I am the poster from last Thursday that was in a pickle over meeting a beautiful couple on a swinger site. Well, i met the couple this weekend and the wife was prettier than her pictures showed. I told them that my wife was in Europe. We had drinks together and they took me home.
So is this cheating when hubby approves?
2007-04-09 09:59:27 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes if your wife doesn't approve.
2007-04-09 10:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Uh, yeah. How would it not be cheating? You are a married man and your wife does not approve or know of the situation, then, hell yeah it is cheating. You dont deserve your wife. Why cant guys just accept no for an answer. Goodness. You are truly a sick man. Your wife trusts you and you broke that trust. You do not need to be married if you want to sleep with other women. Marriage is a sacred unity.
2007-04-11 10:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are cheating on your wife, do you forget that? Not only is it cheating, it is totally immoral. The couple are cheating on each other and they diginfy it by their approval of it, but it is still cheating and will eventually destroy any relationship. Why are you doing this? It seems that you are seeking thrills, but with these thrills comes total decadence, immorality and you eventually lose your soul in the name of sex.
What you need to know is there is no free ride in this life. For every action there is a reaction and whatever we do in this life we eventually pay for it one way or the other.
If you love your wife, I would not see this couple again. I also would not tell your wife what you have done, because it would only hurt her and destroy your marriage. If you need to bare your guilt, go to a therapist or psychiatrist and tell him what happened and find out why you did this.
Good Luck
2007-04-09 10:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is cheating. Whenever you engage in any inappropriate action witha person of the opposite sex or even the same sex it happens?. It is considered cheating even if the hubby agreed I highly doubt your wife did.
Grab a brain if you did not know this was cheating then maybe you should ask a profeesional what cheating is because it appears you are a moron. Even kissing another person other then your wife unless it is family is cheating.
2007-04-09 10:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who gives a sh*t if HER HUSBAND approves??? Whether he approves or not has nothing to do with YOUR marriage, and it's not their place or their business to manage your relationship FOR you. If your wife doesn't know about any of this, you're damn right it's cheating!!! It might not be cheating within the context of their relationship, but that is irrelevant. Within the context of YOUR relationship, it IS.
Whether you've had sex with the other woman or not, you've already cheated. If you've done something you now need to hide from your wife to avoid hurting her...well, you've cheated. Sorry man. I do not envy your position.
There's no point in offering advice. You didn't ask for it, you won't like it, and you won't listen to it. Besides, you already know what you need to do. It's just going to really, really suck. Good luck.
2007-04-10 16:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your wife was away, and was not aware of what was going on, then you have cheated on her. Or if you were not telling the truth about your wife being in Europe, then you gained trust through not telling the truth, and that too would be cheating. It is only not cheating when all persons involved give consent, after knowing everything that is going on.
2007-04-09 10:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by allencple246 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you sound like this each time you go out and drink? Sound like you had one too many drinks that night. If you sleep with some other female beside your wife, don't care if you did got her husband approval. Yes, Its still cheating.
2007-04-09 10:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if both couples agree then no it isn't, a lot of people do this, personally I couldn't. If your wife doesn't know about it then it's 100% cheating!!! Would it be cheating if your wife was doing the same thing?
2007-04-09 10:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by emaf1uk 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does your wife approve? Are you that cluess, or just pretending to be. Swinger are usually couples, so are you willing to let this guy @#$% your wife. Cause thats the only reason he is offering you his, nothing is for free. What would be hillarious is you will be busying doing her and her hubby will be lubing up to do you...........LMAO
2007-04-09 10:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
cheating would imply that there are rules to play by. Did you follow the rules? Every relationship has some sort of rules. Did everyone involved, husband, wife, yourself, your spouse all agree to what transpired? If everyone was in consent agreement, no "cheating" occurred.
2007-04-09 10:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by Newageseer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets see...if you are married and your wife does not approve...YES this is cheating. If not, this is the type of lifestyle swingers have. I know lots of swingers. (i am not one myself), but this is how they live and they see nothing wrong with it.
2007-04-09 10:04:40 · answer #11 · answered by brandy g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋