I used to be in a lesbian relationship last time until my ex gf broke up with me. That left me a really deep wound in my heart and even after 4 months, I still feel heartbroken and hurt. She made me promised a day after we broke up not to tell anyone not even my family that we were a couple. So now she has a bf ( she dumped me cos she was with him and also cos she's scared of coming out). The truth is i'm really really hurting inside and i feel like there's nothing i can do but keep things inside me since i can't talk it out with anyone not even my mom. Sometimes i feel like committing suicide cos the pain is overwhelming. She's out there enjoying herself while my heart is crying for her every day. Now i'm thinking of talking things out with my mom so that I can calm myself down. So should i write my ex a message to ask if i can tell my mom about our past or just go ahead without asking her? Me and my ex haven't spoken to each other since we broke up, even if we're classmates...
2007-04-09 00:46:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I've been exactly where you are now, and even now I remember just how badly it hurt at the time. I know it hurts like hell now and you probably feel like you're never going to feel happy again, or fall in love again with someone else. But you will. I know it's easy for me to say, but I'm living proof that time really is the great healer of the cliches.
As to whether you should ask this girl her permission - NO! You owe her nothing, frankly. She has treated you like dirt, hurt you, left you for a bloke, and she must know you have no support and no-one you can talk to about this. It was selfish and cowardly of her to make you promise that.
Do talk to your mum. You need to do what is best for you. And if you need anyone to talk to over email if you feel bad, you can mail me, ok?
Chin up - it'll get better. I promise.
2007-04-09 01:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Wild About Harry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't hurt any animal because it is wrong. it is illegal. Everything has feelings, and beating up a animal is wasting your time because it is cruel and it doesn't do anything positive. Hurting anyone doesn't keep the world a better place, and that is what almost everyone wants. Beating up a dog is the same thing as beating up a child. How would you feel if you were hurt by someone and could scream in pain or call 911 because you don't have apposable thumbs? When you beat someone up, you will end up in jail or with bad memories, so either way its bad...... it sounds like a homework question..but glad i could be of assistance!
2016-05-20 22:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not her choice if you tell your mom or not. Also if you are still hurting, you need to talk to your ex. and get at the least closure. But I do know how u feel. My ex girlfriend still has a part of my heart. But I have gotten used to her and me not going out anymore. You can take my advice but you should really do what you think is best.
2007-04-09 02:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by sex-goddess-bigothgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT consult your ex over this matter it has nothing to do with her now. You're not in a relationship with her; I get the feeling you're using the 'Should I write my ex a message' as an excuse to be able to talk to her. This is not the way to go.
Keep your chin up, and move on. Tell your Mam if you need too - but don't be held backwards and live in your ex's shadow. There's nothing worse than that.
You'll move on... it happens.
Good luck
2007-04-09 01:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by uklovesusa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex has no control over what you do. It's a big decision to tell your mother, she may not take it well and may even disown you. Be aware of the consequences for you and your ex. If you feel you have to do it, then do it.
You could always go to a confession box and tell a priest or phone the Samaritans if you want someone to listen to you.
2007-04-09 00:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with yourself is a great thing, and you're managing that by the looks of it... Well done you !!
It's a sad fact that not everyone, no matter how strongly we feel about them can be so honest with themselves, and that seems to be the situation your ex is in, sadly I dont think it's going to change in the immediate future, so please dont waste any other oppertunitys (you live in a world full of beautifull people) by looking only at the unnatainable and nowhere else.
Talking to your mum.... No one need's anyones permission to talk to anyone else, least of all thier own mum ! if mum's understanding, and you can talk to her.... then talk... talk untill youre blue in the mouth ! (it's what mum's are for).
2007-04-09 20:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She dumped you...and is being dishonest. Why should you keep faith with a person who never kept any with you? Talk to your mom. You need help and support now; look after yourself. She'll be fine, she's out for what's best for her. Do likewise.
2007-04-09 01:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by anna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart your pain will pass, believe me. please don't think about suicide, it leaves to much heartache behind. call a helpline like the Samaritans and talk to someone on there. personally i would tell your mum. it may come as a shock, but she will be there for you and put her comforting arms around you. if you feel you cant do this then confide in a teacher you feel comfortable with. it will get better for you but only if you let it. good luck x
2007-04-09 00:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by val f1 nutter 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
take care of yourself sounds like she is taking care of herself sometimes moms are hard to talk to but the best to to is just talk to her she will understand. If my daughter had this trouble we would talk to her about it all she wants so that she would not have to keep nothing inside talking makes you much more happy some parents are hard to understand but my kids now that the can talk to me or there mom about whatever they want because sometimes its easyer to talk to there father and others to there mother.
2007-04-09 01:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by mike73 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to ask permission to tell your mum,you aren't in a relationship with this girl anymore so she has no influence on your life. Just ask you mum to keep what you tell her to herself. You obviously need to chat to someone so don't let your stupid ex stop you!
2007-04-09 00:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Bridgeridoo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋