I would really like to know why when you do something for a woman that it seems to flip a switch in them into liking you. At work all I did was be nice and helpful like I always am. I helped out this one woman and now she is always flirting with me.
Another instance at work is I was leaving at 7 and I asked the 3 ladies there if they need anything and one of them wanted me to get something at McDonalds. So it was on the way and I was going out shopping anyway. Then like from then on she was always sitting next to me in the break room with her foot practically on top of mine. (Made me wish I was a pig and start something with her)
2007-04-09 11:02:05 · 12 answers · asked by The D 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Look for and read a book called "The Five Love Languages". It will probably clear up a lot of things for you.
Other than that you can't ask, how do women's minds work, because this has been troubling men for 100's of years.
No more "Boy meets girl, boy loses girl....More like ' Man tries to figure out what the hell went wrong'.
2007-04-16 21:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by dr.dryice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other than "just" being nice, you may come across as being flirtatious with your co-workers. Bringing back something from the break room is one thing, but driving to pick up someone's meal is another deal. Being nice is okay, but overly nice will bring on a set of huge problems. Make sure you can recognize it and draw the line. If you intend to be the "pig" then all is fair in love and war, but to keep things on a professional level, stop making offers.
2007-04-09 11:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by wize1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad but true fact is that many of us women are just not used to men being nice nowadays. So sometimes, a man like you, shows a little kindness and chivalry and it is taken the wrong way. My advice is keep being yourself, because from the sound of the question it is your nature to be polite and kind, and don't flirt back. Eventually they will come to understand that you are just being nice and not trying to hit on them.
2007-04-09 11:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by Rosebudd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me, personally, I would have said thank you and left it at that. Just because you're nice to someone does not mean that you have ulterior motives. Don't change because you have a few desperate women in your office.
However, if you don't like the flirting and such maybe you should take them aside and gently tell them that it makes you uncomfortable and that you like them as friends and that that is all.
2007-04-16 06:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by bobbijoslin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have the exact answer for you but I do know some females that are like that. Maybe throughout their childhood they had nobody that was "nice" to them.
Some people feel they own someone something if that person goes out of their way to do something nice for them. Sadly, it may turn sexual if they are of the opposite sex.
2007-04-09 11:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by mnspirit69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the majority of women will like any guy who they think like them. A lot of women don't know what they want, and like any guy who will show any sign of affection. Then you come across a random "freak" like me who doesn't like every guy who likes me, who can say no when a guy asks me out, and doesn't let people get the wrong impression of whether I like them or not.
2007-04-15 13:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part women are NOT use to being treated nice. That makes you one in a million...
2007-04-16 18:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They sound as if they arent used to a polite young man as yourself
Dont offer next time
2007-04-17 05:43:51 · answer #8 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are classifying all women as being attracted to you because you are a nice courteous person. Well, that isn't necessarily so, but it sure is a compliment. Keep being yourself.
2007-04-16 18:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for me when a man does something SINCERLY nice for me (like you seem to do for women) it makes me smile to know that i am worth the trouble. When a man does something just because he wants me to touch his goodies, it doesn't affect me a bit. Just knowing you are worth people's time makes you want to repay them.
2007-04-09 11:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by Seduce A Stranger :] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋