Why don't kids have respect for adults?

Question

Why is it they think they are equal and have no regards for authority...........
Could the teaching system be to blame for their slackness?

oops...just to add....'after' the lack of parental attitudes.........
let me expand.....the teachers in my kids school speak to their pupils as though they are their friends, not their elders...

How can WE (as parents) teach them respect when influenced by so many others...it's a constant battle to win ......

(Losing the plot....For me u hit the nail directly on the head!)

Answer 1

They should be taught respect at home!

Answer 2

No... it's the parents. The teaching system can not be held responsible for children's behavior. A teacher, while split between 25 or 30 children, is only around a child 8 hours of a day. It is a parent's job to teach a child how to behave and to respect elders and authority. Not only have parents fallen short with disciplining the child at home, but they've made it so the school system can't discipline their child either. If you want to look for a source to a problem in a child, you look at his parents.

Answer 3

Not to be a radical, but I am so old school. Why change it if it worked - I dunno!!

In the old school, if you went to school and acted up, white or black (i'm both), your teacher whooped (disciplined) you, your mother your father and maybe a neighbor. That fear of a spanking was in you so they next time you got tempted to punch your teacher in the face, you knew better. You thought first.

For some reason it is illegal now to discipline your child in private or public. I see soo many parents that let there kid tell them what the rules are. This is the problem. I don't know why they do this.
I have two god-brothers that never got spankings - one is on crack and the other - well thats too personal. I think parents are waiting for the 'system ' to punish their kids. (Let my daughter go to school and not respect a teacher!!! I'll be an instant black belt!! Keeyaaaahh!)

But then, parents, don't have respect for themselves. If a man abuses his wife or baby mama, then who can expect his son to be respectful. And How can you teach something you don't know yourself??!! Selah.

Answer 4

Nope, not the teaching system. Its the parents! Parents need to teach their own kids manners, not teachers, they have enough to do already.
Plus I think kids, thinking back to when I was a kid, grow up, they have their own opinions and we won't always jive, which is OK.
Sometimes if the kids are old enough its time to leave the nest.
There can only be so many parents living in the same house.

Answer 5

alot of kids dont know respect because the parents dont show them respect first. learning starts at home so it has to come from the parents. i admit my kids will try to push the limit as they see their friends get away with things. some parents just dont care so they wont think the same as you. my daughters school has just got a new head teacher after being in special measures for 2 years. we have a head who isnt taking any prisoners and alot of kids dont like it but a little strict routine cant harm anyone

Answer 6

Well in my opinion - there is a lack of discipline all round. And the kids know this. If you even dare tell them off about anything - the kids will threaten to call Childline and allege abuse. They know their rights only too well and will not think twice about using the system to their advantage!
As for your kids teachers speaking to them like friends as opose to adults in authority - maybe they've had previous incidents where they have attempted to discipline them in the classroom, only for the disgruntled kid to tell their parents, and then the parents threatened to sue the school?? Or threaten the teacher reponsible?
Unfortunately it does happen!! And the worst thing is, no one will take responsibility for it. And we have a generation of absolute brats on our hands....

Answer 7

Lack of discipline in the home and school. PC parents who use 'the naughty step' as punishment, or lack of TV privileges..I ask you.Teachers are now not allowed to lay a finger on these louts and they know it..they will actually tell a teacher to his face."Can't touch me..I'll sue."
That would never have happened in the 60s.The kids then knew if they were disrespectful the cane was an option, most preferred not to chance it.

Answer 8

my kids respect adults because i have made sure they do, they would not dare disrespect anyone or be impolite, i never smack my children but they have enough respect for me to know never to cross a certain line, and they know by the change of authority in my voice when i mean business so i suppose all the other answers are right respect does start at home and is down to parents to teach their children how to respect other people

Answer 9

Children are the same as adults. Adults would not like to be ordered around, and the child would resent it too. Adults are only better at cooperating because they know what they have to do. A child is, say, born free. If an adult were to order something of the child, the child may feel helpless so the child will retaliate as they only can, to disobey. Adults would act the same way if not for years of other adults lesson of "common sense" in a way of cooperating.

Answer 10

The responsiblity is on the parents first and foremost.
When children do not learn respect for authority it is due to not being taught that at home

Answer 11

Parents are to blame. Parents don't discipline. They wanna be friends not parents. They expect everyone else to raise their kids and don't want to be bothered with doing it themselves. And they try to blame everyone else (like the teaching system) for things they are not providing in the child's environment like limits and consequences.

THAT's why.