Other than cheating, what's the dealbreaker for you?

Question

Please share your story! Thanks.

Answer 1

Expecting the unrealistic -- my wife wanted me to buy a house, an SUV -- both when she was pregnant, knowing full well that I could BARELY afford the house.

Then she accused me of having an affair (which i did not even have the timeor energy -- since we had a new borns baby).

Then destroying my ego pushing me away every time I tried getting affectionate.

Then letting herself go (getting fatter then I ever expected her to get). PS on this one I actually exercise, but she doesn't want to.

The only thing she really has going for her is the fact she can cook. Take a pick on any of the ones I mentioned.

Answer 2

Kids from past relationships is a dealbreaker right from the beginning - I would not get involved with a person with children.

If I'm already involved with a person, any kind of disrespectful behavior would be a dealbreaker (lying, abuse, extreme selfishness, etc).

Answer 3

cheating isn't necessarily a deal breaker for me, as I would tend to examine myself and ask why my husband felt the need to search elsewhere for satisfaction. Also everyone gets tempted by lust sometimes. The real dealbreaker for me would be if he hit me or put his hands on me or my kid in any violent way.

Answer 4

Well here is my story. I dated a guy who seemed like a great guy. We dated for a few years and then decided to move in together. After moving in his mom would call us sometimes 4-6 times a night. If that wasn't bad enough I would constantly have to pick up after him, cook for him, do his laundry, remind him to pay his bills, remind him it is time for an oil change, etc. If I didn't remind him he wouldn't do it! It was as if I was his mom. I decided I wanted to be a partner and not a mom.

Answer 5

Withholding MAJOR info about yourself that could have changed the whole situation. Habitual lying and cheating. Past history of yourself or family of control and manipulation. Family (or self) history of abuse, be it porn, drugs, alcohol, or physical or emotional abuse. Pedophiles are a real quick and MAJOR deal breaker. Making it all about him, and anything that would make it one sided...me doing all the giving and him doing all the taking. If he wants my back rubbed, he better do mine sometimes. If he wants to eat, he better wash dishes, because I am not doing it all myself. If I work outside the home as many hours, sometimes more, as him, then he better work inside the home as much as I do.

Answer 6

Lazy, (doesn't want to work fulltime)
Bad Tempered
Small Penis (Less than 6 inches)
Unintelligent (Can't have good conversations)
Bisexual Tendencies
Flighty (One day he's a Christian, the next day he's a stripper).
Alcoholic
Drug Addict
Unattractive
Low Self Esteem

Answer 7

MY second husband had bipolar/anxity disorder. He would say some of the meanest things in the world. He hit me and accused me of cheating on him all the time. He wouldn't work I payed all the bills and took care of our family. After that and more it wouldn't take alot.

Answer 8

If someone is using me, or is abusive/nasty, that's a dealbreaker. I'm pretty cut and dry =)

Answer 9

Cheating is definitely the deal breaker, but trust would be number two. If there's no trust then there can't be a relationship.

Answer 10

Trust. I hold that very dear and near to me. I could cheat on Jasmine if I wanted to be like the rest of these Ham and eggers you see everyday, but I am NOT like that! Her emails to me mean the world, I LOVE IT when she writes me, besides I am not with her to hurt her!!!!!!!! I ENJOY my Jasmine VERY much , thank you!!!!!!