fiance slept with a woman & dont know what to do , been together 11 yrs?

Question

was in joburg 4 interview

Answer 1

time for the fiancee to GO!
sleeping with another is bad, and no love for you!

Answer 2

You have a fiance for 11 years? Some people don't stay married for 11 years. Did it ever occur to you that he is tired of you, and that he doesn't need you anymore .Why would you stay with someone who is not committed to you for 11 years/ And what makes you think that he has not slept with anyone else in all that time.? There is an old saying which you may not like, but is as true as the fact that the sun will rise tomorrow; "Why buy the cow, when the cow gives milk for free". You have been a convenience for this man for all these years, get out of a relationship in which a man shows you such little respect.

Answer 3

11 years is a long time, a lot to let go if this was a one time mistake. But, it was a pretty big mistake. I'm sure you've already asked him why he did it. You're probably wondering if it was the first time. It's going to be hard to trust him again if you decide to stay. What you have to figure out is, 1) do you want to give up the past 11 years, I mean how good were they, was it a great relationship... 2) can you forgive him.... 3) if you do, can you rebuild the trust.... 4) after you do the rebuilding would you have the strength to not throw it back in his face every time you argue. Best of luck to you, and I hope you make a decision based on your needs, not what everyone around you is saying.

Answer 4

Ask him what was the reason he did it. Sometimes it happens if there are so many problems beteen couples that they become distant and do not communicate very well and other options seems as agreat way how to comfort yourself. But he has no excuses anyway. If you are talking about getting married , then he suppose to be serious about you, but hurting you like that just seems that it wasn't genuine. Get yourself a new man, you have spent 11 years with your boyfriend and therefore he has no excuses treating you like that for your commitment and loyality. Mayve it is for better, because you will be able to have a better and fresh relationship with someone else. Let hime stay with another woman and you will see that you will be a winner and he will be a loser, because it looks like he is one of those who takes things for granted.

Answer 5

It hurts hurts hurts!But think about your 11 years commitment with him, ask him what is going to do.Cheaters if keep on committing the same mistake again and again do not deserve a second chance but what do you think of your man.Does he need one and will he not do it again.You have to ask him and see what he has in store for you.If everyone turn tables at cheaters, no one want to be forgivers and there will be alot of wreckage and heartbreaks in this society.Think and act.It is your life!

Answer 6

That is cheating and its shows he didnt cared about your feelings. There is no more trust left in your relationship and without that wonot ever be same. Get rid of him. Spartan

Answer 7

I doubt this was his first indiscretion after 11 years..he just got himself caught this time...dump him before it happens again.

Answer 8

dont see the problem, ive never been faithful to anyone, the only problem i can see is he got caught, for that alone he deserves a slap and to be dumped

Answer 9

You deserve more respect than that. If you stay, chances are it will happen again. and again. and again. "A leopard can't change it's spots".

Answer 10

i think i'll experiment what he did for myself to understand why he did that! get someone better than him for a one night stand and confess it to him too. eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth. grrr...