Recenty my wife decide to get out of the marriage. i love her and our marriage. Should I roll over or fight?

Question

Should I roll over and give her, her ways or do I fight to keep things together. Things could out to turn out better. You know they say, if you want something bad. shoot for it, But what should I do,,,now she is starting to treat me like dirt now....

Answer 1

If she doesn't want to be there why make her stay? I wouldn't want to be in a marriage, where one partner was unhappy because I wouldn't let them go.

Answer 2

You should want to get married because you want to get married not because it seems to be what everyone else is doing. I would say at 35 years old and a 15 year long relationship you should be ready for marriage, but you still have a lot of growing up to do. Maybe it would be best if you took a break from this relationship, which must just be a habit by now, and work on improving yourself. Most importantly, don't have children until you can be a proper parent to them, even if this means you never have children. You shouldn't want children just because other people have them. Grow up already. ETA: juvegirl and jaded for Best Answer! Wow!

Answer 3

Here's a little rule of thumb when one partner is trying to leave a relationship that the other one really wants to hold onto. BACK OFF and give them some space. My best friend and I both went through this with our husbands, we were having a rough time with them and just wanted some space. The harder they pushed, the faster we ran. Nothing is less attractive on a man than pure grovelling. We want to respect our husbands and we want them to be strong. When we see them as weak, it can be a major turn off. I know it seems like a sick game, but we can't help what we feel. Give her some space, don't beg. Tell her you still care for her, but you can't stand by and let her hurt you, so you will give her the space she needs. That's all I needed from my husband, when it became clear that I could really lose him for good, I quickly realized that that was NOT what I truly wanted. If that doesn't work, you didn't stand a chance anyway. Please trust me on this.

Answer 4

she is prob treating you like dirt as a defense mechinasim
i say fight
you dont want to look back and think "oh i wonder if i tried harder"
that is the worst thing anyone can do
so i say fight
if she continues to be nasty then keep fighting make it clear that you are there and that you will fight for your marrage/relationship.
however if this does not work and you do not see any results over a period of time (period of time is up to you my friend) and she still treats you liek ****
then take the most from this experience
and her assets
show her that you are not weak
you dont want to be like milhouse's dad from the simpsons.... a loser
no
so fight
if that dosnt work
get a divorce and claim as much as you can wehn dividing the assets

hope this helps
good luck
god bless

Answer 5

If she's treating you like dirt, then it's best to let this one fly. If you walk away with out making a scene, perhaps she will figure out that you were the right one after all and come back to you. I know that it's hard, so try to keep your mind occupied. One should never play games when it comes to matters of the heart. Good Luck

Answer 6

This decision of hers did not suddenly materialize overnight . You should have been in there pitching from the beginning . If she is really fed up with the situation and you ,there is not much you can do .
I am reading between your lines as you are not very open with the reasons 'why' .
If you mean it with all your heart then tell her one more time to try again . Chances are she is beyond the point of reconciling.In that case back off .
I hope there are no children involved . If there are, please remember to stay in their lives and help support them faithfully . They do not deserve what they get .

Answer 7

Im sorry but i don't believe you should give up. Im not sure how long you've been married but you obviously love each other or you wouldn't be married. Maybe she just wants to see if you are willing to fight for her. You need to show her that you love her and your willing to go that extra mile for her. If she still wants to call it quits then thats on her, you did your best. But you have to try if not for her than for you. Do you think you could ever be ok knowing that you just let her go? Wouldn't you regret not doing something or would you regret not knowing?

Answer 8

Im not married but i would suggest that you fight for it.
Look,when you promised to love her thru thick and thin,when you popped the question and all that stuff.i guess you should think very hard before you make a dicision.She promised to be there for you and she's now doing this?Hell no.Fight for the love of your life.Go for a marriage councelling.Talk to her.I think thats it is tru talking that probs are resolved.Good luck

Answer 9

As we all know, Marriage takes A LOT of work from both people. In my opinion, I would fight for my marriage and know whole that if it doesn't work that I gave it everything I had to give. Best of luck to you.

Answer 10

All things considered, you may not have a choice. However, you didn't mention if you have children together. That changes everything. If you do, then you must find a way to work it out.

Answer 11

You love her right? So try to reason out with her why she hates you. If she doesn't like something in you, if you can change it, do try to. If she has found another guy don't hesitate break things off and move on. Or you can even try to blackmail her emotionally.