What do you all think about this situation?

Question

I have a bunch of 4 online friends (all friends with eachother) we meet up as often as possible so we are quite good friends and get on well. One of them is planning a trip to a theme park for all of us for her birthday then a night in a hotel then back to the park again before going home (shes been planning this with us since last august) well recently shes made some new friends and has decided to bump me for this new one shes got

second part of the situation is that after telling me she would like me not to go cos there isnt enough room in the hotel for 5 and she doesnt want to get another room for 1 person she comes back saying i can go cos shes now found 2 other people to go so doesnt mind getting another room

third part - she has told me that if she had to chose who didnt go between me and the rest shed want me not to go

my questions are:
is she a good friend?
shall i go?
what do you think of the situation?
what would you do?

Oh and can i just make it clear that it is only this one girl from the group who treats me like this, one of the others is my best friend in the world and would never do anything of the sort and nor would the other 2

Also when told her i didnt feel like she wanted me there she sai she did and couldnt understand what i was getting wound up about it for

Answer 1

she's not really your friend and i wouldn't go

if it was me i would just get a new friend

Answer 2

No she is not a good friend.
Absolutely do not go where you are expendable and not wanted....
I think she is a manipulator who is not a true friend to anyone, she keeps changing her mind.
I would plan a trip with a real friend even if there is only 2 of us.
By the way if it is her birthday celebration, she might be expecting you gals to fess up and pay for some of her fun.
Back out of it and don't get involved.. don't be surprised if you hear from the others that they have been dumped too,.
This is not a friend this is a bad acquaintance that you can live without...
I would not trust her as far as I could throw her... she is not a nice person....

Answer 3

In my opinion no she is not a good friend. She had you excited about this trip since August (Im assuming) and now she wanted to have someone else take your place. Now all the friends I have never did something like that. Once any of us were invited that was it and never had to worry about being replaced by another person like you were. What im trying to say is, that a good friend wouldn't raise your hopes up for months and then just replace you without considering your feelings or without a good reason. Also, she wasnt going to get another room for you but all of a sudden she is getting another room for her other friends? that just aint right. As for your second question thats totally up to you if you want to or not. I know that I wouldn't mainly because if one of my friends was going to replace me after waiting for months and all of a sudden is inviting me back because I might as well go because that friend was getting an extra room for new friends anyways, I just wouldn't want to have anything to do with that person. You know what I mean? As for what I think about the situation, I think you were handed the short end of the stick and sadly favours her other friends over you and it sucks beyond words . Sorry that you have to go through this and wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

Are all your friends this rude to you? I don't care if the girl is loaded but couldn't get the money up for the other room till the other friends could come along...you just don't make such elaborate plans and then disinvite a friend...and then reinvite her. I might be missing a few things though. Perhaps she invited the other two so she could reinvite you after being such a clod to you. The fact she told you to your face that she'd prefer you not go is enough to not only not go, but also not to give her a birthday gift or even another phone call. I'd thank her for the invite but say I'm going to make other plans for that day. So sorry.

Answer 5

1) She's not a friend at all, she's a mean B---H!
2) Hell NO! Next time she mentions a trip, just say, "nah, I won't be going, I made some better plans"...and go do something good/fun for yourself!
3) I think it's a really SH--TY situation and unless you're just a total jerk/downer, i don't think you deserve it!
4) I really hate being a cliche' stereotype, but I'd tell her where, when and how she could kiss my black A--! Then, i'd go make some new, better, REAL friends and live my life totally with out her.

Hope that helps.

Answer 6

She isn't a good friend, if she is going to choose people over you that she just met. She isn't worth it,

You shouldn't go. She really doesn't want you to go.
I think the situation is very messed up.
She is a very bad friend and very sneaky. She doesn't deserve your friendship.

I think its messed up that she said "if she had to chose who didn't go between me and the rest shed want me not to go"

I would cut her out of my life. You made plans in advance and she is going to do that. I wouldn't be friends with her. I wouldn't trust someone like that b/c every time she gets new friends she would ignore me and be a bad friend. I wouldn't need a friend like that.

I wish you luck. Just remember you are better then her. Find better friend's. There are better people out there. What about people in your school or where you live? <3 keep your head up!!

Answer 7

I think you know that this girl isn't a true friend.. She may not hate you, but she definetly doesn't think of you as one of her top priority friends. I wouldn't bother going, I would also ask my Best friend that's in the group to please skip the trip as well and spend the evening with you so that you aren't alone. I would simply tell the birthday girl that you would rather not attend a evening where you aren't really wanted.

Answer 8

Uhh, I think you are being used as a stand by and an excuse to dump another of your friends. You should call the other two and tell they you're not going under any circumstances and why. She's a control freak and she's not your friend, honey. Volunteer to stay home. You're not going to miss a thing. Godloveya.

Answer 9

She isn't a good friend if she would bump you off the list for someone new, especially if you knew about this event since august. If she is paying for everything, why not go? Have fun, act like she isn't all that important to you.

If it was me in the case, I would still go. I would talk to the other friends and socialize with the new ones and act as if I have no concerns with her. I would still be overly sweet to her, but I also wouldn't kiss her behind. It's nice to fight fire with fire, but it is so much a sweeter victory with honey.

Answer 10

I don't think she is a good friend cuz it seems like she cares for other people the most and least for you and u shouldn't be treated that way!

Its your decision if you want to go to see if you will have fun or be left out.
The situation is pretty confusing and its mean how she bailed on you to go for other ppl.

i think i would go to the park but with other ppl and not them because i know i would be left out.

Answer 11

My advice to you is to get a new friend because she is definitely not yours. She made it very clear to you that you are not her favorite person so why would you want to hang out with someone that is a shallow B*ch! Stop talking to her group on-line and look for a new group that likes you! Do not go on that trip you do not need them.