go to the beach without having to worry about you disapproving of her. Or why don't you just be one step ahead of her and break things off yourself.

Answer 6

As a woman, I'd have to say if doing something my partner didn't agree with constituted "a knowing decision on her part to terminate the relationship" then we'd either have never gotten together in the first place, or parted ways as soon as he gave me the ultimatum of "my way or the highway"...someone that controlling isn't worth being with (male or female).

Let...indeed. *rolls eyes*

Answer 7

I understand what you're saying. I don't think my boyfriend/fiancee would let me either. He wouldn't be comfortable with other people seeing my boobs, i don't know how i would feel if people were looking at me either, i've never been in that situation. so it's hard to say. But ya i don't think he would be comfortable and i would respect that

Answer 8

You can do that sort of thing at home and it is so much more comfortable to know that that's your space and that's your wife than to put yourself in the awkward position of other people ogling at her. Unless you like that sort of thing.

Answer 9

Well....only if she were with me. But remember she is a free human being and you can't really stop her if she really wants to. The best you can do is tell her it is over is she does and hope it works.

Answer 10

anyone in a relationship with a person should honor or respect their wishes when at all possible. many relationships end because people always put themselves first.

Answer 11

Why do guys suddenly think they own your body parts when you're in a relationship with them? 'When in Rome' is my motto. She probably just wants to go topless for the experience of doing it.