Not trying to be offensive. Just asking
2007-04-09 03:40:50 · 19 answers · asked by T-Man 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
because you are a troll and I am getting my two points
2007-04-09 03:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 3⤋
They don't ACTIVELY submit because the phrase is offensive. It gives them power to choose, but then you take it away by telling them they have to choose to submit.
Actually, submission as a word, especially used in this context is a contradiction. It implies an act, like a choice. Choosing is contrary to submission. Submission the way you understand it involves a choice. Submissive people don't choose to submit. Truly submissive people RE-act. They don't act. They aren't PRO-active. They are RE-active. They aren't given charge. They don't make decisions. They go with the decisions that other people make.
Dominant people are PRO-active. They TAKE charge.
In general though, Women ARE more receptive than men are. Women are generally more go-with-the-flow types, just not in all areas. In many areas women are truly pro-active, especially today.
I would have to say that this is because women are becoming much much more independent because the men in their lives aren't stepping up and taking charge. You might have found that women don't take charge unless someone else doesn't do it, or if they do it badly. It seems to be a trend with the women in my life at least. With practice comes more confidence. So women are becoming VERY adept at taking charge.
That's why I try to take charge more often, especially with a receptive woman. I don't mean dominate. I don't make the decisions myself. I mean as the person in charge I am the coordinator between all interested parties. Everybody has their say and I organize it, and as the person who has taken charge, I get an extra vote if it comes down to a tie. LOL Just kidding. Truly wise people can tell when their decision is the wrong one for the group, and I do try to use wisdom.
Anyway, to answer your question, you are assuming that women have the power to CHOOSE to submit. You can't have power AND submit. There is actually no such power to choose to submit. Anyone that has a choice will almost always choose to dominate.
Some women do choose to change their ways though. If they have been particularly bossy and they see how their attitude is splitting up their marriage, they might tone it down a bit and let the husband win every once in awhile. But is she really submitting? No. She's picking her battles. She's still in charge. She gets to decide when to "submit" and when not to. That's not submitting, that's picking your battles.
2007-04-09 20:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why should I ever submit to anyone, a man or otherwise? One should never do anything out of submission. If something is done because I've been asked to do so, it's out of mutual respect.
2007-04-09 14:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by raynne_iceni 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Any self respecting person would have problem submitting oneself to whome you do not trust or respect. The same goes for relationship between teachers and pupals. Basically now a days we do not have enough people of a strature one would like to be submitting to.
2007-04-09 11:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by subodh 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
You're assuming that women had no problem "submitting" to a man in the past-they always have hon. Wouldn't you?
2007-04-09 14:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by rip_2_4_u 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Providing the man was worthy of me submitting to (leader, kind, patient, not jealous or boastful, doesn't take pleasure in wrong doings, but rejoices in truth, always ready to forgive and willing to stay the course for the long haul)... I actually enjoy spoiling GOOD men; {additional provision ... they need to sing & dance & laugh}.
2007-04-09 11:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Because I realize that everytime I let them make decisions or do anything, they always screw things up. I guess that's what happens when some people think by using that thing between their legs. This is not meant to be offensive either.
2007-04-09 15:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by ohioan_femme 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Most women aren't into s & m, now that we have a choice in the matter. Our higher access to education has lead to an increased preference for autonomy. Subordination is SO 1850!!
2007-04-09 14:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Cristy 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think most women just want to have an equal say in how things are run inside the relationship as well as the house....
2007-04-09 11:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by M B 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
What carrie said.....same reason men have a problem submitting to women.
2007-04-09 10:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by transitangst 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Why would I submit myself to a man, just because he is a man? I was given my own brain and my own moral conscience so I will use them.
2007-04-09 10:57:09 · answer #11 · answered by ecogeek4ever 6 · 9⤊ 2⤋