We have been together for 6 years, engaged 3. We share a 3 year old child. 3 months ago I found out he was having a long distance telephone relationship with another female that was going on for 10 months, when I found out. He ended that. Last week I found out he has been talking online with someone else for about a month, only 2 months after he got caught for the 1st infidelity. I have been so fed up with his lies and now I can't trust him. I told him it was over for the first time, I gave him a chance the first time he got caught it was worse then. He went out and got my name tatooed on his arm to prove his love for me. He has not had intercourse, but I know it does not excuse his actions. I am hurt- but I do love him, we have invested 6 years into this relationship. What should I do. Please comments from men encouraged.
2007-04-09 06:25:12 · 20 answers · asked by Sally2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To me emotional affairs are just as bad, if not worse, than physical ones. I recently left my wife because of an ongoing emotional affair that she was having with a coworker. It is not fair to you for the person you care about to confide in someone else. His behavior will not change just because he got a tatoo. I would seriously consider leaving him before you marry him and regret it.
2007-04-09 07:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have no computer or telephone in your house for him to use. Only make it work for 911 calls...just kidding.
Seriously, trust is a big issue. If you can't trust him, take some time off from him until you can. Hopefully in time, he will realize what he has done to lose you. People don't change until they go through bad experiences. Let losing you be his first bad experience. No tattoo can prove his love. Actions of honesty, being faithful & dedication to you prove love! Being together 6 years & engaged for 3 years, you guys should already been married by now. What's the hold up?
2007-04-09 06:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the old days, older, wiser men would have sat him down and told him how he's messing up his marriage. These days, there's no external moral compass for men. Furthermore, you're not even married.
You have been with a man who is not trustworthy for 6 years. I have little doubt these were not the first two times he has been unfaithful -- just the first two times you have caught him.
There is an order for going about things that you have not followed. First, you should find a responsible, reliable man who possesses good values. Then you should become engaged. Then you should get married. Then, you should have children. You are reaping the consequences of taking these steps out of order.
2007-04-09 06:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is not committed to your relationship in a way that you need. I doubt that he ever will be. If you can live with that, continue and stop whining. If you cannot, end the relationship and find another who has similar convictions and goals in life. You have a child and you are not married...what else need I say about this guy? 6 years of realtionship and no marriage...in another 12 years, you will still NOT be married, and asking the same thing. Take steps now, not in another 12 years.
2007-04-09 06:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YEAH IT IS!!! That's really bogus lol What if that dude finds about you? If he does...good luck buddy. I wouldn't even dare touch a chick who has a tattoo of some other dude's name on her arm....or the fact that they are gonna get married once he gets out and knowing he is in jail....man that has problems/issues written all over that!!! She is wrong to be doing that behind her fiance's back and you dont make the situation any better by sleeping with her...good luck man with whatever you do....
2016-04-01 05:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either break it off or learn to live with it. He has proved that you are not the only one he wants a relationship with. Sex has nothing to do with it. It's the thoughts that he needs/wants someone elses attention besides yours. If a tattoo proves he loves you, he may look like a phone book in a few years.
2007-04-09 06:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry luv, the first time he cheated u should of walked away as the trust went thats the rock of any relationship/marriage it can only survive on love for so long after that u would of been on a slippery sloap from that day to this.as for tatoo what a a** as if that makes up for what he has done
2007-04-09 06:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by fairy_gdmthr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he has not been unfaithful to you ..
the guy is trying to pull 100's miles away ..
i think he exhausted the local area ..and fishing further a field ..what's a tattoo big deal ..i know fellas with 7/8 names of their ex girl/friends tattooed on their arms .
do you mean you have a 3 year old child ???..i don't quite understand where you say we share ..
2007-04-09 06:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far can you throw him? A tattoo to 'prove' how much you love someone is as good an idea as the moron who stood on the dock and proclaimed the pride of the White Star line was unsinkable!!
2007-04-09 06:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by Avon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting a tatoo on his arm IS NOT proving he loves you, wake up girl, why would you want to put up with this. You will learn
one day you"ll wake up and realize that you can't have this, Nothing I can say to make you change your mind. Just live and learn.
2007-04-09 06:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋