my mom died almost two years ago, this is really weird? need advice ASAP!!!?

Question

i have never really been one to really lose it, i dont ever remember sobbing, other then tonight. like, never. my mom died august 28,2005, and i cried, but i never really lost it, you get what i mean. all of a sudden i was watching an eminem music video (like toy soldiers) and i was sobbing so bad that i fell off of my chair, what is going on?

the point is, i havent cried like this before, not even the day she died

i mean, the video was sad and all, but it had nothing, NOTHING to do with my mom and what she died from!! i feel like im going insane!!!

Answer 1

you were holding back for too long and your body finally decided enough was enough. you had to vent emotionally to survive mentally

Answer 2

Have your family members copy all the photographs they have of her. Put them in a scrapbook, and label them very descriptively, putting in remarks such as this photo is during summer vacation in Florida while I was 7. The mind fades the memories a little every day, as a way to help us get over the grief. In the process, we also lose some good memories. It will also get harder to dream about her. Realize that your mom would want you to be happy, and although it's wonderful to be remembered, she would want you to live every day to it's fullest, and learn from this experience. You never know when someone will leave us on this earth, and never leave someone fighting, always do good, so if you are gone tomorrow, you'll leave behind good memories, and always tell those you love, that you do love them, so they'll always be able to remember. Good luck, and your mom was very lucky to have a child like you!

Answer 3

Very normal. Mothers are so much a part of our being what we are, that anything can bring a crying spell on. I still cry. It has been since 1994. Reality finally struck you. Everyone does not let it hit them immediately. Some people try to block their feelings, so that they don't release the pain. You have held it in a long time. Have a good cry every now and then. It is not a sign of weakness to cry. Everyone does it whether they allow you to see it or not!!

I truly know your pain.

Answer 4

Bin there done it. Some time something will trigger you about some thing you saw our heard will make you think of your Mother and the thing she did for you it's never to late to cry it help you get your feelings out in the open and get stress out that is the worst thing you can do to yourself let the tears go . Do you have someone that you can talk to (family,friend,priest) if so talk to them and get help to let those feelings out and to understand why you are doing the crying now . ps I have loss both parents in the last years.

Answer 5

Grief comes in strange ways. I still cry over my grandfather's death that happened almost 2 and a half years ago. It's alright, but if it continues for over a week, get a reference to a psycologist or counselor. They are the best people to share your grievings to and can help you get through tough times like this.

Answer 6

Sometimes it takes a long time for grief to really hit us, there is not a "correct" time frame for this to occur or a correct moment. It can just finally come to us from what seems out of the blue. Give yourself a break and i'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

It's o.k. you needed to do that,none of us want to deal with the grieving process when someone we love has died,we would rather stuff it,because dealing with it is so traumatic,that sometimes we just cant...deal with anything.I'm one of those people.It would be good if you could look into some kind of grief support group,that helps you cope with the death of a loved one and helps you to get thru the grieving process,because as painful as it is,we have to do it,to move on in life,your not alone,I'm really sorry.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

hey...its ok. its normal. keep crying, let it all out! i still have my mom, barely, but even though we dont talk much when she dies, its gonna be almost unbearable on me. shes the only one whos birthdays closest to mine, shes january 19, im the 20th. well, eminem raps a lot about problems with his mom, and it probably just now hit you that she physically left her body. sometimes it takes a while for you to fully miss somebody unconsciously. its normal, and its going to be very hard...i wish i could sugarcoat, but i cant. but i got one thing to tell you...your mom loves you, even now that you cant see her, take the memories with her, live by her advise, and wherever ur mom is, shes reaching out to you this very moment. dont let go, and dont loose hope. i dont know your mom, but for you to really miss her that tells me a lot that shes a good person. its ok to cry, and its normal that it took this long to miss her. u really miss her, and now she sees that, so shes still with you spiritually, sitting next to you with a warm hug...ur mom will spiritually never leave your side! and its the warm hearted spirit that counts!

Answer 10

Normal, my mum died 18 years ago, and I still cry sometimes. Few things trigger this, maybe something that makes me remember of her and do on. Do not worry about it, she was part of your life and it is OK to cry.

Answer 11

In the beginning we usually try to deny or avoid our biggest hurts. You often see it creep up later. No big deal, feelings are good, even if it is sadness. Feelings keep us grounded and sane.