Is it ok to remove a wedding ring at night (my wife disagrees)?

Question

I remove my watch and wedding ring when going to bed but my wife says she feels insulted that I am taking the ring off. Any thoughts on this?

Answer 1

tell her to chill

u want to take it off
with ur watch

cz it feeeels more comfortable for youuuuuuu

tell her you feel insulted that she does not care how comfortable you are!!

Answer 2

When my wife and I first got married, my wife removed her wedding ring every night. I told her that I did not remove mine and she said that she was worried that her ring might break or get dirty during the night.

Eventually she decided to wear her ring all the time. She realized that the ring was not going to break or get dirty while she was sleeping.

If you have always removed your jewelry every night, that would be normal for you. There are many people who do that. Why people remove their jewelry, I do not know.

In answer to your question, while I do not know why anyone feels the need to remove their jewelry, there is nothing insulting or wrong about removing your wedding ring at bedtime.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 3

Obviously the wedding ring is a major important factor for your wife and is a symbol of your committment and vows you took on your wedding day. Why do you take it off at night? Are you worried your finger is going to swell up or something? Try and talk to your wife and reassure her that you are not insulting her by not wearing your ring at night, and see if that helps. If not you are both going to have to come to a compromise,if thats possible

Answer 4

Your wife should grow up and stop using emotional blackmail against you, to get her way, by saying she feels 'insulted'.
Many people take off their wedding rings for one reason or another at various times.
I had to take my own wedding ring off when I was pregnant or put on weight throughout various times of my life, that doesn't in any way mean I thought any less of my husband or marriage vows and what our rings symbolised. That is what a wedding ring is, it is a symbol, and does not in any way reflect on the character of the person wearing it or not wearing it.
Other people choose not to wear any wedding ring at all although they are still married.

What to me is and even bigger problem, are those who keep their wedding ring ON (or off) when bedding someone other than their spouse!

Answer 5

I feel it is understandable to remove jewelry before bed (for comfort) in the same way we remove clothing. I take my wedding rings off all of the time for various reasons. Ring or no ring, you are still married. The ring is only a symbol. In addition, just imagine the bacteria that would harbor in your ring from never removing it to at least clean it occasionally.

Answer 6

A wedding ring symbolizes love for one another. I too disagree with you for taking it off at any time but I don't really know the situation. Why do you take it off at night?????? I don't think there is any excuse to take off your wedding ring. That is saying you are breaking the marriage vows to me. For me a Wedding Ring is a very sacred thing.

Answer 7

tell your wife that you are only removing the ring that you are still there with and for her...some people take there rings off some people don't.as far as her being insulted about it.she takes her earrings out before she goes to bed i'm sure. and they are probably the ones you bought her.it is trivial.my mother and father have been married for55 years and my dad takes his watch and rings off every night,I've been married for4 years and i don't take my ring off at all so it really doesn't matter.your not taking your heart out of the marrige ,there are a million more things to worry about than that.. good luck. sounds like you will need it

Answer 8

I assume you're like me, that at night it's uncomfortable to wear the ring and makes it harder for you to sleep. There's nothing wrong with wanting to take the ring off under those circumstances.

I'd tell her that you'll keep it on for her sake but are uncomfortable with the thought that she would rather you sleep in discomfort than simply trust and accept that you taking off the ring is not some form of disrespect to the marriage.

You should also express to her that you are hurt that she took offense to something so innocuous that was clearly not intended to offend, and if I were you I'd take her to task on whether I can expect her to always take offense when it's not intended.

Best of luck

Answer 9

I think there would be a problem if you took it off while at work or not at home. I don't think she should have a problem if you take off your ring while sleeping next to HER. I would explain that it is a comfort issue for you and you are in no way trying to be disrespectful. A ring is only a symbol, it is a metaphor. It's not like your vows become void when you take a ring off.

Answer 10

I'm happy for both of you's...lol

If thats the only thing to worry about or be insulted about within your marraige, good luck to ya both.

On or off when going to bed depends on the individual habits of the person involved. A wedding ring is more than a piece of jewellery and a person doesn't have to be wearing it to hold deeply what it stands for etc etc

To really give her something to worry about you should demand that she wears all the jewellery and clothes etc that you've ever bought her to bed...LOL

Answer 11

Its fine to remove it as long as it's only in bed with your wife. Fingers swell at night so the ring may be uncomfortable etc but if you take it off on nights out or at work she might think you're looking to cheat.