Why does he keep doing it??

Question

My partner is Jamie (can't remember the number after it)
I often find questions on here about him saying he loves older women ect ect (i'm 23) and recently he's be asking questions about this girl who he went on a date with (not me!). We had along talk last week and he promised no more lies and that he didn't fancy this other girl and nothing more has happened. We have been together for 2yrs. Everytime i ask him to leave he gets upset and says he loves me and i'm the best thing for him. So why does he keep doing this?????

I haven't left him because we live together and i pay most of everythin so i'm not leaving my lovely house. Everytime i ask him to go he wont so i'm stuck!

Answer 1

why are you still with him hes never gonna change.hes already cheated the trust would of instantly gone your on a slippery sloap and it cant survive on love alone.the minute he cheated you should of walked away you deserve better.

Answer 2

you know he's doing this stuff so make him get out, and mean it don't keep taking him back because you are sending him a message that what he is doing is actually ok with you, you pay most of the bills, so having him leave wouldn't be much of a lost because he isn't really contributing anything financially to the relationship in the first place, if you have a hard time getting him to leave then put all his stuff out maybe that will give you the initiative you need and he will get the message that you mean business this time....

Answer 3

If you tell him it's over between you and he gets upset and says that you shouldn't leave him then he's very insecure. He wants to be in a relationship because he thinks it's what he's supposed to do, meanwhile, he doesn't want the commitment and the responsibility of being in a relationship. He thinks that if you broke up with him it would say something bad about him personally and he would be shamed. At the same time he's not just mature enough to contribute, to make the changes necessary to be in a relationship, to respect you, to be honest about himself and the way he feels.

If it's not making you happy, if you don't trust him, there's no real relationship and you're wasting your time. He's not going to change as long as you enable him to be immature. If you want to break up with him then break up with him and if he gets upset then he gets upset and he'll get over it. The fact that you're staying with him, to prevent him from getting upset, is kinda like a parent who spoils a child, giving him candy so he doesn't throw a tantrum. He needs to grow up.

Answer 4

He does love one person - himself. Your partner is on an ego-trip that will never end. I have , in my line of work, seen these kind of men, who actually believe that laws and moral standards are for everyone but themselves They love the excitement of nearly being caught, and are proud to get away with it, once more. Not only does he chase women on the nett to mail them. But I bet my last norwegian krone that he also looks up women on the who are on cam to strip for him, whilst he helps himself to whatever he is getting out of it. Many of these women even have the cam in their own home, where they have sex with their own man, while they love people watching from all over the globe. It is supposidly a big kick.. Your guy is addicted. Get rid of him. You have seen the signs. .

Answer 5

Sounds to me like he is indulging himself and not giving any consideration or having any awareness how these words and deeds will hurt you. Maybe he is simply incabable of making that kind of connection because in his eyes if nothing physical has taken place then nothing has happened......not true....what has happened he has hurt you and fails to ackowledge this. You have to present him with choices....so what ever choice he makes....he has been aware of teh consequence before hand. If it means that in the end...he chooses to end the relationship ...his choice by continuing with this immature sort of behaviour or change and actually listen to you.......his choice...but you have to bestrong in all of this.

Answer 6

now and lower back, distinctly once you're youthful, and God in common terms is conscious why, we in basic terms desire to pester! EVEN animals do it! We had a cat that used to freak out while yet another cat stricken her. It strengthen into weird and wonderful, because of the fact earlier this, all of them have been given alongside (we had 4). while the 1st cat observed her overreact, i assume she have been given a kick out of it and extra desirable her efforts! while the others observed this, they each, one via one, began doing the comparable, almost employing the undesirable cat loopy! all of them tormented her to verify her freak! So i assume it is not in common terms a human element.

Answer 7

No your not stuck go get new locks while he's gone change them put his crap out on the curb. He doen't love you. He doesn't know what love is. And little boy if your reading this as she can read your you better be glad its her and not me. Locking you out is nice compared to what I'd do to your lying butt.

Answer 8

because you allow him to treat you this way, when he goes out, hide his keys say you'll be in allday and that you will let him in and in that time pack his things and leave them on the doorstep! ring him, tell him how you want things or he don't get back in!...tell him it's 50/50 all the way or else! good luck x

Answer 9

Because you allow it to keep happening eveytime you allow him to stay after telling him to leave. You are the best thing that has happened to him because no one else would put up with this crap!

Answer 10

Change the bloody locks and leave his stuff on the step.

He keeps doing it because you are letting him,do something or this is your life forever.