My husband and I decided to get separated 2 weeks ago.We fight all the time and he refuses to try and get counseling,says he does not want to compromise with me on anything,wants everything to be his way and I should just go back to the states.He is in the Army and we had to move to Germany.Anyway,all this paperwork and clearing out of the house and stuff is going to take at least another several weeks,oh yeah and there is the car,the dogs, the plane tickets.Right now we just kinda ignore each other 24/7 and sleep in seperate beds.I feel like he has it easier than me because he has his coworkers to talk to,he goes to work,and then he comes home and is consumed by his World of Warcraft game.But like right now he is gone somewhere with his friend.What am I supposed to do?I am soooo bored and lonely,any ideas?I need to get out of the house,but I don't know where to go;if I were in the states I might see a movie or go to the mall, but I'm not.....any suggestions would be great. :(
2007-04-09 00:42:10 · 15 answers · asked by Courtney 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. It must be just awful having to live with someone that you are not speaking to and that you had feelings for (and maybe still do). Also being stuck in a different country probably makes things emotionally worse as well. Do you have any friends or family you can chat with online, or see over a webcam?? I know this is really hard and probably will be until you both are not in the same house anymore and when you are back in the states where you may feel more comfortable. Can you rent movies?? May god give you inner peace during this emotional time. It WILL get better. God bless.
2007-04-09 00:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an Ex Serviceman, and Army brat who lived abroad in Heidelberg and Mannheim I can see how lonely you could be.
I think its best for you to pack up what you think is essential and ship it back to the US. Then in the next couple weeks head back home to stay with relatives. You can get all that is coming to you later on when the divorce is finalized.
Also, the separation may allow for time to mend the marriage if that is possible.
2007-04-09 00:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by jamonit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you have any friends over in Germany that you could ask to go out and do something with for awhile.You could also go to a tour place and get info on places to go see and go to some gifts shops or something.I know the feeling i have been living like this for a year now and i feel stuck.Feel free to email me or IM me through yahoo messenger if you would like to chat.harleybytch33@yahoo.com and harleybytch33 is my yahoo screen name.
2007-04-09 06:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you chat online on the computer?Rent some movies-you must be able to over there.Have they got cinemas where you can see a movie?Read a book. Start packing your stuff ready to go back to the States.I pray thatyou will find inner peace.
2007-04-09 01:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't there any other American wives around that you could hang out with? I would assume your in military housing, therefore there should be other Americans close to you, how about getting a job on the base, that would help with getting to know people and help with getting you out.
Hope this helps.
2007-04-09 00:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't understand why you're wasting you time with someone that acts like that. Go out and find a man that truly cares for you. Remember, only you can make yourself happy. Good luck.
2007-04-09 01:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to his Seargeant about it.
They have counselors and ministers on board.
Counselors can direct you to local groups, like community centers where they offer lonely people to come and meet and find a life.
Join a group today!
2007-04-09 01:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that is you in the picture all i got to say is he's an idiot,now iv'e been to germany and i know they have many clubs and movie houses to go to.instead of worrying about who to talk to just get your stuff and get the hell outta there becuase it sounds to me that he don't care and he is probably seeing someone else.ignoring himm isin't going to make the problem go away so if you two are truly done screwing each others lives up then you need to leave and let him suffer. good luck
2007-04-09 00:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by mybaby_poohbear 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, tough one. Sounds like what my ex and I went through except we live in the states. Not an expert on relationships myself but more details are needed on your marriage. Is it hopeless, unfixable, or do you have no interest in fixing it?
2007-04-09 00:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow rules start a char with him at least u will be together in the digital world
2007-04-09 16:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Discohugworm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋