is sex with the ex a bad thing??? can it lead to a relationship? and why would he still want to sleep with me?? he said he still wants to sleep with me even if he sleeps with other ppl....why is this??he said he will be careful with other ppl but not me(meaning protection)why is this. i dont get it
2007-04-09 01:21:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's the human version of marking his territory. He doesn't want you to be with anyone else, yet he will be with other people. Don't ever trust a man who tells you this. He's better off being your ex.
It's just an ego trip.
2007-04-09 01:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sex with you is probably "better" than with the other women he sleeps with (if there really are any other women). Sex often gets better when you get to know someone, how they move, what they like and feel more comfortable with them.
To (many) men sex is sometimes primarily a physical thing, sometimes primarily an emotional thing, and sometimes both together. In this case it could be any of the above. It could be that he just finds you extremely attractive and really good in bed and nothing more, or he might still have some feelings but be afraid of commitment or something.
It is not neccessarily a bad thing. If you enjoy sleeping with him and don't think any associated "emotional baggage" will bother you too much, then go ahead, but _by all means_ use protection. You definitely don't want to get pregnant under such circumstances, and I wouldn't trust him to definitely not pick up any diseases elsewhere.
As to whether it can lead to relationship, it is possible, but expecting it to (or even just really hoping) is a recipe for disappointment.
Good Luck.
2007-04-09 01:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by SpaceSquirrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the hard core truth. Sorry. First of all, if he wanted you he would have stayed and he didn't. No relationship involved here. Wants cake and eat it too. Uses no protection? My gosh---not a good thing. He does not want you the way a man should want a woman. You need to dump him and find someone who is deserving of you and beleive me he is out there. Don't put yourself in a situation where it will be difficult to get out of. He is the type of man that brags about how good he is and does it because he can. Not worth it. Just say no and seek the one for you. The words he says to you are just words--no feelings.
2007-04-09 01:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering a relationship is based on commitment and trust and being faithfull then NO sleeping with him won't lead to getting back together. By continuely sleeping with him you are give him what he wants and letting him you are okay that he is sleeping with other people, why would he ever want to stop having everything to go back into a relationship. It sounds like he still has feelings for you and maybe even wants to be with you but also wants to get out there and enjoy his freedom. Don't sleep with him, if he wants you he has to take the whole commitment package, he will think a lot less of you if you do sleep together and that will definately lessen your chances of geting back together.
2007-04-09 01:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to wear a condom with you then I would worry especially if he is having sex with other people. If he is trying to have sex with as many people as he can then he is not someone to have a serious relationship with. IF all you want is cheap meaningless sex sex then this is the guy for you but you are letting him walk all over you. I would suggest stop seeing this guy if only because his sex habits are dangerous for you and you don't want to catch a disease and/or get pregnant, especially when you can't count on the guy to be there for you. Once you got sick or pregnant he probably wouldn't find you the convenient lay that you are currently making yourself. I think you should suck it up and cut him off then find someone who will appreciate bieing just with you... someone who won't get yo udiseased and who won't openly cheat on you. Isn't that what you want???
2007-04-09 01:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by Don Quesadia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex came back asking for more and in no uncertain terms I told him where to put it.
To me intercourse is not just about the sweat and rutting it's about a deep emotional connection that is a commitment to each other from heart, body and soul.
Why in hells name would I want to share that with someone who obviously doesn't want to be with me anymore and has proven this by sleeping with other people.
Consider how just sleeping with him would make you feel emotionally. Is this feeling worth it everytime he walks away or are you better off finding someone who will give you their heart forever.
2007-04-09 01:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be great in bed! Maybe he is judging all his sacktime playmates by the one he considers the best - YOU!
If he pleases you, go for it! Use him for your pleasure... Whatta a deal - a little (or a lot) fun with no attachment...
Only problem - doing it with others - will he use protection? Some risk there if he doesn't coverup with you.
2007-04-09 01:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by sAm cbt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
USE PROTECTION if he will have sex with an ex...then use protection..it only takes once to get a disease..i got the (lice) off of my ex...it took a lot of KWELL (doctor script) to get rid of these...ewww
well, don't get burned but go for it but be prepared to suffer the consequences..you have much to lose but a guy will have his jollies...i know i did...but the bugs sure cured me of her..lol
2007-04-09 01:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Means he thinks you are such a schmuck that you will be exclusively his while he plays the field. That really is silly and I don't think I would trust him to be having safe sex with anyone. A guy that will lie to you will lie to them. Careful guys like that are always giving nice girls like you stuff that won't wash off.
2007-04-09 01:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sorry darls but i gotta agree with alot of the other answers here. he wants his cake and eat it too. also knowing that your there at his beckoned call is a real ego trip for him. turn the tables and see if he would like the same treatment. i think not. we all have choices in this world. don't let him do your head in.
2007-04-09 02:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by jane d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋