My son really wants to get his ear pierced! He is a great kid honor role student, rarely gives me any trouble. My husband thinks we should go ahead and let him...........but I'm just not sure about it at all! I'm leaning more towards no.........What do all of you think............Please help me make up my mind. I had my son at 17 so I am a pretty young mom, and I do not know anyone who has teenagers!!
Thanks!!
2007-04-09 06:11:35 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i would go ahead and let him. He's a good kid and seems to do what you ask of him for the most part. He does well in school because of you and stays out of trouble. I say reward him for his constant good behavior with something that will make him feel "cool" and a little mature.
2007-04-09 06:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Five years old and she wants a second hole? She must hear adult talk around the house, because she was only born 5 years ago, not 15. What next, after this? And what if she wants a 3rd.. Since you don't know how to say "Wait" now, how will you set boundaries as she gets older? A car at 10? Sex at 12 and a baby at 15. Youth is for the young; let her enjoy being a child/baby. Don't let her have everything she wants, especially holes in the body, and next tattoos. I'd suggest that you treat her more like a baby, with you being the adult, and don't let her make decisions AT 5 YEARS OLD. Let her have a fake second earring, but no more holes. It isn't about the hole, by the way. It is about her having such adult wants at such a young age. And what is ahead if she gets this? Trust me, you can't take it back at 12 when she is used to making decisions at 5.
2016-05-21 00:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband are the only 2 people that really have a say in the matter. However your husband seems to feel that your son is old enough and mature enough to take care of a pierced ear. You have to think about why you feel you shouldn't allow him to get this piercing. There is no set age limit on when someone should or shouldn't have their ear(s) pierced. If you're going to refuse him this privilege be prepared for him to ask why and teenagers these days won't take, "because I said so" as a good enough answer.
2007-04-09 06:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that you should to that.I am a parent advocate and I work with a lot of young parents as yourself and I see that they sons have their ears pierced at really young ages.I have seen boys as young as 6 months have both ears pierced.Some teachers and authority figures may see it as a sign of rebellion and the boys will sometimes react negatively to that kind of stereotyping even if they a good kids and come from a stable environment.I would wait until he is 16 because he will have a better sense of who he is.My oldest son is 17 and I had asked him to wait until he was 16.He chose not pierce his ear but has decided to get a tattoo but he will have to wait until he is 18.
2007-04-09 07:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Zim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my son went thru this phase I just reminded him that he wouldn't be allowed to wear it to school because of the rules, and would be a pain to try and remove it every day. I acted as if I didn't care one way or the other. Actually his dad said he would go with him and they would both get theirs done together. My son was mortified at the idea of his dumb old dad doing this with him, and eventually lost interest in the idea. I wouldn't have cared that much, since half the time they lose interest and the hole can grow back anyway. Hopefully he won't get interested in body piercing or those giant discs guys get put in their ears - yuck! Maybe it will be too painful and he'll chicken out. I would say it's not worth making a big issue out of. Save your battles for big major issues.
2007-04-09 06:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by snapoutofit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have children at a similar age who have asked about piercing the ears. The one thing I do tell them is as soon as I can see they can take care of themselves, their bodies hygeine wise, then we can talk about ear piercings.
I am very against the mall type places that pierce ears w/ unclean plastic guns, so my children are fully aware that the ears would be pierced @ a tattoo parlor w/ a needle - this has kind of steared them away a little, just out of fear of the needle. I say definitely allow your son to feel he has some sort of say -if not he may do something behind your back.
2007-04-10 06:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one at around 30 you must know some people with teen s or preteens. especially if ur a parent. I do not have a teen. But I will tell you I grew up in a full household. 4 kids including myself and some added additions to the house.
For a peirced ear if it was a daughter I'd say go a head. But perhaps you should sit down and talk to your son.
Talk to him why he wants one and for whom he is getting this done. and does he really want to get one, there are tons of sterotyping around here in these days so ask him if hes ready for this. Kids will says either hes trouble, or gay. and ect. ask him if hes getting it for him or someone else or to prove himself. perhaps hes not as "great" as you think as well. talk to his teachers.
it seems rash but somethings a peircing isnt just a peircing. and sometimes it is.
but if he wants it for him and can give you atleast 3 or 4 valid reasons other than i want to, than i say go ahead.
he can always take it out
2007-04-09 07:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Advice giver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I personally don't have my ears pierced but if he wants it let him! It's his body, and really his choice. I wanted my ears pierced at a young age (around 7 or so) and my mom wouldn't let me. I felt left back and disappointed. Now I am too scared to get my ears pierced. I feel like a part of me was left back as a young child and my mom regrets her decision. Just make sure if he only gets one peirced it's not the right!
2007-04-09 06:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i got my earpeireced when i was a baby but i guess its ok for a girl to get hers periced that young. When its for boys its a different story. I would be ok if the school allows boys to have peircings. Onc eu get it peirced u know you have to keep the earring in a while so it wont close up, because taking it out a few days after getting it down will hurt especially trying to put it back. I should me ok its not like it was a tatoo. people will hardly notice it.
2007-04-09 12:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by thatgirlyouknow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the harm in it? I got my ears pierced at 12.
He's becoming a teenager, and working on his self-image. If he's a good kid, what is it that you're worried about? It doesn't hurt anything, it's just self-expression and a benign one at that. Let him have it. At least he's not asking for tattoos or trying to paint his room black and putting tin foil over his windows.
If you have reservations, try to think about why. Are you nervous about him growing up? Are you afraid he'll let it get infected? Are you worried about what the grandparents will think? Tell him your concerns and he may be willing to address them, he sounds like a responsible kid. It may be a good exercise for both of you. He's a teenager, your relationship with him will be changing, and this may be a good starting point.
2007-04-09 06:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋