You can bash me all you want for my last Q, but did you put yourself in MY shoes before you did?

Question

What if your HUSBAND never wanted to spend any time with you? What if he hung out with YOUR children all the time on the weekends and never said, "Hey, honey, let's spend some "couple" time together?

Just because my boyfriends kids aren't mine, don't take me for a bimbo who is selfish and shallow.
We both work all week, and I don't even get home until 9:00pm every night....the weekends are ALL we have, unless we just want a quick bang and then "good night".........

I'm NOT a selfish person.....the kids and I do a lot together, and I don't resent them....I DO resent that I cook and clean and pay bills and basically run the whole house but I can't get any appreciatetion for it.....what the hell is wrong with me wanting some "grown-up" time with him?

And I'm sorry, but HE can go on weekend fishing trips without me or the kids, but he can't take ONE DAMN WEEKEND to make some time for just the two of us?

Answer 1

OK, here's my solution.Come to me for one wekend , and if you wish to return to him you can, but it will be after this:

On Friday night you will come home for a late-evening candlelit dinner with music of your choice i will sing to you. Then i will give you a neck rub before i carry you to the bathroom where the soft light of the candles reflects the sparkle in your sweet eyes. i will undress you slowly, placing hot, wet kisses on each part of your body until i have you naked . i will then lift you and place you into the bubble bath and slowly wash you, massaging each tired and tense muscle until you are quite relaxed. Then i will let you saok as i read you poems that i wrote based on how i feel about having you with me. After you have a chance to enjoy the bath i will reheat the tub and feed you strawberries and cream. When you are finished i will lift you out of the tub dry you off teasingly, wrap you in satin and pick you up, carrying you into the bedroom where i will give you a front and back massage so you can be really relaxed. After you let yourself go into my care, i will lay next to you and just hold you in my arms, whispering how special you are as a wonderful woman and how truly blessed i am that you chose to come to me for some much-needed pampering. When you are completely relaxed and feel better about who you are i will let you fall asleep in my arms and stay with you all night, keeping you safe from the world and watching you breath as i enjoy the feeling of having you in my arms. But be fore-warned, i just might steal a kiss.

Answer 2

i am sorry i didnt see the first question but i can relate been there done that except i spent my time off work with his exes kids while he worked on his "projects" after a period of time he could not handle it he was used to someone else taking care of the kids,the bills anything that was too hard or was important he could not handle it! why? because he was too selfish!hes got it made a built in babysitter housekeeper cook and whatever he wants when he wants it!he sent the kids away and never wanted to see them again his decision not mine , because they no longer filled the need he had to keep them around.if you want time with him its up to you.if the kids live there get a sitter and make plans for dinner,a movie or a night away from the kids.you deserve it.if he has any sense he will make it up to you.if he isnt happy about it then next weekend you make plans for yourself without him and good luck! you sound like a decent,hard working woman and you care for his kids but you have needs too and dont settle for this nonsense you do deserve better-demand it!

Answer 3

I got divorced because of this. Tell him before you really flip out. Me ex didn't give me fair warning. I had school, work 12 hours a day and still made time for my kids, but not enough for her I guess. TALK to him now PLEASE!