This question is because I was curious and it's for all of you to express yourself. I, personally, have told the one I love how I feel. I don't understand why others can't.
2007-04-09 09:49:49 · 15 answers · asked by ali 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
You may think that I'm just naive but if it's true love shouldn't that make us comfortable with the other person? It made me comfortable.
2007-04-09 10:05:07 · update #1
Its a simple question with a simple answer you don't wanna feel rejected. If you tell someone you love them you don't them to say they don't love you...humans love to be loved. Its just our nature
2007-04-09 09:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by Corron 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah true love, it has been said that people have but opne true love. Most think that true love means one person the rest of your life, and up until about 6 years ago I use to think the same.
When I was 18 I met the first man that I was to fall in love with. He treated me like there was no one else that mattered to him, I was his world and he was mine, and yes I was able to tell him with no fear of rejection that I loved him.
We where both in the military together, we lived off base with each other. But because we never married when he recieved orders to go else where I was left at the base and could not get orders for the same post.
He is my what people call true love. In the years that passed I found it difficult to tell someone else I loved him first. I was afraid that if I did I would be rejected,that I was just looking to replace the one I loved.
about 15 years ago I met another man, we dated for awhile I knew I loved him but was afraid to tell him, he told me first then I was able to say out loud I loved him.
We had 13 years together before he passed from cancer, I have come to learn that the first love is a powerfull one, It doesn't matter if the relationship ended badly or not it is powerfull. It will Jade you and you do become apprehensive about telling others what you feel.
But this is just my theorory there are many different ones out there, I do believe that things happen in life that allow you to love more than one in life.
2007-04-09 11:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because traditionally we are a quite reserved in expressing our emotions. From an early age this is seen as an embarrassing issue and so throughout life the feeling continues. Also fear of rejection.
2007-04-09 09:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by =][= 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People usually have a terrible feel of being rejected. Telling someone you care for them is similar to putting your head on a guillotine block. If they reject you, it's similar to them taking away all pride you had in yourself. Your self esteem lowers, and you feel like nobody wants you. Atleast for a while anyway. With that type of thing on the line, it's only natural to be something to be a slight bit unnerving. Unlike stated prior, even I don't like being rejected.
2007-04-09 10:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you care so much about them that their answer becomes the only thing that matters, and rejection can ruin a life if from the right person.
2007-04-10 19:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have a fear of rejection that blinds them when it comes to love. I, personally, have never had such fear, but I've known others who have.
2007-04-09 10:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't for me but for others it is most likely the fear that those feelings, will not be returned in the way you wish or expect.
2007-04-09 10:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by Matticus Kole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
insecurity.. you really have to put yourself out there to tell someone you love them.
cynicism.. you get burned a few times and you just don't want to go threw it again.
2007-04-09 10:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by pip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of not being loved in return, or fear of rejection might be the reason.
2007-04-09 10:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by browneyedgirl90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of the fear they wont feel the same way and you'll look...I dont know the word...dumb...just standing there pouring your heart out and he/she just doesnt care about how you feel about him/her
2007-04-09 09:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by Exedius M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋